UC Berkeley 'online dating revelations'

Men like womens' photos where the woman looks "feminine, high in self-esteem, and not selfish".

This is making me laugh.

... and start thinking about the evil women in Disney cartoons.In those, selfishness means a haughty upturned chin and narrow eyes.

This is making me laugh.

... and start thinking about the evil women in Disney cartoons.In those, selfishness means a haughty upturned chin and narrow eyes.

So UC Berkeley did a study of an undisclosed online dating service (probably not EH but who knows). I don't find any of their results surprising, having been reading EHA for awhile, but back when I was naive some of it would have surprised me. (info taken from article in todays Daily Breeze)

I think, since I am never-married/no-kids and it's apparent from EHA that a common stereotype for me is that I'm selfish, and men hate that, I'd better find a way to create photos that somehow magically demonstrate that I'm not selfish! What do you think?

Factoids:

Users by Ethnicity:
77.5% caucasian
9.3% hispanic/latino
7.4% african-american
1.6% asian
4.2% other

Median age:
42 - men
41 - women

Men sought women who were -11 years to +3 years.
Women sought men who were -5 years to + 7 years

90% of profiles were 40-305 words. Median number of words:
106 - men
118 - women

Love - women showed more caution for men whose profile used the word "love"
Hate - men showed more caution for women whose profile used the word "hate"

First contact:
26.4% of men initially contacted by women replied
15.9% of women initially contacted by men replied

Other little nuggets:
Men usually make the first move.
Both men and women seek partners who are similar to themselves in age, education, height, religion, politics, and smoking.
Women are twice as likely as men to specify they want someone of their own ethnicity.
Men add 1/2" to their height.
Women subtract 5 pounds from their weight.
Men say photos are the dominant predictor of whether they will initiate contact.
Women value photos but also pay attention to the written profile.
Women like mens' photos where the man looks "genuine, extroverted, and not overly warm or kind".
Men like womens' photos where the woman looks "feminine, high in self-esteem, and not selfish".

*getting new photo of me barefoot in simple peasant frock feeding orphans while forest creatures hover around me singing a lively tune*

Then men would think you never shave.

How does a woman look not selfish?