kitty34 is offline kitty34 Post #11  January 11,2009, 8:05pm
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I hate being a single mom dating. I recently well not so recently i have know a guy that i like for six months and we would see each other like three times a week. Point of story he came over on the third date, and well just when he was about to kiss me my daughter comes out of the room and runs to tell him dont touch my mommie. God i was so embarassed. I have been single for two years now and the father is not in the situation and yeah i have to be picky. Another thing is i just dont have the resources to keep paying the baby sitte they are pretty expensive especially if you want them to stay till eleven. I cant even have a social life so what do i do. Oh yeah and the dating guys from church did it was the worst. So stay away from singles church things. I love my daughter very much but i want someone to hold me in there arms once in a while and tell me how beautiful i am. I miss those things. I can't go out with the girls or the vegas trips anymore. NO MONEY because its so expansive
 
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Single parents are loooong been accepted in our society. Most of them (especially single moms) become succesful after giving birth and taking the responsibilities alone. They become more matured and proud of the things they do for their child. I know, having a child without marriage, is something a woman can't be proud of, but the fact that you have given a new life andtake the responsibilities without the help of the father makes them respected and valued. Dating doesnt mean you're looking for a father/mother figure for your baby butratherenjoying yourself and realizing that there is life after your "ex" and giving birth.
 
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jadedu714,302727 wrote :

SweetKatieA,107501 wrote :


I hate dating being a single mom. I have little time as it is and sometimes I get stressed out trying to "fit" people into my life. However, I really want to spend time with those people or that special person. Not only do I have the single mom thing going on, but I work night shift. So, yeah two strikes for me. I've had several guys say that if I wasn't a single mom and if my schedual weren't strange then I'd be awesome. Well, I personally think I'm pretty cool and worth any trouble I'm putting someone through. I hope someone else other then me eventually comes to that same conclusion.


Kudos to you for your last 2 lines!! I'm a single mom too and like you, hate dating. I had a guy tell me once that it sucked I was a single mom cause if not, we would have been great together. I was bummed at first but then was just plain offended. I love my little man and don't regret being a single mom ever!! I think its time we quit lettingguys like thatmake us feel inferior when its them who obviously can't handle the obligations and responsibilities that we do on a daily basis. GO US!! Lol
I get the same responses! "If you weren't a single mom this would be great". The other one I really like is "I'm just not ready to be a dad". Who asked you to be my sons father? My next favorite was the line that was recently given to me by one of my friends. We ended up dating and to break up with me he said "I just don't see myself having step kids" WTF? You knew I had a kid so why date me if you didn't see yourself having step kids?


To all the single parents out there...don't ever think that your child is a "problem" or "baggage".
 
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jessjliem is offline jessjliem Post #14  April 26,2009, 3:19am
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oh...this topic might open a whole can of worms. I'm 25 and I have a beautiful lil boy who's going to be 4 soon and I get the same responses as the other girls. All the guys that I've dated ever since leaving my ex partner has always been the same. "If only you weren't a mum, we'd be great together" or "I'm just not ready for any huge committments" etc etc. And like jadedu714 mentioned I got really offended as well.


I love my son to bits and have no regrets of becoming a single mother. I am a strong, intelligent and independent woman. I work very hard to keep a roof over my son's head and keeping him safe and sound and well cared for. I do everything that I can for my son, but guys somehow can make me feel really bad for it.


I've come to the point now that I've given up on dating.
 
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I'm a single dad of a 6 year old and trust me ladies, it's no different for us, either. In my last 3 relationships,my dates'apprehensions of being thrown into a prepackaged family proved to much for them. I'll admit, it's incredibly disheartening at times, but you can't let it get to you. We single parents work hard to give our kids the best, and if someone leaves you because of your child, then they obviously aren't the best for them.


In the previous post, jessjliem wrote,"I've come to the point now thatI've given up on dating." Again, dating as a single parent is discouraging at times, but you can't give up just because some insecure coward can't handlea tot. Don't give those people the satisfaction of beating you. One day, we'll all find someone who could be everything the others never could be; the perfect mate for us and perfect parent for our kids.
 
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I am a single mom as well but of 3 little boys! So although they are amazing to me they are also 6, 7, and 8 which totally freaks guys out and with good reason! However, I have had several men to tell me after dating for a short time that I am too involved with my kids and don't have the time or attention that they need. WHAT? Would they really prefer someone who leaves their kids with a sitter every night and doesn't spend time or attention on her children? I realize it may be a little more difficult but soo...........worth it!

Do they actually realize the type of person it takes to go to school full time, work, raise 3 kids, and run a household? I just wish I'd meet a guy that could respect those things!!!
 
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This discussion really caught my eye, I am 21 and a proud mother of a ten month beautiful little girl. Things didn't end up working out for her dad and I and it is hard to start over in the dating when I feel like I should be settled and married. (Marriage was supposed to come first). Well i Iam happy that someone brought this subject up =)
 
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dawn281981 is offline dawn281981 Post #18  September 20,2009, 4:42pm
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I am new to this sooo just bare with me...I am a 28 yr old single mother and it is very hard to find someone that will take me and my child on...I dont know how many dates that i have been on and once they found out that i had a son they were gone,but thats okay cause the only thing that matters to me is that i am taking care of my son without a man and one day that perfect man will come along that would love to have me and my son..So to all the single mothers out there just be strong and that one special guy will come along...Thats what i am waiting on.
 
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I am willing to date a woman who has kids. Well, I take that back some. If she is in her 20s and has 5 to 8 kids already, then I am not dating that girl at all hahaha.Seriously, there are guys who do not have a problem with it. The problem lies with females when they are being very picky. You should want a caring, loving, thoughtful, financially stable man. However, I have talked to girls who want that and then more. I mean they want a famouse celebrity look a like as boyfriend, and they want some rich individual. For the girls, guys will come your way. However, do not reject us guys who are willing to be with someone who has a kid hahahha. We may be ugly, but we are not that ugly hahahaha.
 
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gomez is offline gomez Post #20  October 6,2009, 8:45pm
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What up people? Like I mention earlier. It is not just single moms who have it hard when it comes to dating. Two women have all ready stop talking to me, because one felt comfortable to bring her kids around me. But she got mad, because I never brought my son around. Well, you're right what you said. I am not going to introduce a woman to my son, unless I feel strongly for that person. And sorry to say, she was more in to me; than I was.
 
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