So, we are in our 20's and have resorted to EH. Why?

I agree, Sakura, somehow not wanting to troll for drunk guys at the bar has left me with few single men in my particular social circles. [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-undecided.gif[/img]

physically they are mostly too short. I mean I am 5'10 It wouldn't be comfortable for me to date someone who was 5'4.

Bars are great for drinking and having a good time with friends, but not so much for finding an emotionally intelligent woman (women tend to be clingy and overagressive for the wrong reasons or defensive because they aren't the slightest bit interested or are too caught up in playing their games).

I put myself on the market recently because I feel as though I've finally learned enough from the relational blunders of others. I tried to date in my teens, but that didn't work out so well because I was illiterate in love. At least I can look back at my accidental self-imposed wounds now and see some valuable lessons. After that, I decided to hang back and learn from others (my profile report tells me I'm freakishly perceptive and annoyingly inquisitive, so I learned a bunch[img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-tongue-out.gif[/img]).


I started putting myself out there a few months ago. Bars are great for drinking and having a good time with friends, but not so much for finding an emotionally intelligent woman (women tend to be clingy and overagressive for the wrong reasons or defensive because they aren't the slightest bit interested or are too caught up in playing their games). Clubs are just like what an above poster said: sweat and alcohol (good spot to find a one night stand, but I'm not interested in that at all). Barnes and Noble has shown some promise with the quality of women I've met there. The problem there is that I don't go very often because it's far away, and the purpose is to buy books when I do go. Meeting isn't my primary purpose (nor is it the purpose of the women I chat with sometimes). I went to an arts and crafts store recently (first time ever) to pick up materials to make a memorable graduation cap, and it was filled with young, attractive, intelligent women. That was the most promising, but suffers the same problems are the book store. The women aren't there to socialize, and the ones who do tend to be dating, in a relationship, or married.


I figured that I'd try online. EH had the best credibility, and has proven its value. I get ~8 matches per day, send questions to ~3, get responses, go to OC, and hypothetically go on dates (last one hasn't happened yet, but I'm still new to the process). EH is also the most bang for the buck. Where else can you meet this many prospective women who are looking for a relationship at a fraction of the cost of what I'd be paying at bars/clubs (yey for covers and overpriced drinks)? My hopes are high and expectations of achieving them are low, so I don't worry about results. I've also immensely enjoyed chatting on these forums and have met some wonderful people.


If any ladies living between the Philly/NYC area would like to get to know me, I'm free weekends *cough*cough*hint*hint*[img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-wink.gif[/img]*[img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-wink.gif[/img]* (I know it's cheesy, but can you blame a guy for putting himself out there[img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-tongue-out.gif[/img]?)

I am 26 years old and I joined EH in hopes of finding Mr. Right rather than Mr. Right Now. My best friend found her husband on here and it gave me hope because they are absolutely amazing together. Unfortunately, I haven't had good luck so far! The bar scene does not seem ideal and the club scene is all wrong and smells like sweaty alcoholics. So...EH it is! And even though I am getting several matches a day, at least half of them have no picture, another 1/4 are guys 3 inches or more shorter than I am, and the other 1/4 don't respond to any kind of communication. Maybe its true that when you aren't looking the one will just show up one day?