Book Discussion: "The Rules" by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider


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Immerito is offline Immerito Post #1  August 26,2008, 5:28am
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I'm curious as to who here has read this book. If you have, what did you think of it?
 
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smiles416 is offline smiles416 Post #2  August 26,2008, 6:28pm
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I have not read it but a coworker did. Her boyfriend that she was head over for ended their relationship rather abruptly, crushing her.... she then went on a self help crusade and read this particular book and followed the rules. She applied the rules to the former boyfriend and then over time he came back to her and as she continued to follow the rules the relationship strengthened to the point of cohabitating and now a baby is expected in October and they are blissfully happy!
 
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Huh. I thought the point of The Rules was to get a new man. Anyway . .


I read The Rules. My question is this. I am a man. How do I get a Rules Girl???


Where's my Rules???
 
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Vomit, excrement, urine, and bile are all more apealing than a woman that follows this book.
 
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But a woman who follows this book actually wears lipstick.
 
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doctorx0079,255071 wrote :

But a woman who follows this book actually wears lipstick.
It's true! I've met her. Good luck with that, though. She lives in Prague.





There's rumored to be a woman who works in a coffee shop in Delaware who occasionally wears it as well, but who knows? I love cryptozoology, don't you?
 
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Someone must have bought these books for the 15 minutes in 1998 that they were popular. Not anyone I've ever met in Real Life though. I used to mention it and people were like, "Huh? Never heard of it." The Mars and Venus books were way more popular but those just suck.


To answer the original question, The Rules is basically a charm guide telling ladies what men like. I agree with about 90% of what they say. Men do tend to like those things, at least me and my friends. But don't pay any attention to the rule that says "Follow The Rules Religiously." Don't follow The Rules religiously, use your head.


I'm all in favor of self-improvement including trying to improve one's appearance. Believe it or not I am trying to improve myself. A book that says women can attract men by being more charming is okay by me.


Just wasting my time with this thread though. Probably only 3 people on this whole board have bothered to read this book or will ever read it, let alone gone to the (considerable) effort of doing what it says. Let's face it, it was a fad who's time has passed, for good or ill.
 
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doctorx0079,255071 wrote :

But a woman who follows this book actually wears lipstick.
I ware lipstick and I have never read the book The Rules...
 
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smiles416,233879 wrote :

I have not read it but a coworker did. Her boyfriend that she was head over for ended their relationship rather abruptly, crushing her.... she then went on a self help crusade and read this particular book and followed the rules. She applied the rules to the former boyfriend and then over time he came back to her and as she continued to follow the rules the relationship strengthened to the point of cohabitating and now a baby is expected in October and they are blissfully happy!
I've read both The Rules and The Rules for Internet Dating and while I've yet to try them out thoroughly, I think they actually DO work. Before joining eHarmony and becoming a little more saavy, I totally broke all the rules and a lively relationship (which SEEMED very promising) disintegrated with a crash. Fortunately, the guy was Mr. Wrong, so it didn't matter (once I got over being heartbroken). Along came a new relationship...I'm now communicating with and maybe a little bit head over heels with a man from another state who is supposed to come visit me in October and I'm going to put The Rules to the test. I think the authors are on to something. The thing is to avoid revealing too much too soon (and I don't mean that about clothing; I mean about everything such as "emotional baggage" and ones personal dramas).


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Tootrue1969,264899 wrote :

doctorx0079,255071 wrote :


But a woman who follows this book actually wears lipstick.


I ware lipstick and I have never read the book The Rules...
Good for you. I think it will help you. A lot of men notice these things right away, believe it or not.


Good luck, Santafelady. Watch out for Joker2, he doesn't like Rules girls.
 
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