SiriusBraveFan is offline SiriusBraveFan Post #1  July 25,2009, 5:30pm
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First off, I am 29 years old and one of my problems seems to be that I don't really have many guy friends. The high school/college friends are either married or it just seems I don't have much in common with them anymore..at least not enough to where we do things very often. Most of my closer friends these days are females. This just seems like a bit of a problem...maybe I just dont know how to handle it correctly..however, seems a little hard to meet someone when I'm constantly around a group of females.

This leads to my main question: when the people in this small group of friends have other plans (maybe family, or also a couple of them work on Friday and Saturday nights) and I feel like just going out somewhere...bar or whatever. Is it weird for someone to go out alone? Some people have mentioned not to do this because a guy hanging out by himself like that might appear to be a weirdo or something. I'm a pretty independent person so I don't mind doing things by myself. However, this can be a bit awkward especially since I'm pretty shy and often I won't see anyone I know when I go out places like that. What do you think? Anyone ponder this dilema?Thanks.
 
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followmesky is offline followmesky Post #2  July 26,2009, 8:47pm
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for me its the other way around..
I would say, its not akward, but it can be depending where you are. hmm.. maybe not . I think you won't know until you go out on your own a couple times and see how things go. .
 
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I run into the same dilemma. I can think of at least five of my guy friends who work Friday and Saturday nights, I work a Monday-Friday 8-5 job so our schedules do not align. They may have a Monday and Tuesday or Wednesday and Thursday off and go out, but if I have work the next day I am not going to drive an hour to town and go to a bar, then after drinking crash at a friend's place and have to get up at 6:30AM to get to work on time.

Alas, that leaves me with either going out alone on Friday and Saturday or not going out at all. I have gone out alone a few times and it does seem rather awkward. One of these days though I will get the guts to buy some cute lady at the bar a drink and perhaps meet someone. Till then I always end up having a few drinks and walking out alone.
 
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Thanks for the replies. And actually Saturday night I did go out by myself and it went pretty good. It didn't really feel too awkward this time. Saw a guy I knew sitting at the bar so we were able to chit chat a bit and I also got to talking with a couple of people next to me most of the night. Didn't really speak to anyone I was "interested in" but I suppose it's good to get used to striking up conversations with people you don't know. So based on that, I think it was a successful night.
 
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