He says he is broke and can't come to visit


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Spshlinsc is offline Spshlinsc Post #11  February 9,2010, 10:26am
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I have experience with this. I actually was in a serious relationship. When I started watching the way he spent money, I realized what a fool I had been. It wasn't that he couldn't "afford me." He didn't WANT to. When he got a second phone line and was paying over $200 a month for TWO cell phone lines because the first one wasn't the latest gadget, but he didn't have enough money to pay for an oil change in his car or dinner for us, I hit the roof! I work two jobs to keep a roof over my children's heads. The last thing I want is to have to keep up a man...a third child! I called myself "loving him." I thought it would get better. It's two years later and he's just as broke as he was when I met him. Trust me, it doesn't get better. What you see is truly what you get! Beware! Trust your INSTINCTS!!! I didn't and now I've wasted two years when I could have been finding someone that could at least WANT to be my equal.
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Davidpw is offline Davidpw Post #12  April 3,2010, 7:05pm
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If you are having such strong negative emotions already, best not to continue. This is just after the first time, don't think you won't doubt even more if it happens 2,3,4 times. You will probably not trust him for a while, then there will be that lingering doubt there.
 
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a_good_man is offline a_good_man Post #13  April 4,2010, 10:42pm
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So he fits your search criteria but he's not a billionaire? Dump him!


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I met a man who fits my searchcriteria.
He lives about 3 hours away from me.
Over the weekend I met up with him in his hometown.
On the phone ,prior to meeting him he informed me that he has no money to pay for my expenses.
Thaty was fine with me at that point.
Matter of fact I paid for the evening..
Now he says he wants to see me again,but he will not be able to come my way.
So I would have to go up there if I realy want to see him again.
Its about 250 miles away.
He blames the gas prices ect..
Am I so desperate that I need to do that???????????????
Any advice???????????????
 
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a_good_man is offline a_good_man Post #14  April 4,2010, 10:44pm
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What many women don't care about is that this economic depression has hit men far more, deeper and harder than women.

Yet women still want to date a man who makes as much as them. That's the definition of insanity.
 
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891967 is offline 891967 Post #15  April 9,2010, 9:21am

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Hey, I think it makes sense, I mean all this time he is willing to funding you, and there is time hes really broke, but hes telling you the truth! so..? just being equal, if this is a part of your dating plan, why dont you start sharing an open budget ? im sorry to say but we live in millenium era now, man and woman share the same needs, it can be solve. Unless you are dating Donald T
 
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A man will swim through a swarm of sharks in a tank to get to the girl...IF he is into her enough.

A man will ride his motorcycle 3,000 miles to your house IF he is into you. (happened to me once. I led a guy on who had the handle "loggerman"...I got cold feet and decided we weren't compatible...cut him off with a dear john letter...and he drove down to San Jose from some could country spot high up in
British Columbia down to my little tiny 400 sq foot apt. He actually knocked on the door...I had a shower cap on, a mumu since I had the flu on much of what I owned and was sleeping...he KEPT KNOCKING...so I HAD to open the door (was not answering it)...this very attractive and scary Canuck was standing there, took a look at me and said "well...you're not all that! You look like $h!t!" And he sped off, leaving me to deal with feeling emotionally cr4ppy on top of physical symptons of flu. Later on, for measure, whenever he rode down to San Jose (like for the Hollister worldwide bike-a-thon or whatever you call it), he was kind enough to gun his motorcycle RIGHT OUTSIDE MY DOOR sporadically...I never knew when he was coming). I am so glad I moved from there. BTW, I have only confessed this story to a few friends now you all know it. I made the right choice, but my point is...this dude made sure he got to my door out of sure insane curiousity.

He was poor and did not have much money...but he ponyed up for a trip to go to Hollister for the bike-a-thon whenever they had it and frighten me with his stalking ways..

BTW, this was in the days I first discovered meeting boys on the internet. I don't give out my address to NOBODY anymore! (I thought of this story reading the news today of a story of a crazy Canadian who drove to his online girlfriend's house in Gilroy, about an hour south of here where I live, ah, brought back memories,).

Greg Behrendt owes me a beer for all the times I keep repeating his damn phrases as my own! If he doesn't visit you, he just isn't that into you.

You are an attractive, nice, thoughtful woman...what the hell are you doing with a dufus? Don't waste the pretty!



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Yes! Dump his broke butt! Like the song says. If you ain't got no money take your broke butt home...or whatever it says. Your better than that and HE sounds like a con. IN fact, I wouldn't take his call again. Remember, we TEACH people how to treat us! Set the bar a little higher.
 
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carlycue is offline carlycue Post #18  September 18,2010, 1:44pm
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Ummm? Do you want to foot the bill at all times in a relationship? If so he may be the man for you. I personally date men that make as much if not more than me so we can afford to have some fun together. I'm not into being a sugar mama!
 
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