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Plan C 8 72.73%
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Wootz is offline Wootz Post #21  July 14,2010, 5:45pm
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scarlet13 wrote :
mostly, I need to get my health and sanity back-it's been 7 years since my last long vacation. I'm tired.
*grin* You sound a bit like the situation I was in, my last job.

When I got burned on the whole low-pay, long-hours, doing-darn-near-everything-but-signing-my-own-checks job I had, I gave a month's notice, planning on just chilling for a couple of weeks... and ended up picking up another job within three weeks of giving my notice. They cut my hours back a bit, which was awesome... for about four days. I nearly went stir crazy, not having anything to do.

But enough about me. *grin* I like option C best so far. Were I in your situation, I would seriously look into Jo's idea, too. Aim high. Look for a place where you can either take night classes, or better yet, have them pay for your training as long as you contract with the company to work there (or something very like). If it sounds like something you might like doing, give it a try.

Vacate. Make plans. Execute. *grin*

I'm sure you'll land on your feet. Hard working folks always seem to manage, somehow.
 
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nightling is offline nightling Post #22  July 14,2010, 5:58pm
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I don't get vacation pay.

the only reason that i would offer the 4 is because my boss is... a bit strange. he's made up stories about former employees before. he's odd. it's an odd industry.

you bring up a good point though- I could offer the 4 weeks and he might just let me leave after 2, depending on which end of the bipolar seesaw he's on that week.

thanks.



eh. I'm not thrilled with my job anymore. I'm unmotiviated and bored, and it's affecting my performance a bit.

my "vacation" consists of a week at Monster Mania selling merch for a friend. it's not a fun vacation.



jeez! ok, Ill try.
If the job itself could be fixed would you still leave?

It might be worth sitting down with the boss and stating what you've stated here? That you're bored and unmotivated and you'd like something to stretch and challenge you a bit? Could be he'd work with you to revamp the position a little?

I'm sorry I didn't pick one of the listed options. But in this economy, I'm afraid I can't recommend quitting a job without having a new one lined up, no matter how good your connections are.
 
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I would go with the option that gives you the longest break possible.

One month would definitely not get it done.
 
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Scarlet sorry to hear 2010 has been so bad for you.
I suggest B but tell your employer that if they need you a little longer you will work with them. You'll come off looking like a real team player in everyone's eyes. This will make getting a letter of recommendation from as high up as you can manage much easier too. Don't forget to ask for at least one!
I did this when I quit my job last fall because I felt so guilty about leaving them at the worst time of the year. I'm also in retail but no longer in stores and I was the only one that knew my job and it was a key job to get stores prepared for the holidays. But everyone is replaceable and they managed without me. I started grad school in January and hope to get out of retail- I was good at what I did but I was not happy. Someone was promoted into a key role in the company and people were just real miserable- the standing joke was how you were going to commit suicide.
And that was the third time I had quit my job without another lined up so I am a risk taker. It has always been real easy for me to find another bad job though (ah, retail!) so just make sure you don't fall into that trap. I'm trying like crazy to find the right next job but it is really brutal where I am and since I moved I have NO connections.
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Forgot to add:

mostly, I need to get my health and sanity back-it's been 7 years since my last long vacation. I'm tired.

No money is worth your health and/or your sanity. Hypothetically yes, lots of people would sacrifice for an obscene amount of money, but I doubt that's the case for most of us.
 
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nightling wrote :
If the job itself could be fixed would you still leave?

It might be worth sitting down with the boss and stating what you've stated here? That you're bored and unmotivated and you'd like something to stretch and challenge you a bit? Could be he'd work with you to revamp the position a little?

I'm sorry I didn't pick one of the listed options. But in this economy, I'm afraid I can't recommend quitting a job without having a new one lined up, no matter how good your connections are.
I hear you. unfortunatly, the job can't be fixed.

I don't work for a huge corporation- I work for a small chain of stores. the owner is a guy that's done things one way forever and we are like a big highly dysfunctional family.

it's not just the job- it's how i've been feeling in general. I've always looked at work as a way to pay the bills and for my hobbies, but the 2 years it's been all about the job, and that's what burnt me out. add some emotional upheavals this year... and here's where i am at.

quitting my job without having another one goes against my nature, believe me. but, I have the opportunity and the means, and honestly, i think taking a risk like this may be good for me. i think a few months of self reflection and intense work on myself will do me a world of good- and who knows what solution i will come up with.

i don't intend to waste my sabbatical on reruns of Futurama.
 
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PY_2 wrote :
Forgot to add:

mostly, I need to get my health and sanity back-it's been 7 years since my last long vacation. I'm tired.

No money is worth your health and/or your sanity. Hypothetically yes, lots of people would sacrifice for an obscene amount of money, but I doubt that's the case for most of us.
you are right.

I've always been the pitbull at work. i've mostly worked in commissioned sales and i've made really good money at it- the exception is when i changed over to working in the fitness industry- which is when i was the happiest, because my lifestyle and work meshed together.

I do think money is important- i like not having to worry or live paycheck to paycheck, and the freedom to do what i like- but honestly i live a pretty simple life.

this is scary for me. I thank all of you that responded- I'm not usually the bare your soul kinda girl.
 
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Scarlet sorry to hear 2010 has been so bad for you.
I suggest B but tell your employer that if they need you a little longer you will work with them. You'll come off looking like a real team player in everyone's eyes. This will make getting a letter of recommendation from as high up as you can manage much easier too. Don't forget to ask for at least one!
I did this when I quit my job last fall because I felt so guilty about leaving them at the worst time of the year. I'm also in retail but no longer in stores and I was the only one that knew my job and it was a key job to get stores prepared for the holidays. But everyone is replaceable and they managed without me. I started grad school in January and hope to get out of retail- I was good at what I did but I was not happy. Someone was promoted into a key role in the company and people were just real miserable- the standing joke was how you were going to commit suicide.
And that was the third time I had quit my job without another lined up so I am a risk taker. It has always been real easy for me to find another bad job though (ah, retail!) so just make sure you don't fall into that trap. I'm trying like crazy to find the right next job but it is really brutal where I am and since I moved I have NO connections.
Good luck.
lol. yeah, that's why i'm not so worried. I'm mostly a buyer now for the stores and do sales for the distribution end, but i know how seasonal hiring works in retail and though it's my backup plan, I know i can get hired somewhere at entry level.
 
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oh, I will.

thanks, everyone.
 
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