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Plan A 0 0%
Plan B 2 18.18%
Plan C 8 72.73%
You're an idiot. do this instead: 1 9.09%
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littlebluemonkeymind is offline littlebluemonkeymind Post #11  July 14,2010, 1:54pm
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I like Plan C as well. Yes - it delays things a bit, but you should be able to buy a lot of good will with your current boss by giving that much notice.

Early on in this stage is also the time to get written references and networking contacts. Update your resume before you leave. You might even use some of the time before you're done to start sending out 'feelers' in whatever field you're aiming toward. If it's the same retail area - you can start touching base with people from your networking list before you take off.

You have the money in the bank - if you're confident the market having a job for you when you're ready, no one is going to hold it against you that you took time off.

Two months off for someone who's worked all their life is a nice reward - and with the kind of year you've had, it seems appropriate.
 
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scarlet13 wrote :
I don't get vacation pay.

the only reason that i would offer the 4 is because my boss is... a bit strange. he's made up stories about former employees before. he's odd. it's an odd industry.

you bring up a good point though- I could offer the 4 weeks and he might just let me leave after 2, depending on which end of the bipolar seesaw he's on that week.

thanks.
Here's another thing you should remember, it's now a prosecutable offense in most states to trash talk to another employer...it basically amounts to slander.
Most HR departments now understand this and that is why they limit themselves to saying the person is "no longer employed there" and what the "dates of employment were"...and that's all.
Reference check agencies, like Allison & Taylor, can be used to anonymously check to see if these kinds of violations are occurring.
And they are prosecutable.
Ask me how I know.

I would never fear walking away..simply because what a boss might say...because he's a whack job...
That's akin to an abusive relationship, IMO.
 
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Here's another thing you should remember, it's now a prosecutable offense in most states to trash talk to another employer...it basically amounts to slander.
Most HR departments now understand this and that is why they limit themselves to saying the person is "no longer employed there" and what the "dates of employment were"...and that's all.
Reference check agencies, like Allison & Taylor, can be used to anonymously check to see if these kinds of violations are occurring.
And they are prosecutable.
Ask me how I know.

I would never fear walking away..simply because what a boss might say...because he's a whack job...
That's akin to an abusive relationship, IMO.
*sigh

yeah, I know. mind you, he's nothing but nice to me- I'm an excellent employee.

thanks for the info though- I'm googling and bookmarking.
 
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
I like Plan C as well. Yes - it delays things a bit, but you should be able to buy a lot of good will with your current boss by giving that much notice.

Early on in this stage is also the time to get written references and networking contacts. Update your resume before you leave. You might even use some of the time before you're done to start sending out 'feelers' in whatever field you're aiming toward. If it's the same retail area - you can start touching base with people from your networking list before you take off.

You have the money in the bank - if you're confident the market having a job for you when you're ready, no one is going to hold it against you that you took time off.

Two months off for someone who's worked all their life is a nice reward - and with the kind of year you've had, it seems appropriate.
that's a good idea, and i will get on that. I also decided to pay ahead my house and car insurance.

I'm not bragging here- but i could technically take a year off. it would wipe out my savings other than my retirement funds, but worst case scenario I'm fine.

besides, my living expenses aren't that much, and if i had to get a cashier job at Home Depot to help out I am sure i could. besides- I'm talented- i can bartend, teach yoga, sell anything, I have my estheticians license, so i can wax bikinis, do makeup etc, etc.
 
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trixie1868 is offline trixie1868 Post #15  July 14,2010, 2:23pm

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Is there a chance that your current employer would go for you taking an unpaid sabatical?

Give yourself three months of mooching about and thinking and researching what you really want to be doing. It would give you something guaranteed to be in over the christmas season which is exactly when retailers don't want to be without their most senior managers.

I know it's not your style but you have had a year that would leave anyone drained and it's not unreasonable to play that card at work.

If a break isn't an option then I like C best (and I've just aquired a freakin' huge mortgage so I understand caution). The part time option still locks you into routines and locations that no longer invigorate you. Option 2 is a bit reactionary for the sake of extra weeks away from a job that you don't hate, you just don't enjoy.

What are you thinking for the long term Scarlet?

A visit to Blighty? You'd be very welcome.
 
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I have to go with Jo's D but I am very conservative. I would not quit a job without another unless I was so unhappy it was effecting my health.

I know nothing about the economy in NJ currently or what retail jobs are like there. I have a friend who is job hunting right now and is finding it very difficult. However, I have been getting lots of calls from head hunters (we are in different professions). I would say in the past when the economy was great taking time off between jobs was not looked upon badly and if you are a very good person it will not likely be held against you--but may make things a bit harder landing the first job.

Saw your latest post...I will vote C then.
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Is there a chance that your current employer would go for you taking an unpaid sabatical?


i've thought about that, but probably not over the holiday season. and i think that if i take a month off from my current job i'm NOT going to want to go back.

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I know it's not your style but you have had a year that would leave anyone drained and it's not unreasonable to play that card at work.

If a break isn't an option then I like C best (and I've just aquired a freakin' huge mortgage so I understand caution). The part time option still locks you into routines and locations that no longer invigorate you. Option 2 is a bit reactionary for the sake of extra weeks away from a job that you don't hate, you just don't enjoy.

What are you thinking for the long term Scarlet?

A visit to Blighty? You'd be very welcome.
yeah, I thought about that PT option too the same way.

ha! if i can't find a job at least i know you need a roomie! i hope you like cats.
 
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[/b]i've thought about that, but probably not over the holiday season. and i think that if i take a month off from my current job i'm NOT going to want to go back.
If you decide to hand your notice in anyway then there's no harm in asking for a sabatical, if they say no, you're leaving anyway - which sometimes mean that they change their mind about you going unpaid and away for a while. If you take a month off and you don't want to go back, then you don't go back. You can hand your notice in during a sabbatical.

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scarlet13 wrote :
I'm not thrilled with my job anymore. I'm unmotiviated and bored, and it's affecting my performance a bit.

my "vacation" consists of a week at Monster Mania selling merch for a friend. it's not a fun vacation.
Well then B or C are both fine. Whichever you're more comfortable with. A friend of mine got laid off a few years ago (common in his industry) and decided that instead of getting another job, he would do a "test run retirement". He took a year off. Then he got so bored that he went back to the job he was laid off from with the added benefit of a promotiion and better benefits. Go figure.
 
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I go with option C and just like Blue Monkey said.....use this opportunity also to network with others and get the feelers out to trusted people, staffing agencies, etc. So essentially, you can start taking 'mental vacation' during your last month there (but still perform your duties of course), since normally major companies take 1-2 months to reply anyway.
 
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