Why am I getting older but my taste in men isn't?


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a_good_man is offline a_good_man Post #11  April 4,2010, 10:49pm
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It's a generational thing. Younger guys have been taught and think like feminists. I'm in the 40s and can still act like a kid I find many women my age can no longer smile or laugh. But I don't date younger women.

I'm a role model to them, not a sex fiend.



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So here I am single and 44. I have been single for about 12 years and have dated a lot of men over the years and for the life of me I can't figure out - Why is it that I am still looking at the 30 year olds???

I have made every effort to date guys my own age (even raised to age limit on my eHarmony profile LOL). Even though I have gone out on dates with them, I just feel they are sooo much older than I am. My longest relationships have been with the men in their 30's. But I have ended them because of the age difference!

Believe me, I am not delusional - I know I am 44. I may not look my age, but I do know I am 44. I love the outdoors and I am in a couple of groups (Jeep Club and a volunteer emergency responder) and all the men are mostly in their 30's. We have a blast together!

Should I just forgot my hang ups and give into the 30 year olds?!?!
 
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I know what you mean! I was on vacation a couple of years ago in Scotland, and I was checking out the fellas while I was in a pub, and then realized I was almost old enough to be their MOM!!! OMG - then I realized that I still feel like I'm 25, which is why I look at the younger men. Though, honestly, I really enjoying the "silver foxes" as well.

Maybe it's because I remember being 20 and thinking that 40 was over the hill - of course, that's not true, but it could explain lusting after younger men. Then again - lust really needs no explanation...

So, I don't know, I find that I enjoy the company of younger people because, as I told my 20 year old niece, "you haven't yet been jaded by life, and I find that refreshing". I. Just. Can't. Help. Myself.

Of course, I can be terribly immature, whatever that means.
 
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patthekat is offline patthekat Post #13  June 27,2010, 2:17pm
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Boy can I relate to this discussion. I am 59 yet my maturity level is somewhere back in my 30's. I only want to date younger guys (40's-50's) and, although some of them are attracted to me, all they want is sex, thinking that older women are more experienced. Hahahahahaha!

I grew up without a father but, surprisingly, I'm not looking for a father figure. My brothers were 15-22 years older than me so I have never had a close relationship with a man, except for one, and we were together 6 years. He was younger than I was.

So, ladies, what do we do? I want a substantive relationship, not a roll in the hay. I have equipment to take care of that!
 
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ter001 is offline ter001 Post #14  June 27,2010, 5:16pm
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I kind of know what you mean. I have this big age issue when it comes to men. They must be the same age as me or very, very close. I can't handle men older than me or younger for some reason. I am 49 myself, and really do not see 49 when I look in the mirror. But when I am on the eharmony or other sites, and even in public the men that come up around my age they look so old or like they just don't take good care of themselves. I don't know why it bothers me so bad. I am trying to lighten up a bit, and I have even been trying to extend my thoughts to 3 or 4 years older than myself, but for some reason I just can't go that much younger. Anyway back to the issue at hand. I guess if you like to have a young man, then go for it. Have a good day!
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ter001 is offline ter001 Post #15  June 28,2010, 4:09pm
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So far I have to say the is best part of eH. The only solid communication I have even seen. Anyway what is the solution to the predicament of men not fitting into our world. A world ofwhat I thought weren't to many obstacles or requirements for a man to have to somewhat appeal too into order for me to have any interest. Then does that mean I or the others communicating we hold to many restrictions or are our expectations way out of reach? I still believe what I want in a man is not to realistic. Men would be doing the same. In fact I have seen them write that she has to be pretty, attractive, not needy to mention of a few of them. So men aren't any different either. But all in all I am ready for a relationship..what about you? So, do we lighten up or what? What do you think?
 
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You gotta find your comfort zone. It's a personal decision. Personally, I'm comfortable going up or down a decade, but He better be a YOUNG 55 if he's dating me
 
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I was married to someone 12 years younger then me for 10 years. I also do not look my age. I am young at heart in attitude etc.. but, i tell you i will never do it again. The gap in between, the maturity level differences just is difficult to live with. Plus he was a bi polar OCD pathological narcisstic cop. Well that did not help matters at all! Needless to say he was violent and angry and obsessed with dark porno, he was harassing me from the squad for no reason, he was in a very dark place at the end of our marriage. Never did i ever feel so inadequate with anyone as i did with him. Not every situation is like mine but, if you go that route make sure you date steady for over 2 years and make sure you watch how he treats his mother. The best advice i was given becouse looking back, this man had no respect for anyone or anything, EXCEPT for me UNTIL the marriage. After that it was all downhill as far as abuse etc... goes.
 
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30's don't do it for me, they are still pretty immature to me. But my husband (I'm a widow) was seven years younger and we got along incredibly well - no feeling of age differences at all (25/32 when we met).

I can go up or down a decade also, because all guys in their 50's aren't 'old' acting either, just like we aren't. I'm looking for a fun and interesting attitude, and a lot of guys I know in my age group are just brutally bitter, and not just about relationships, just life in general, which is a big turn-off to me. The other ones are in mid-life crisis mode and want 30 year olds or younger If you get along well with someone, it really shouldn't matter what their age is as long as you and they are comfortable with the relationship, especially looking forward to the future. Since women generally live longer than men, it's a little scary for me to consider possibly losing another spouse simply because they are a lot older than I am

Just my 2 shekels worth!

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Glad someone posted this! I find myself attracted to a younger man as well....
Seems like the men my age "ACT OLD"... But I would have to agree that many woman my age "ACT OLD" as well.

I believe it is all about the INDIVIDUAL and their PERSONALITY!
 
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