lynnabell is offline lynnabell Post #1  August 28,2008, 6:44pm
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So I was recently asked out by a very nice and attractive man, however there is a slight issue... he is a registered s e x offender. He is not allowed to be around children at all, since I am a preschool teacher this could be a bit of a problem. I am attracted to him, but not sure what I should do. Should I proceed and find out more about him, or forget about him? Help!
 
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Well... he HAS paid his debt to society.


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RUN !! You look like a child yourself and you work with children. This is bad news.
 
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This all depends on whether you have children of your own and how soon you'll be introducing them. As long as you wait a few weeks to make sure that it's YOU he's really interested in, then I don't see a problem. Maybe wait a couple months before asking him tobabysit though.
 
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lynnabell, wrote :

So I was recently asked out by a very nice and attractive man, however there is a slight issue... he is a registered s e x offender. He is not allowed to be around children at all, since I am a preschool teacher this could be a bit of a problem. I am attracted to him, but not sure what I should do. Should I proceed and find out more about him, or forget about him? Help!
I don't know but it sounds to me like you already have your answer. Being a teacher myself, I would definitely say, no thank you!
 
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A friend who is a therapist tells me these men can never be rehabilitated. You'd be wise to forget him.
 
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I actually dated one man last year that was a registered s e x offender, but I didn't know until WELL into the date. I LIKED HIM, TOO! Problem is that it would cause me a heck of a lot of problems (from work, my children's father AND any future with governmental contracts).....so I discussed it with him, and he said it was probably best if we didn't go further.


If you intend to remain a teacher, I would say it's probably not the wisest course of action to further ANY relationship with him.


He HAS served his time, so that's not the issue. Being a registered S E X OF F E N D E R is....cause it means he has a trail...and probably needs PERMISSION from his parolle officer to date you anyway.


Simply respectfully say, no thank you.
 
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Also, as a mother of a preschooler, I don't think I would take too kindly to a sex offender having potentially close contact to my child via you, the teacher.
 
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Kudos to him being honest about it, but run girl run!
 
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noseyparker,237213 wrote :

A friend who is a therapist tells me these men can never be rehabilitated. You'd be wise to forget him.
NoseyParker hit it on the head. From my past experiences in both living & dealing with men like this on a regular basis...it's best for you to sever allties now! You don't have to be mean, cruel or rude about it, but just tell him that you just can't handle this.


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I was studying to be a Catholic priest...so I know their "type" well.
 
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