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heartnsoul is offline heartnsoul Post #1  August 19,2009, 12:42pm
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I have a 13 year old and a 11 year old,i find it harder finding the a guy who excepts older kids,treats them good.I have to not only chose wisely for me but for them too.I had guys that i dated did not treat my kids well in the past.I have good kids,that is important to me to chose a partner who is looving to the kids as well as myself.Any advice?
 
 
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Hi, I wish I had the answers. I have been widowed longer than I was married. Now I'm 46 with a 14 yo. I've been on a few dates, but nothing that I was really interested in. Sure, I'm lonely. But I think I would rather be lonely than stuck with someone that made me feel miserable. I believe that I should be patient and wait. Because I believe that God always has a plan; I just might not like His timing. But in the end I know that His timing is perfect. Don't settle for anyone. Wait for your match. It will happen. I know it.
 
 
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I beg your pardon, but don't you mean that you want a guy who will ACCEPT your kids? Excepting your kids is leaving them OUT! I hardly think you meant that if it's a concern for you! , . . .just sayin'!
Sorry, but I'm personally very intent on how I use language & find it amazing that in this "educated" society, people abuse the english language so badly. Maybe I'm being rude, that's NOT my intent! but which is worse? For me to read that statement , think wrongly of you & move on, or to be so bold as to tell you about it & HELP YOU to improve how you are perceived by others?! I comment because I've seen it by the TON online & I'm quite frankly appalled! I use spell checker & read over what I post before I click to post it. I'm certainly not perfect & don't mean to come off as such, but being careful just shows respect for yourself. Education is important ! But what is more important is that someone CARES enough about themselves to be sure to be using the right language to convey their desires. Being articulate is SEXY! LOL!
 
 
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I beg your pardon, but don't you mean that you want a guy who will ACCEPT your kids? Excepting your kids is leaving them OUT! I hardly think you meant that (Add ',') if it's(No clear subject used.) a concern for you! (Delete '!')(Add ',') . . .just sayin'!
Sorry, but I'm personally very intent on how I use language & find it amazing that in this "educated" society, people abuse the english (Capitalize) language so badly.(Badly modifies abuse here, meaning people abuse badly, which actually means they are not good at abuse. I believe you meant to say that people frequently abuse the English language.) Maybe I'm being rude, that's NOT my intent! For me to read that statement ,(Eliminate gap) think wrongly of you & move on, or to be so bold as to tell you about it & HELP YOU to improve how you are perceived by others?!(Consider using'?' or '!' but not both. This is a long sentence fragment. I assume you were trying to ask which is better?Revise.) I comment because I've seen it by the TON online & I'm quite frankly appalled! I use spell checker & read over what I post before I click to post it. I'm certainly not perfect & don't mean to come off as such,(Unclear. You do not mean to come off as perfect?) but being careful just shows respect for yourself. Education is important !(Delete '!' . Add',' . De-capitalize "But" to combine these phrases into a coherent sentence.) But what is more important is that someone CARES enough about themselves to be sure to be using("to be sure to use" would flow better here.) the right language to convey their desires. Being articulate is SEXY! LOL! (There are 9 words spelled out in all capital letters here, and 9 exclamation points. Use these conventions less frequently to preserve the intent of strong emphasis.)
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