Five Myths of Divorce, CS, and Custody in the USA


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Can_I_just_be_Jo is offline Can_I_just_be_Jo Post #71  November 6,2009, 5:41pm

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Uh, is this a poke at teachers?

I haven't had an employer which offered full benefits to part time workers (not including shift workers making under 80 hours / two weeks, such as three 12-hour shifts / week; they do tend to get full benefits.)
St. Louis Bread Company, 25 hours a week. 401k, health and dental. If I remember profit sharing as well. I also worked for Dierbers(grocery store) health. My current job gives our part time with no minimum hours paid leave, 11% pension 100% vested in two years, 5% matching on 401k. They are out there, you just have to look.
 
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Don't agree with student loans.

Buy the student a house or condo with multiple bedrooms.

Child lives in one, rents the others to other students, cash-flow positive immediately, which pays the mortgage.

Capital appreciation pays the tuition in four years.

Don't tell me you failed to check that option?
 
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Yea, those are linear benefits ... percents ... are they the same health cover as full time?
 
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Don't agree with student loans.

Buy the student a house or condo with multiple bedrooms.

Child lives in one, rents the others to other students, cash-flow positive immediately, which pays the mortgage.

Capital appreciation pays the tuition in four years.

Don't tell me you failed to check that option?
You sure that would work in New York?
 
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Yea, those are linear benefits ... percents ... are they the same health cover as full time?
Same as full time. For Breadco, which is Panera everywhere else full time is considered 25 hours for benefits. The other two no change between part and full time except only full time get the full health.

I started my current job without health in return for a higher wage. After a year I decided I wanted the health as well so they gave it to me without a pay cut. I love working for nice people.
 
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Not always - as Saul alluded to the other day.

In fact, I read that men are legally considered to be a father of any child born during a marriage, regardless of who the actual father is, and forced to pay (extreme) amounts to women who produced illegitimate children.

These laws, in existence since prior to DNA, are clearly unjust and should have been stricken immediately once definitive establishment of heredity became possible.

Further, legal expense associated with such fraudulent claims for "child support" ought be charged back to the woman (and, ethically, criminal sanction for fraud imposed, when evidence warrants.)
My post quite clearly says nothing about anyone except the two real parents, D.
 
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I think it works anywhere.

Proviso the student is responsible and can manage the property.

But yes - run the numbers. Four bedroom house or condo ought to get rental income from three bedrooms exceeding the mortage and tax, and all the capital gain you pocket.
 
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This thread has me all jumpy, but I forced myself to read through the entire thing before I replied.

DL, if you think where you live is too expensive, don't live there.

If your employer forces you to live there, find a different employer.

If you want to live there because of the "education level", which is frustrating to me as an intelligent woman without a degree, then you have made your own choice and are required to live with it. Priorities, you know.

I guarantee I make much less than you do and, while the cost of living here may not be as high as Manhatten, Vegas is almost on par with Los Angeles now, and that isn't cheap either. It's got me yelling at my computer, seeing you write how awful you have it financially because your house isn't what you expected while I'm living in a 700 square foot one-bedroom apartment. And it's not because I made Bad Decisions, it's because I made Good Decisions for the benefit of other people.

No more talk about how broke you are. It's a slap in the face to those of us who really are.
 
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Saul, this is interesting. Talking about regular people, by that I mean those people who don't make a lot of money, so the CS isn't big, my opinion is that the one paying CS is giving little comparing to the parent with custody of the kids, because the one with kids uses all her/his earnings, and many times struggles to keep going, specially the older the kids get, bigger are the expenses.
 
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You know, you are not the only one who is jumpy - I've been hopping-mad all week! I get upset at the subsidy-seeking, "child support should impoverish men due to obligation," mentality.

Everything I don't like about my situation, I'm actively trying to fix.

And I don't define my situation to US average persons, but to my peer group, as I should.
 
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