peg099 is offline peg099 Post #41  November 8,2009, 12:59am
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Since I believe that education / intelligence is one of the things that need to be similar to create compatibility I have to take a view of Chemistry as that their system is not very good at predicting compatible matches. My reason for this thread is not against this particular match but to point out the failings of another dating site that uses the same basic concepts as eHarmony.
If I were to make inferences on the quality of the algorithms based on the suitability of my matches, I'd have to give eHarmony a grade of about 2-5%. Sending me random matches the way POF does has a far higher success rate. At least that way I find guys with similar values, intellligence levels, interests, and a bit of personality. In one night I can find 5 guys on POF who are at least as good quality as the best match eH sent me in 6 months.
 
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But...er..duh...the researcher that came out with that ridiculous "ebonics" theory went to researcher doom the same way as the dumb schmuck that thought of the "Bell Curve". I'm an education researcher, and feel kinda sorry for folks that use erroneous data to support off-base views. They are a sight to pity!

But I digress....

So...since both theories have been largely ignored and dispelled by the research community and most level-headed folks, I'd say the writer of the e-mail is a loser, and needs to beef up on English before posting anymore e-mails.

Sorry..but as a multi-ethnic, multi-lingual person of color, I can't stand it when I see folks place finding a man/woman above acquiring basic communication skills (speaking,reading, writing) in the country they live in...you know the French would never stand for this!.....

I do apologize for my snarkiness...
Don't you have experience in special education as well?

You really can't concede that there might not be a learning disorder behind this? Or some other factor that might not be the person's fault?

I've seen you express this attitude before re: spelling in posts, and, given your experience in education, I'm just really surprised by it...
 
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Firefox does that, but Explorer (which most people use) does not. It's really unfortunate that we have no way of viewing our own profiles on eH. It makes it so much more difficult to detect things like spelling errors that we just don't notice when typing in the little boxes (and the boxes they give us to type in for our profiles really are way too small!).

If the profile in question was chock full of typos, I would most likely pass. If there are few....then so what. I know plenty of very smart (even well-educated) people who are bad spellers (and typists!)...lol.
Ahh so there is no way to see our own profile. I will stop looking. lol
 
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legend29 wrote :


But...er..duh...the researcher that came out with that ridiculous "ebonics" theory went to researcher doom the same way as the dumb schmuck that thought of the "Bell Curve". I'm an education researcher, and feel kinda sorry for folks that use erroneous data to support off-base views. They are a sight to pity!

But I digress....

So...since both theories have been largely ignored and dispelled by the research community and most level-headed folks, I'd say the writer of the e-mail is a loser, and needs to beef up on English before posting anymore e-mails.

Sorry..but as a multi-ethnic, multi-lingual person of color, I can't stand it when I see folks place finding a man/woman above acquiring basic communication skills (speaking,reading, writing) in the country they live in...you know the French would never stand for this!.....

I do apologize for my snarkiness...
I'm not sure I understand what you're saying ... but I was not looking down on the woman at all. Some people were taught to use ebonics as children ... they didn't have a choice in the matter.
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If I were to make inferences on the quality of the algorithms based on the suitability of my matches, I'd have to give eHarmony a grade of about 2-5%. Sending me random matches the way POF does has a far higher success rate. At least that way I find guys with similar values, intellligence levels, interests, and a bit of personality. In one night I can find 5 guys on POF who are at least as good quality as the best match eH sent me in 6 months.
What is POF?
 
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POF = Plenty of Fish, another dating site.
 
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nightling wrote :
What is POF?
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POF = Plenty of Fish, another dating site.
And it's free!

Which means you don't have to deal with people not responding because they're not paying members. If they don't respond, they're not interested. And a much higher proportion respond.
 
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