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Lakeview is offline Lakeview Post #31  October 22,2009, 12:19am
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I think all of us obsess about age too much. It just takes meeting the right person---I met two men in my life that..It seemed like I have known them most of my life--I married both of them (not at the same time of course!).
I married my deceased husband in l984--he was one of the nicest, Christian men who ever walked the earth...I lost him thru death in l998. I married the second in late 2005, we will be divorced this coming Wednesday (Oct 28,09). He swept me off my feet , and I should have taken the time to know him better. Thanks for listening.
 
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Younger women tend to be less cynical. That being said, there are some amazing older women who are in shape, inquisitive, and adventurous - they make it a point to exercise several times a week, and try new things!
 
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I, for one, do not complain about the old guys wanting younger women - keeps lots of us amused watching their hysterical attempts. I read the OP's original post when it was first posted but as it was only my first or second week looking at this site I didn't feel that I was ready to put my 2 cents in yet. However, now I'm past all that and here it is: If we are going to be picking partners based on JDavid's standards then let's not bother filling out profiles or trying to get to know anyone better. Let's just post as many 'young-looking' pictures as we can conjure up and drone on and on about how supple and nubile and energetic we all are. That should bring certain types in droves. Don't want that type? Me either. Old men are old men, old women are old women. Young are young, etc.... Dating your childrens' friends is not going to change that. You are still going to reach the end someday. What are you running from? Age is a fact. It's not anything to be ashamed of. It just looks silly for old guys to chase young chicks! But you keep on amusing us, we're having a lot of fun.
 
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It should not be amazed - there are ladies in my age category who have silver hair. Much to my surprise, I like silver hair better than colored hair. I do like someone who carries themselves with real dignity - not snooty - but real dignity, and articulate.

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I married the second in late 2005, we will be divorced this coming Wednesday (Oct 28,09). He swept me off my feet , and I should have taken the time to know him better. Thanks for listening.
Thanks for sharing that - I am widowed and I realized how vulnerable I am to that. I glad that you wrote this. Thanks!
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JDavid ... You do make some interesting points. I am a very active young minded 47 year old woman. I have been married twice. I have found that the majority of men that ask me out are mostly alot younger or alot older. I really don't have alot in common with the younger ones and the older ones tend to be as you described an older woman reserved not spontaneous with no sense of adventure. They tend to spend most of there time visiting with grand children and tinkering in the garage. The men my age I have ment online have either been married, still carrying baggage from their divorce or looking for the trophy wife who is not 47. I like yourself don't represent the sterotype of my age. I love Harleys and go on a run once or twice a year. Love tequilla shots, rock concerts and camping and just got my first tat about a month ago. I believe in trying pretty much anything at least once. Most men my age or older honestly can't keep up with me. Couple of months ago I had put the dating on hold after a few real bad ones when I found an amazing guy with a sense of adventure and zest for life who is 50 .... no blue pills here ;-) .... I hope you meet that woman of exception that can keep up with you....
 
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I am one of those guys that prefer younger women. I was married to my ex wife for 11 years and she was taking BC behind my back the whole time while i thought we were trying for kids. So I guess i feel robbed of that pleasure. Also I dont look a day over 30 so am approached quite often by younger women in the 25 - 35 range. older women my age don't even look twice, most often not even once. I have a well above average IQ, have a career in which i make great money, most people love me and love being around me and i am full of spunk. But if women my age won't take a chance with me, then why shouldn't i feel okay about dating younger women.
 
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A test...

I'm not proud of this but a few years back when I was new to the on line dating scene, I lied about my age. I said I was 10 years younger than I was and I knew I could get away with it all day long, and I did. I had all kinds of dates and interest. I never felt good about not divulging my correct age since I knew it was deceiving, but I had a lot of dates and met some very nice 35-45 aged men. I eventually met someone I liked enough to come clean. He wasn't thrilled about my lie but he didn't dump me either. We were together for a year and a half after he learned about my true age. He was 17 years my junior and well, a bit too young for me afterall - ha! I waited six months and decided I would try my hand at this again but this time tell the truth about my age. (I would never lie about my age again, it's just not the right thing to do).

What was significantly different his time around is the number of potential matches on line. Need-less-to-say, the number dwindled significantly. Of course it only takes one right?


I don't mind dating men in my age group but I have found that many of them haven't taken good care of themselves physicially, and that bothers me. I know I shouldn't judge simply on appearance, but as much as I'm being judged on that principle I should be at liberty to do the same. Of course, where does that leave me? Dateless in So Florida! Now if I just turn the clock back 10 years....

Men take heed, there are plenty of 50+ somethings out there that look like Demi Moore, Nicolette Sheridan, and are on top of their game! I've never been so on top of my game, only problem is I'm not an actress or famous!

As my son would say, "whatupwiththat?"
 
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Really unclear what you mean by modern and old fashioned. I have never met a woman old fashioned or modern just looking to get laid, nor a woman old fashioned or modern who doesn't want affection. Sleaziness, lies and deception have been around since the beginning of time. Seems to me your friend has some issues with women.
 
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Nothing bugs me more than guys writing in their profiles they look 10 years younger, or prefer younger women cos they are so active and vibrant. Really really gross. I get what the original poster was saying but where I live in California...only people who act the way he describes are people in their 70's. Any man who thinks he is younger than he is in looks, temperment, body etc, I immediately close. Just a creepy strange thing to say. If you are 50, then that is what 50 looks like. and if you ride your bike, then you are 50 and ride a bike. I am 44 and I am what I am.
 
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This topic is hilarious to me because both men and women date younger mates. It appears that men do it because of a mid-life crisis,or because some younger women are less experienced and easier to manipulate. Some do it just to have eye candy for other men to envy.

I have read many an article on why women date younger men. Many feel that men there age are not as adventurous,boring and unable to satisfy them sexually.

People who date men and women 15-20 yrs older expose themselves to heartache,because of most the relationships don't last. Men and women in there 20's and 30's are not usually ready to settle down yet,not to mention the maturity levels due to the age difference.

I think the spirit is what keeps us young,not our age. We will all get old in body one day.

I will only date women close to my age,because we have more in common.
 
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