Davidpw is offline Davidpw Post #11  April 3,2010, 7:22pm
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It makes the man feel as though he "still has it". For me, I am 44 in all truth last year I dated a 25 year old for a few months. We both used each other, I was divorced for a couple months and new in town, and she was just getting divorced. Both our spouses had cheated on us. Having company for me was a good thing. I was completely alone and she helped me not feel alone. We went to dinner and just hung out. It was a transition for me that helped me feel not so rotten about being rejected after 16 years of marriage. I was amazed that this beautiful 25 year old woman would even be attracted to me. I was a decent looking man when I was younger, but thought I was no longer appealing to women. My ex met an ugly guy with money and that was what she wanted. She is 40 and he must be around 56 - 60. It is not just 40 something men there are also older women who like younger men you know. The term "boy toy" ring a bell?
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some i think r scared of not being needed a much younger girl might seem energizing until she needs more. it wont last. older means running out of energy sooner.and being younger means go go go
 
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Hi TrulyLisa,

Just the way you are, im sure still thousand of mature and older guy out there for us.
And for those man what they are chasing its only temporary hanky panky, feelin' like a wild horsey..then will come the time when they feel tired and need their own track back., , what we need is somebody to grow old together and rich with the value of life.
 
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no, its not just you...ive encountered the same, i actually had a match say that he wanted a "petite" woman not 5' 150# bc that's just fat...i replied i hope he likes eharmony bc he's gonna be there for a very long time!!!! i dont get why men can judge a woman by their size, i dont hear womanbeing that superficial toward men...i guess we think with our minds not with our______s!!!
 
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I just conducted a sociological experimetn on exactly this! I got tired of my girlfriends asking why don't you date.... so we did a girls night and I had them observe. Now I don't mean to sound vain but if the 20 somethings are still asking me out I don't look to bad.... right? So we planted our seats and observed it was quite the night for bachelors, right after a game at a sports bar so were talking LOADED with 30 and 40 somethings and out number us greatly. It didn't take long for them to agree and understand completely.... 90 % the men my age ONLY look at the barley legal!!! So men what do ya say? Now this experiment was two part. Two hours into this night I called my 23 year old ex bf to come visit..... WOW once he was paying attention then the men started their flirting... odd I looked the same as I had the two hours before. So to answer the question.... IT IS NOT JUST YOU!
 
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Men want young ladies, women want rich men, we all have issues me thinks. lol
 
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It's not just you . . . For obvious reasons, many men seem to think that younger=better . . kinda like upgrading a computer from version 1.0 to version 2.0; but what most men fail to realize is that the older woman (and I use that term loosely) ... wait .... let me rephrase: What most men fail to realize is that the woman of his own age can offer a wider perspective on issues which coincide with his own life experiences.
I mean really .... a 50 year old and 21 year old?? How can a 21 year old provide relative and meaningful commentary on any events, books, games, social events of the 1970's? For experimental purposes, just ask the bold and the beautiful 20 somethings about George Wallace, Jonathan Livingston Seagull, odd-even days at the gas station ... the list can go on . . .

There is something to be said about commonality, which is why age, in my opinion, matters.
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It's not just you . . . For obvious reasons, many men seem to think that younger=better . . kinda like upgrading a computer from version 1.0 to version 2.0; but what most men fail to realize is that the older woman (and I use that term loosely) ... wait .... let me rephrase: What most men fail to realize is that the woman of his own age can offer a wider perspective on issues which coincide with his own life experiences.
I mean really .... a 50 year old and 21 year old?? How can a 21 year old provide relative and meaningful commentary on any events, books, games, social events of the 1970's? For experimental purposes, just ask the bold and the beautiful 20 somethings about George Wallace, Jonathan Livingston Seagull, odd-even days at the gas station ... the list can go on . . .

There is something to be said about commonality, which is why age, in my opinion, matters.
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As an extremely high energy 50 year old, it is difficult to find a woman my age with a matching energy level. I am very interested in finding someone close to my age with somewhere close to my energy level. Most of the women I find even on EH have lost their zest for life and are content with a comfortable, known life. Even those who claim to have a zest for life turn out to spend most of their time in calm, and from my perspective, boring activites. Watching movies all day Saturday is not exciting or exploring life.

It is quite a conundrum. My choices seem to be date within my age group where I share a lot of life experiences; or date a younger woman where I don't have so much in common except for our desire to explore new experiences.

I'm not ready to give up exploring this journey we call life. Why do I have to settle for a woman my age that has accepted a known comfort zone and won't stray from its boundaries?
 
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I know what you mean. I think I am well a fairly attractive woman in my 40's. It does appear like the 40 something men are just not interested. Like one the others stated posted here. I thought I could meet someone w/ eh, but I agree when my time is up my time is up. Good luck to all. Maybe we just need to trip one of those guys at the mall when we are out shopping, or hang out the golf course. We would probably have better luck there.
 
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