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Oregon_Coast_Guy is offline Oregon_Coast_Guy Post #1  February 13,2010, 8:51pm
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If this is a repeat post, I apologize.

This is a very tragic story about the death of 23 year old Alissa Blanton, who was gunned down at her work by a 61-year-old stalker. The most tragic part: The judge had days earlier denied putting a restraining order on the shooter. To me, this says that laws to protect women need to much much stronger and much improved.

Even though these two were never together, I urge this to all the ladies here: please be very careful on how much contact you decide to have with someone that you reject.

Alissa Blanton Killed by Stalker After Judge Denied Protection Order - AOL News
 
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k9force is offline k9force Post #2  February 13,2010, 9:42pm
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How very tragic. I don't know why she caved and gave the jerk her e-mail address, though.

A co-worker just recently told me an ex-boyfriend who has been intermittently stalking her just got fired from a job he's held for 34 years. He apparently shoved another co-worker and was fired on the spot. Now my friend is concerned that this already unstable individual may go off the deep end. Like the young lady who was murdered, we work with the public and feel like sitting ducks sometimes. Unfortunately, restraining orders are worth no more than the paper they're printed on.
 
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On a restraining order you have to list your home and work address. If you have children their home ,school,work address, you have to state that you are in fear of your life and give just cause. If granted the person you are restraining gets all this information so they know where they are NOT suppose to be. Just a little FYI.
 
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Why is a 23 year old soliciting a 61 year old on the internet in the first place?
 
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How horrible. It sounds like something failed miserably in the system...2 years this went on? Why couldn't he have just taken his own miserable life and left her alone?
 
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Oregon_Coast_Guy wrote :
The judge had days earlier denied putting a restraining order on the shooter. To me, this says that laws to protect women need to much much stronger and much improved.
What good does a restraining order do to stop a deranged stalker?

And, it's already against the law to shoot people unjustifiably. Do we make more laws to specifically include only women?

Laws and police don't really seem to protect anyone. Laws just provide some remedy (or attempt to). The girl lives in Florida where the right to carry is upheld. Maybe she should've been carrying her own protection. I know I would if I was in her situation.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Why is a 23 year old soliciting a 61 year old on the internet in the first place?
I don't think she did, D_Lion. If I recall the article, I believe he kept harrassing her when she was a waitress at Hooters so she quit and went to another job. I believe he was the one doing all the pursuing.
 
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If I were her hub/boyfriend or her daddy, probably would have had a man-to-man chat with him. Make him understand. Here nor there...I am sure they feel just awful about loosing her to such a senseless act.

She felt threatened enough to file a report, someone dropped the ball.
 
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EPO's are difficult to get, you have to be married, related to the person (ie mother/son), been married to the person in the past, living with them in an intimate relationship, or have children in common. Otherwise people have to get a retstraining order through the courts. But realistically, if someone is that crazy, a piece of paper is not going to stop them... it is a sad story, thanks for sharing.
 
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tweet37 wrote :
What good does a restraining order do to stop a deranged stalker?

And, it's already against the law to shoot people unjustifiably. Do we make more laws to specifically include only women?

Laws and police don't really seem to protect anyone. Laws just provide some remedy (or attempt to). The girl lives in Florida where the right to carry is upheld. Maybe she should've been carrying her own protection. I know I would if I was in her situation.
Perhaps police officers should be used to protect people, instead of patrolling for 15 year olds smoking pot. (That is not a bash on officers, but rather the system.)
 
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