cflcyclist is offline cflcyclist Post #1  December 16,2008, 5:52am
cflcyclist's Avatar

Gone riding!

Newbie

Joined: Dec 2008

DeBary, FL

Posts: 19

See profile




Before some of you ladies run to the garage and grab a flame thrower, I am posing this comment since I really am curious as to why this seems to be a common occurrence, and one that, apparently, is age-related.

In the past 2-plus years I've had well over 150 dates. Most of them typical one-timers of course and, although most of the girls I met were fine human beings, the attraction just wasn't there. Sometimes for me, oftentimes for them.

Now I have to clarify that 99.9% of these women came from other online dating sites. I've only had a couple dates thru eHarmony, with one of them being a relationship that lasted for about a month.

The age range of my dates has been from 34 to 45, give or take a few years based on those who just plain lie about how old they are. Yes, some women lie about their age, while I hear that a lot of men tend to lie about their height... and pretty much everything else - ha ha.

But the thing that seems to be a constant is that the older the woman, the more perfume they tend to use. Some of my dates apparently showered themselves in perfume which is not only annoying but probably a safety hazard as well ) j.k.

Younger women, from personal experience, tend to use little if any perfume, and the same goes formakeup.

Maybe this is just something I've noticed and would like to hear your opinions on the subject. I personally find too much perfume annoying. And needless to say, it sort of ruins the mood since I am unable to concentrate on the conversation. And I am not making this up.

Thanks!
 
  Reply With Quote
panda20 is offline panda20 Post #2  December 16,2008, 7:58am
panda20's Avatar

Hoping for snow! Would like to go skiing!

Quick Study

Joined: Oct 2008

Buckeye state

Posts: 124

See profile



Wearing too much perfume or cologne can be too much! Gas mask please!!! I do understand where you are coming from but statistically you are dating way more than me!
 
  Reply With Quote
hbgirl66 is offline hbgirl66 Post #3  December 17,2008, 8:00am
hbgirl66's Avatar

still waiting for that blessing that isn't in disguise .... ;o)

Veteran

Joined: Sep 2008

So. Cal.

Posts: 1,105

See profile



Iwear just enough purfume so that a man cansmell it only when he gets close. Hopefully he will like it and want to stay there


On the flip side, there have been times when a man's cologne was sostrong it burned by eyes.


This can go both ways!!
 
  Reply With Quote
cflcyclist is offline cflcyclist Post #4  December 17,2008, 4:51pm
cflcyclist's Avatar

Gone riding!

Newbie

Joined: Dec 2008

DeBary, FL

Posts: 19

See profile

hbgirl66,383187 wrote :

Iwear just enough purfume so that a man cansmell it only when he gets close. Hopefully he will like it and want to stay there


On the flip side, there have been times when a man's cologne was sostrong it burned by eyes.


This can go both ways!!
I am sure it goes both ways. I singled out women since I only date females - ha ha
 
  Reply With Quote
LovingLifeinTX is offline LovingLifeinTX Post #5  December 17,2008, 7:10pm
LovingLifeinT…'s Avatar

Quick Study

Joined: Aug 2008

DFW

Posts: 55

See profile



Perhaps the older women were accustomed to the fragrance and put on more without realizing that the scent was still there.


Also I know that my sense of smell has become less acute as I've aged. Fortunately I don't (can't) wear most perfumes. Perhaps the women who wore the stronger perfume just didn't realize it was so strong.
 
  Reply With Quote
chawks64 is offline chawks64 Post #6  December 17,2008, 8:42pm
chawks64's Avatar

is keeping warm with her Honey.

Power Poster

Joined: Jun 2008

Southern Nevada

Posts: 6,735

See profile



Especially with women who smoke, or used to, the sense of smell deadens with age. Personally, I want a man to get just enough of a whiff that he needs to lean in to actually smell it. Hey, 40-somethings get crafty over the years!


I work outdoors, and about a week ago a woman had so much perfume on that I literally could smell it from across the street. I feel so sorry for whoever she works with.


On the other hand, I have a 17-year-old son. He and all of his friends absolutely bathe in Axe, so it's not just a chick thing.
 
  Reply With Quote
cflcyclist is offline cflcyclist Post #7  December 18,2008, 4:20am
cflcyclist's Avatar

Gone riding!

Newbie

Joined: Dec 2008

DeBary, FL

Posts: 19

See profile

chawks64,384085 wrote :

... On the other hand, I have a 17-year-old son. He and all of his friends absolutely bathe in Axe, so it's not just a chick thing.




Sounds likethey're going for the bom chicka wow wa effect - LOL


But seriously, what do you do if you like someone? I guess you can just come out and tell them, but some people can get really hurt or offended no matter how diplomatic you are.
 
  Reply With Quote
chawks64 is offline chawks64 Post #8  December 18,2008, 9:51am
chawks64's Avatar

is keeping warm with her Honey.

Power Poster

Joined: Jun 2008

Southern Nevada

Posts: 6,735

See profile



I can't think of a good way to tell someone that. Scent is about as personal as you can get. I know honesty is usually best, but maybe you could tell them that scent seems to cause you problems, and say you tend to have problems with perfume in general. It may not be completely honest, but at least it's kind.
 
  Reply With Quote
JewelinHiscrown is offline JewelinHiscrown Post #9  December 18,2008, 10:05am
JewelinHiscro…'s Avatar

Pacesetter

Joined: Jul 2008

Kansas City , MO.

Posts: 379

See profile



I wear perfume every day for work since I have to dress 'professionally' and thats just a part of my 'morning routine' like putting on deoderant...lol- anyway, just enough to get a 'scent' is what I prefer...(men and women alike) however, the MOST comments I get is ironically about my hair and the 'shampoo' I use...lol- Keep it light and fresh and I"m all in with either make-up or perfume...
 
  Reply With Quote
LovingLifeinTX is offline LovingLifeinTX Post #10  December 18,2008, 6:31pm
LovingLifeinT…'s Avatar

Quick Study

Joined: Aug 2008

DFW

Posts: 55

See profile

cflcyclist,384291 wrote :

But seriously, what do you do if you like someone? I guess you can just come out and tell them, but some people can get really hurt or offended no matter how diplomatic you are.
Be straightforward but kind. If you like the woman, it'd be terrible to miss an opportunity because she might not know how strong her perfume is.


I had to tell a co-worker that I was allergic to her perfume. I agonized over telling her but I'd get a headache even when she just passed by my office. Come to find out she was reapplying it right before she came in. She was happy to skip the touch up when she found out how strong it was.
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply


« Dating and SEX | 40 Something | Hello everyone! »
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“He broke up...The best way to stay hung-up is to keep dwelling,wishing, hoping, reminiscing....Like staring at an empty bottle of booze when you are trying to quit drinking. Rather than focus on a ... ” –  Wiseman2

Join the “Can I wait and move on at the same time?” discussion

“Oh how annoying - I had typed a HUGE post prompted by TheThinker's query as to why I would think it a good idea to wait 5-10 years to date/or until children are out of the house. I am too annoyed to ... ” –  picklesNcream

Join the “Transition from dating to relationship” discussion

“This is very true. If someone has a truly old /outdated account since the questionnaire was altered then it's a decent solution. It's become an urban legend on eHA that this is a good idea. Mostly ... ” –  Wiseman2

Join the “Different Strategy” discussion

“Shared interests and ones who are laddetts for mine.” –  ian80au

Join the “Green Flags in Profiles” discussion

“Completely cancel /delete your existing account. That will also cancel /delete all long-dead, geographically irrelevant matches. Since you are in a new area it's silly to use an old /outdated ... ” –  Wiseman2

Join the “Removing old matches - there has to be a better way” discussion

“I'm very sorry for your loss, Suzanne. It's not surprising you're feeling confused and making some memory errors. That happened to me too when my mother died. Life just isn't normal for awhile. ... ” –  Sassafras54

Join the “Photo Review” discussion

“I am closing this thread since the Original Poster (OP) was asking about the eHarmony of 2-1/2 years ago -- the thread is old (see date in the upper right of the first post). Some responses will no ... ” –  Sassafras54

Join the “What about a "PET BOX" ?? again this sounds simple or??” discussion

“Thanks for your advice guys, really helps out. I guess everything is a matter of balance, which isn't something that I can work out right now. I think I will focus on school for the remaining 3 years ... ” –  jrw93

Join the “Should I ever date in college?” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 4:44am.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0