littlesiss004 is offline littlesiss004 Post #1  February 25,2010, 5:47am
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I was wondering if anyone has had a bad experience with a date. I met this guy and we communicated going through the steps. We exchanged numbers and talked almost daily. He seemed like a great guy and dad. I read his profile where he stated he was honest,sincere,dedicated well you get the story. Anyway we wanted to meet but he raised his two girls so I agreeded to go to his area since we were distance away. I drove to his area and got a hotel. I was scheduled to stay for 3 days so we could have time to see if we were a match. Day 1 went well or so I thought. We talked and had a good time. Day 2 I get a call saying sorry I can't come due to my daughter being sick. I was concerned for his daughter not myself and was fine with his having to take care of her.During the day I called to see how things were going. No answer all day. I used the hotel phone to call and guess what He answers. He states that he has been sick all day and in the same sentence says its not gonna work. I was like what ?? Anyway so here I am stuck in this hotel hours from home so I decide to cut my stay and just go home. The horror comes when while driving my car began acting up. I called him asking for advice Umm no answer. I continue to drive since I am on a back road hoping things are okay. Well it wasnt okay and my car broke down. I called him at his home phone thinking okay he said he was sick so maybe his cell was turned off. I begged and cried for help as I am on this two lane back road in the middle of nowhere with nothing around. Guess what ?? My call was ignored. I was so scarred and did not know what to do. I got help and got my car fixed. Sorry but if someone is truely in need of help and calls out any human being would reach out and help them not treat them like a dog that is just not right.To make things even worse when I checked my account the guy closed communication. He never even contacted me asking if I made it home safely and yes I was 6 1/2 hours from home. Now I am so unsure if I should keep the account open.I am not a one night stand or someone who uses people. I am honest and upfront leaving nothing secret. I honestly dont know what to do and have decided maybe it is not for me.Yes, when I got home I felt the need to let him know I was honest with my pleas so I scanned and emailed him the bill. I dont understand why someone would treat someone who drove 6 1/2 hrs to meet them I mean if its not there you can at least be friends but to leave someone stranded thats insane
 
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Don't let the actions of this one jerk make you take your eyes off your goal.

I think we have all had dating horror stories, although I don't believe any of mine top what you went through.
 
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You drove 6-1/2 hours to meet someone for the first time? My advice is not to make that choice again with anyone. My second piece of advice is to join AAA. You don't want to be in the position where car problems put you at risk.

I think you need to ask yourself how well you're looking out for your own best interests. It doesn't seem to me that you are.

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Thank You for your advice, Beaner the reason why I agreeded to drive is because he is raising his daughters alone and could not leave. I love road trips and had drill that weekend so I figured it would be great to take a road trip,and see sights I have not seen before. I agree with you AAA is in my future. I do have a GPS but for some reason on that road it acts up and since I was stationary it could not correct itself I had the same trouble going up there on the same road.I also agree I did not think twice and will not only think twice but three and four times in the future. I had run a background check with nothing comming up so his story checked out.
 
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If a man is involved sincerely in the process of dating, ie. has joined some type of dating service, he cannot reasonably expect his dates to come to him. It doesn't matter if he has children. Meeting in the middle is as far as you should be willing to go in my opinion.

I don't say this as a criticism of you. I say it as my opinion since you asked. I also say it as someone who survived a bad marriage (which I got into too quickly) to a narcisist. It took me too long to figure it out, and it almost destroyed me. I hate the idea of others be played, used, or manipulated. I will never accept that type of treatment again.

Take the very best care of yourself!
 
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