irishcharmer62 is offline irishcharmer62 Post #61  January 23,2009, 5:45pm
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I know a couple of nice guys in their 30s that have asked me out ... but I'm ten years older. Can't have kids and ... I just think they are too young. You know? I figure they will want to set up house and home and add to their families ... and I'm (and I am just saying ME) too old for that. The old girlfriend of one of them was 25 ... and I keep thinking "I'm going to introduce what 20 years does to a body? Uh uh." Plus, they text all the time. That just makes me crazy ... I don't have thumbs that can keep up with them ... I'm just an ole girl that uses the phone ... for TALKING. *sigh*
I'm feeling you...I'm 46, my kids are grown and out of the house...I'm still in shape for 46, but the body is not that of some young girl in her 20's...don't guy's know that a mature women is like a fine bottle of wine...we only get better with time
 
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I'm feeling you...I'm 46, my kids are grown and out of the house...I'm still in shape for 46, but the body is not that of some young girl in her 20's...don't guy's know that a mature women is like a fine bottle of wine...we only get better with time[/quote]

I wine I believe. I'm just not sure about the jugs. lol.
 
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It all depends on money. If you date a much younger woman then there is that whole time clock ticking bit and the cha ching rings loud and long. Now if you are a woman and self posessed, you know, the kind who has all her stuff lifted and tightened AND cheap, well, then you date someone ten years older and by comparison you look GREAT!
 
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I'm feeling you...I'm 46, my kids are grown and out of the house...I'm still in shape for 46, but the body is not that of some young girl in her 20's...don't guy's know that a mature women is like a fine bottle of wine...we only get better with time


I wine I believe. I'm just not sure about the jugs. lol.[/quote]

Heard that...but give them 2-3-4 kids later...everything goes south (LOL) I live in S. Florida
 
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I guess that I am not working at this in the right way... I have not been trying to come up with a list to run down so that I color my profile in a way that might mislead someone (mainly myself). My biggest stumbling block, I believe is my activity level. I walked away from a 20 year marriage almost 2 years ago (July). We had simply grown apart. I have always been an athletic competitor and while I don't watch sports on TV I will grapple with any physical challenge or adventure that crosses my path. I am an avid 2's and 6's volleyball player. I coach in 5 different organizations and play competitively as well. I have not "curbed my enthusiasm". My 17 year old daughter, Meghas been my true traveling companion and best buddyfor the last 5 years as myex-wife would do the beach or the spa on the cruise ship ( and she looked fabulous doing it) while Meg and I dangled from tree top cable rides, scuba dived, did horseback rides or hit the sand court for a doubles tournament. I just want to run into someone that still shares my passion for invigorating activity.... it feels hopeless based on the first 50 matches. I have started communications with over 1/2 andmost after the questions exchange"closed the match". These have been, for the majority, no photo's and very generic profiles... No matches to date have paired me with active 40 something’s??? I post my photo’s and if it’s my appearance oh well… but I don’t think based on some that that is the hang up. One of my 1st 5 questions is what would be something wild and crazy… anyway, it seems that picking something new off of the menu is a big adventure these days… I am hopelessly energetic.
Sailorsam, I am 46, in good shape and attractive and I am looking for a man who likes to do active things too.... I don't watch TV (don't have it even) and love to SCUBA, spear fishing, learn to sail, horseback riding, hiking to volcanoes, etc. I seem to only be matched with TV watchers and sunset beach-walkers. I have the problem that I am stranded on a tropical island but this makes it easy to do a lot of these activities ... I would just like someone to do them with!
 
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DianaInHouston,403146 wrote :

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Ok I was look at 10 yr.s tounger then me,should I move it up to 5 yr.s older then me and 5 younger?
I think it depends if you stil want children of your own. If you do, then I would go ten years younger since most women in their forties don't want to start having children.

I am not sure where you got this idea - I knew quite a few that ARE interested in having children.


I'm pretty sure if you took a poll, the MAJORITY of women in their forties do not want to start having children. Certainly there is nothing wrong with it and I do know a few (very few) who do want to start families in their forties.


I would think though ifa man really wanted to have his own biological children, he might want to expand his age range ten years younger because he would have a better chance of matching up with someone who wanted to start a family.

Yea that is what my thinking is but what if it is not ment for me to have children?I have wasted a lot of yr.s.


Okay, so I know this thread is way old and I may have actually posted on it already. However, Jet, you know I love you so I have voice my opinion (again?).


I got married last week to a man who is 50. He has never had children and I have 3 (almost) grown children (20, 19 & 16) and we ARE planning on at least 2 more, either bio or adopted, because I want to make his life complete. Don't worry about the future, talk about it openly when the time comes, but don't make decisions now. If you meet the right person it will all work out.


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OMG I missed alot!!!!! I am taking a break from work to go to Hawwaii for my birthday. Buit Grats on marriage.Who is he has anyone I know one here?MMM Like you going to come back to this post mmmm need to track you down..I think you might be on that post with that rowboat but you might be on the one back there with all the giggling with no one in sight.
 
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I'm 47 with grown kids and i've noticed lots of men in fortys with young children.I really don't want to help raise anymore kids but I don't have a problem spending less time with a man so he can spend time with his children. I would have less respect for him if he didn't want to be with his kids. My problem is that I just can't be a couger. Whenmen look closer to my kids age than mine it just creaps me out to think of dating them. I can become friends with them but are honest that it could never go further.
 
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