Mr_Yanks_Fan is offline Mr_Yanks_Fan Post #1  December 21,2010, 5:28pm
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Hi all new to this whole online dating thing and I have wondered if most women are uncomfortable with a man that is shorter than they are. Is this me being self conscious or is this a realistic feeling. Any thoughts would be welcome.
 
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MYF,

I have a separate point but let me answer your question.

Women are no different from us. While not all men are interested in slender women with large chests, a large percentage of men are that way .

Women likewise are looking for men with strength and confidence. If we display this thru height so be it; if it is by our character so be it . It is not all about height but those who only feel chemistry to taller men are a lost cause and you are better off being honest in your profile and weed them out early --IMHO.

Now to my reason for addressing you: I saw your picture under new people to eHA. I guessed by it that you might not be the tallest and then saw this thread and it confirmed my opinion.


I recommend a new profile photo that doesn’t draw attention to the fact that your friends are taller than you. Use photos that demonstrate your individuality and personality strengths .

IMHO

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Thanks for the response and I will definitely try your advice.
 
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lildiesle is offline lildiesle Post #4  June 17,2011, 8:20pm
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I am a pretty short guy, 5'2" to be exact. I ave found yes there are plenty of women that will not look at us because of height. If those women weed us out like that then its a good thing we didn't have to waist our time with them, (they are shallow in my opinion).
That being said, I have found plenty of beautiful women that it does not matter to. Hey, and even some think it is cute. So have no shame in being short you will find someone with no problem.
 
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lissa783 is offline lissa783 Post #5  November 27,2011, 6:32pm
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I have never dated a guy shorter than me (not hard I am only 5-3) but I would not exclude a man because he is short.
 
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Mr_Yanks_Fan wrote :
Hi all new to this whole online dating thing and I have wondered if most women are uncomfortable with a man that is shorter than they are. Is this me being self conscious or is this a realistic feeling. Any thoughts would be welcome.
Sad truth is: yes, most are. But not all, so you know what you have to do.

It is what is is.
 
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Mr_Yanks_Fan wrote :
Hi all new to this whole online dating thing and I have wondered if most women are uncomfortable with a man that is shorter than they are. Is this me being self conscious or is this a realistic feeling. Any thoughts would be welcome.
I have just been communicating with a gentleman who is 5'5" tall and I am 5'9" tall. I had originally been approached by him and not seen his height. The rest of his profile reads wonderfully. He is 12 years my senior, a widower, courteous, witty, family-oriented, shares my ethnic and religious background, is extremely successful career-wise and very eloquent and charming.
In the beginning he kept looking up my profile so I took a close look at his to see what he found so appealing about me. That was when I noticed the height difference. I wrote that his profile really spoke to me in many ways but that I couldn't help noticing the height discrepancy. (I might add that I have always felt a bit self-conscious about my height - I think it stems way back to high school - lol )
Anyways, his response was that it didn't bother him in the least. As a matter of fact his late wife had been a bit taller than me - so that would have made her 5'10" - give or take. So now I am pondering... Btw this was not on EH. It was on a Jewish website. In this particular case I might give it a chance. He really is keen to meet. I suppose there is no knowing how we both feel about it until we see each other "face to face" or a close as we can get to that - literally speaking.
I, too, would appreciate further thoughts/advice on this.
 
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