earthlingers is offline earthlingers Post #51  July 27,2008, 11:13am
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I joined to scour discussions for relationship advice because I was (and still in) a difficult long distance relationship that was on the rocks. We were discussing the possibility of a break-up and I wanted to search for what's out there - without full on dating. The dating scene in New York City is quite tough, contrary to what you may think with it's nearly 9 million residents. For every 10 guys I meet, maybe there is only one with potential. Besides that, eH is amazing for relationship advice. When the boy and I decided to keep what we have going, I found others in a similar LDR predicament - listening to others' stories did much to keep up optimism that is essential in this kind of relationship.


Anyhow, I'm 23, but what does it matter - even if I'm 50, we're all still looking for the same thing right? The One. I doubt my age is really an advantage in this situation.
 
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shellRN is offline shellRN Post #52  August 3,2008, 12:18pm
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I agree so much with what everyone else is saying!! I too am not big on the bar/club scene. Maybe I'm claustrophobic?? Hehhehehee.... I woke up one morning & I thought to myself - Oh no! I'm going to be 24 in a few months - my life is coming at me faster than I expected!! I don't want to get married when im 40... I work nights as a nurse so on my days off I'm catching up on sleep. I'm low on seniority so I end up working more weekends than I'm obligated to... Everyone else works weekdays, so there's nobody really to go out with and meet guys... We'll see how this EH things works out... Right now I am skeptical...
 
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author_ash is offline author_ash Post #53  August 3,2008, 3:40pm
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I'm 26, a single mom, and I work so much either at my job, my freelance art/writing things, or in my own classes that I don't have time to go out and 'look' for guys. I joined EH hoping I could find somebody that makes me want to take the time off from some of my crazy daily routine to slow down. I'm fairly unique, Christian, and soooooo not cut from the mold that the local guys want their girls cut from! LOL The one comment I get consistently from people is "They've never met anybody like me." While I make a lot of great friends, I usually end up sliding into the 'best friend' role and never the romantic ones. OF the three guys I've met on EH, I've become strictly platonic friends with two, and one that I talk to sporadically--only as friends. It's a little frustrating.


So I'm hoping, maybe, just maybe, I'll meet someone here that I can connect with on at least most levels. I don't look for Mr. Perfect, but I am looking for Mr. Perfect-for-me!
 
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Hey Alien, you know i'd date you if I lived closer LOL!
 
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tulsa_guy_27 is offline tulsa_guy_27 Post #55  August 4,2008, 3:40pm
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a lot of ppl are against on-line dating or dating websites, and there are many valid points to those arguments, for example there are many ppl who get behind the keyboard and tend to "exagerate" about themselves, and so from the get-go the relationship is based on lies (no matter the reason behind them, they are still lies) and you truly cant start a meaningful relationship behind lies..andof course thesafety issues, and youreally can neverbe to safe, but in my opinion, this is just another avenue that with the advancement of technology, that God can bring a couple together..!
 
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bp23 is offline bp23 Post #56  August 4,2008, 7:04pm
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What's going on? I'm 25 and live in a small town where cool girls are far and few between.I Decided to find out what thedeal was with EH.
 
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author_ash is offline author_ash Post #57  August 5,2008, 7:53pm
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the paid EH is hit or miss. In my opinion, really not worth the money. LOL if you go by the commercials, only the cute, attractive, perky, models get matched up successfully.
 
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amandalynn is offline amandalynn Post #58  August 5,2008, 10:22pm
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To me, my clock isn't ticking, I am not looking to get married. I am ONLY 24, and I have so much ahead of me... I have watched a few of my friends get married this year, a couple that's truly happy and another couple that seemed miserable (like they were each settling. My friend didn't even want to have sex with her husband on their wedding night!). I don't want that, I don't want to settle for just some guy, I want to make sure I choose the right person.


I would like to meet a friend, someone who is my companion, partner and likes to travel with me. Someone who treats me well (because I am sick of the "bad boy") and I can consider my best friend.


That's why I signed up for EH.
 
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I lived in Scottsdale, AZ and really didn't find much in the way of a fulfilling relationship while doing the whole bar/club thing. I'm not looking to meet someone and jump into marriage, but I want something deeper than going out to the bars and clubs and trying to hook up.


I recently moved to Dallas, and I don't have the social network that I am used to having to even go out and find the types of dates I was tired of before. My job isn't really that great of a way to meet people either as they are a pretty insular group most of who are already in a long term relationship. Rather than waste my time trying to find places I was comfortable hanging out and sitting at the bar by my self trying to meet random strangers, I decided to try eH.


And like amadalynn said, it isn't about peer pressure or ticking biological or societal clocks. Its about wanting to meet someone special that I care about and that I want to spend time with.
 
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cakewalk is offline cakewalk Post #60  August 7,2008, 7:15am

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weakforlove, wrote :

I am 26 years old and I joined EH in hopes of finding Mr. Right rather than Mr. Right Now. My best friend found her husband on here and it gave me hope because they are absolutely amazing together. Unfortunately, I haven't had good luck so far! The bar scene does not seem ideal and the club scene is all wrong and smells like sweaty alcoholics. So...EH it is! And even though I am getting several matches a day, at least half of them have no picture, another 1/4 are guys 3 inches or more shorter than I am, and the other 1/4 don't respond to any kind of communication. Maybe its true that when you aren't looking the one will just show up one day?
Hey im 20 and had a kid also almost got married i feel ashamed i cant find anyone either i guess for the right person it takes time until then its good to make friends
 
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