ceec is offline ceec Post #21  April 25,2009, 8:51pm
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What if all you have are REALLY BAD pics of yourself? I'm an attractive woman, however,I take LOUSY pics.Communicated with one fellow,sent him pic,not one word since.Guys I talk to say "That's It",they don't give two shakes for WHO YOU ARE, just WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE.Sad,considering who they miss out on.
 
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JETFUELMAN is offline JETFUELMAN Post #22  June 15,2009, 3:42pm
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What would be sadder someone that is in a wheel chair or over wt. and you are able togo sky diving caving or something they could not do.
 
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bugster is offline bugster Post #23  July 13,2009, 8:38pm
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the dude with the sunglasses , must be hiding something.
lets be honest here , everyone does base a possible relationship on looks primarily. in reality we all do this to one degree or another. even though we may try to tell all that we do not. it is the primary attraction we all get started with in hopes of a good life long relationship. Just post the pics , it will draw out the person who is really interested in you. Not just one who may turn out to be just a desperate person for a relationship
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bugster is offline bugster Post #24  July 13,2009, 8:48pm
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everyone obviously see`s anotherone differently. i look at pics i have of myself and wonder why i should post them. and like now myself think well the one who is really meant for me will see the guy she wants in any of the pics i should post. i think personally you should do the same. mister right will see you as his one.
 
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Jim63 is offline Jim63 Post #25  July 15,2009, 2:03pm

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I communicate with both posted and not posted profiles. I do make it a point to keep my photo up to date.

A few profiles have posted photos years old, and are not representative of what they look like now. This really turns me off majorly.

If it is a profile I'm interested in(with no photo), I communicate. I tend to be more pleasantly surprised after meeting in person.

I still prefer a full(head to toe) photo before meeting, so I at least know who I am meeting eventually.
 
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Nevada_Guy is offline Nevada_Guy Post #26  July 16,2009, 10:55pm
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I close automatically when there is no picture.

I often find it amusing when people don't post photos but expect people to see past that and see the person they are inside. Hogwash!

When you meet a person on the street, you see them, they see you, there is no strange bodiless/faceless voice talking to you.
So why should online be any different?

I would not give my email or phone number to a bodiless/faceless voice on the street so why should I be expected to act any differently online?

If there is a pic I read that as the person being serious about the process of finding a relationship partner.
on eH I post my photos (warts and all), and expect my matches to do the same.
I am not unreasonable.
 
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chawks64 is offline chawks64 Post #27  July 17,2009, 4:34am
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As a rule, I automatically closed anyone without a pic (on Match), but I got a great email from a guy a few months back, so I took a chance. We emailed back and forth a lot, during which time he offered to send it, but I thought it was kind of cool to NOT know what he looked like for a while.

Eventually I got curious and he sent it. Good looking guy! We kept emailing and talked on the phone a lot, and went out a few times as well. But after a couple of weeks, we both came to the conclusion that the spark just wasn't there. So now we're very good friends.

But it kind of reinforces my "no pic" rule, unless I'm just looking for a lot more male friends, and I've already got plenty.
 
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Ziterrious is offline Ziterrious Post #28  August 14,2009, 5:04pm
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Well I read a lot of good view points here, however I have yet to read anything on the validity of ones posted Photo.
My view point is that I make no assumptions on why there is no photo posted I simply read there profile and respond accordingly, I mean after all even if there is a photo posted....... How do I know it's really them???...... and How do I know its really a current photo, if it is them????...... So I do not put much stock in the Photo or your booted theory .... But hey I'm new at this .. lol

oh and don't get me wrong, I do want to be in a relationship with the MOST BEAUTIFUL Woman in the world!! And I'm positive I will be, for she will be Beautiful threw MY eyes not others.
 
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Ziterrious wrote :
Well I read a lot of good view points here, however I have yet to read anything on the validity of ones posted Photo.
My view point is that I make no assumptions on why there is no photo posted I simply read there profile and respond accordingly, I mean after all even if there is a photo posted....... How do I know it's really them???...... and How do I know its really a current photo, if it is them????...... So I do not put much stock in the Photo or your booted theory .... But hey I'm new at this .. lol

oh and don't get me wrong, I do want to be in a relationship with the MOST BEAUTIFUL Woman in the world!! And I'm positive I will be, for she will be Beautiful threw MY eyes not others.
Awesome and wise way of thinking. More of us should think like that. I have my picture posted, but still no communication so I have to wonder if men are not responding because of the way I look, or is it my profile? Very frustating!
 
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Coco45 is offline Coco45 Post #30  September 24,2009, 5:36pm
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I agree Miss_Bee....it's a cop-out not to post one these days -it's so easy to do. Like it or not, even a minimal physical attraction has to exist - once you get to know the person, they become either more handsome or more ugly...
 
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