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2clueless is offline 2clueless Post #21  July 31,2010, 9:23am
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I understand why you might need a break but don't give anyone "power" to define your experience here or to define a consensus that has been unpolled. Frankly, there are people here that no one seems to like and people who seem to be besties. It's discouraging for those of us not in with the in crowd, too new to be old and too old to be new to think that "fitting in" has as impact on how our advice is received.
 
 
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Ah, nightling, I've always enjoyed yours posts. Even when I don't read all of them because I'm too lazy to read.

If you do choose to leave us, I wish you well. If you just take a break and come back, I await your return with an armful of roses.

If anyone has been passing along information about what others think of your posts, please remember that you are reading what someone else interprets.
 
 
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nightling wrote :
It has come to my attention from a rather prominent person here that a majority of members here have experienced many of my posts as condescending and arrogant or as a different person put it cold and unemotional.

I have no parting shot to make about any of that.

If you are reading this as someone who felt that way about a post I made, then I merely wish to say, I am sorry I made you feel bad. If you are reading this as someone who enjoyed my posts, then I merely wish to say thank you.

After giving this some consideration and thought, I am going to take my leave of this place.

I have experienced all of you as interesting and amazing people who have a lot to offer the right match. My life would have missed something had I not bumped into many of you, PY, Trixie, Breezy, Teeps, Jo, PSG, Scarlett, Buck ... and many others so numerous to name that I'm tearing up a little thinking about that list. Many of you lifted me up when I was down and helped a confused girl find her way, and I think you are all fine people whose company I was privileged to share for a time.

Good luck in life and stay safe and well.
omg you are freaking kiddding me?

i love your posts. we often disagree, but i learn a lot from you being here.

i'm not on here a lot anymore, and i post even less on the regular boards but i've always liked your posts. i kinda get where you are coming from though. at least i think i do.
 
 
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zephyr1973 is offline zephyr1973 Post #25  July 31,2010, 9:53am
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I'm relatively new to this online community, but I'm familiar with the deep emotional bonds people can form within such communities, having been a longtime member of other BB's. While I have no idea what has gone on in this particular situation, I can only guess that it must be pretty serious for you to have made such a choice.

Reading your posts has been a pleasure, and I am sorry you feel like this is the choice you needed to make. I envision you as being very strong, so my impression of this choice you are making is that whatever information was passed along to you was fairly difficult for you to hear. I hope the messenger is truly acting as a friend, and not as someone looking to stir up drama.

I do hope you come back, but I respect your need/desire to leave. Your posts will be missed.
 
 
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Nightling -- I don't know how anyone here could know what a majority of members think about anything. Even the simplest topics here get a wide variety of POVs ... let alone more complex things, like this. It might be a good idea for you to take whatever was said to you as just that person's opinion.

You have contributed a great deal to this community and I'm glad you've been here.

If you change your mind, now or down the road, I hope you will feel free to come back.

Meanwhile ... best wishes to you.
 
 
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Nightling.....as you can see, there are a lot of us who love having you around here. To me you're one of the most interesting posters around this place. Hate to see you go.
 
 
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I am out and about (shopping for an outfit for my date this weekend!) so I don't have time to deal with this properly so am locking it for now.
 
 
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