CaliSurfer is offline CaliSurfer Post #151  October 7,2009, 5:37pm
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ok... i find that EH has their little system in matching people together but, for me it seems like they are way off. Im 25 years old and im 6 feet 4 inches. im really tall guy and have ran into the women being too short issue quite often. and so with that EH decides that a 5 foot 3 lady would work best for me. lmao im sorry and no hard feels for that young lady but thats just way too short for me. i prefer women around atleast 5 8 and up to 6 0. so w/e, any one got any advice for me?
 
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laurel4664 is offline laurel4664 Post #152  October 27,2009, 5:38pm
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CaliSurfer wrote :
ok... i find that EH has their little system in matching people together but, for me it seems like they are way off. Im 25 years old and im 6 feet 4 inches. im really tall guy and have ran into the women being too short issue quite often. and so with that EH decides that a 5 foot 3 lady would work best for me. lmao im sorry and no hard feels for that young lady but thats just way too short for me. i prefer women around atleast 5 8 and up to 6 0. so w/e, any one got any advice for me?
I have the same problem, except I'm 5'9'' and they're sending men to me that are 5'6''-5'9''. I like to feel feminine and girly and heels aren't an unusual occurrence. Even if you put height as something that is important to you, they still show up! What gives?
 
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I'm 29 and live in Colorado. I've been using eHarmony for a while now, and have had no luck. I've never been a fan of bars or clubs, because I don't drink alcohol. I must be a picky person, because I hardly ever get a new match. I've even changed my preferences several times. The funny thing that keeps happening to me is that I get communication requests, but once I answer, I get no reponse .- I'm getting tired of everyone telling me that the right guy will come along either when I'm not looking or when I'm ready. Well I like to think I'am ready!!!
 
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laurel4664 wrote :
I have the same problem, except I'm 5'9'' and they're sending men to me that are 5'6''-5'9''. I like to feel feminine and girly and heels aren't an unusual occurrence. Even if you put height as something that is important to you, they still show up! What gives?
hate to break it to you, but the system has a major flaw. Good thing, more people are catching on to it.
 
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jding is offline jding Post #155  November 11,2009, 3:15am
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Here's my reason for joining EH:

I am about to graduate college with an engineering degree. I need to find a job, but I would like to look for jobs some place where I tend to get a lot of "matches" from. I don't want to be working in some small, po-dunk area surrounded with non-single people. I also wanted to see what my "compatible matches' occupations" are.

So far, location results are California, Colorado, Washington (most common ones at least). Most common occupations are teachers, psychologists(yikes!), nurses, and people that like horses...

I guess you can say I joined EH for research purposes.
 
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I'm only 23 and have already been on eH for a few years. My social network just doesn't offer many choices - the men are either too young, too old, or taken, and most people I know don't have single friends, so getting "set up" doesn't seem to be an option, even though I ask.
 
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weakforlove wrote :
I am 26 years old and I joined EH in hopes of finding Mr. Right rather than Mr. Right Now. My best friend found her husband on here and it gave me hope because they are absolutely amazing together. Unfortunately, I haven't had good luck so far! The bar scene does not seem ideal and the club scene is all wrong and smells like sweaty alcoholics. So...EH it is! And even though I am getting several matches a day, at least half of them have no picture, another 1/4 are guys 3 inches or more shorter than I am, and the other 1/4 don't respond to any kind of communication. Maybe its true that when you aren't looking the one will just show up one day?
It just takes some time, I have personally been a member for almost a year now and met my third match just last week have been on 2 dates now, planning a 3rd and it is fantastic so far.

Up until now most matches just didn't fit well or didn't respond.
So hold in there
 
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I am on here because I am really sick and tired of trying to meet women at bars and clubs. I feel that if I hit on a woman at a club I am automatically "creepy". After several conversations with my friends about this and someone came up with a good rationale. ASD - Anti Slut Defense, woman do not want to look like sluts and therefore act very timid and standoffish towards men at bars when they come up to them.

If I think a girl is cute, I would rather just go up and say it, but I am always too forward ....


So any other suggestions on how to go about meeting women in bars?

And what to you think about the ASD theory?
 
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Funny theory. I definitely have "ASD".

Anyway, when I was younger I'd usually meet guys via hanging out with friends or from school, etc. Now, most of my friends don't have many single, eligible friends and thus I've had to resort to EH. I've only been on here a couple weeks and there are some pros and cons, of course. However, I have two friends/associates that have met men through EH and swear that this is the answer for me!

I still am skeptical though, because I don't know if I could pay for this for a year without having a conversation with at least a decent guy or two off line.
 
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JustinM wrote :
It just takes some time, I have personally been a member for almost a year now and met my third match just last week have been on 2 dates now, planning a 3rd and it is fantastic so far.

Up until now most matches just didn't fit well or didn't respond.
So hold in there
I have had similar results, except I only got to the dating game with on eHarmony match in nearly a year on the site, turned out though that she was perfect for me and we have been dating for a couple of months now. My account expires next month, and while I love eHarmony I certainly hope I won't be renewing my account.
 
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