linda111 is offline linda111 Post #1  August 11,2010, 11:44pm

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how do you think ?anyboday seen the book before,if you read it ,do discuss it with me.
 
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Wootz is offline Wootz Post #2  August 12,2010, 1:41am
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There are several books with that phrase as a part of the title (looked up via Amazon.com), but I haven't seen one exactly like it yet. Who is the author? It sounds a bit like psychology... I am curious. *grin*
 
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linda111 is offline linda111 Post #3  August 12,2010, 1:54am

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its name is the secret,anybody seen it?do you think it tell you the truth?
 
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Wootz is offline Wootz Post #4  August 12,2010, 6:03pm
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I remember skimming a book by that title a few years back (apologies, but I did not read it cover-to-cover). It talked about what it called the law of attraction, and how one's thoughts and feelings can attract similar things- Positive thoughts bringing good things to a person, while negative thoughts sending them away (and bringing ill favor in return).

It is a controversial book in many ways, though there are bits here and there that mesh with what I've learned in life, as well as what I've been taught since I was young.

One, my grandma always said "Can't never could." This, to me, was her way of saying "if you truly don't believe you can do something, then you have already failed." She wanted us to be ambitious- in all the right ways. Unfortunately, I was often enough ambitious in all the wrong ways, climbing too high in the barn and constructing improbable tree-forts out of scrap wood and bent nails (somehow managed to avoid tetanus).

My parents avoided telling me that I could be whatever I wanted to be when I grew up (pragmatic was the watchword here). But I was taught to treat people the way I wanted to be treated (the Golden Rule), and to help out those in need when I could.

I'm no big believer in miracles, but I've seen a few happen. Just wanting a change is only a part of the equation. I believe that one must work towards a goal consciously, and keeping a positive attitude is a part of that.

Also, I've found that being generally content and upbeat is a quality that most people find pleasing (or at the very least, non-threatening). Happiness is an intrinsic good, right? People want to be happy. The like being around people who are (mostly) happy. So this quality is somewhat self-reinforcing- it draws more positive results, on the whole.

As for positive thinking causing drastic results, I am of two minds about that. One, no amount of wishing will heal a severed limb... But, by the same token, I should never have been born (according to the doctors of years past). So while I cannot discount that positive thinking can cause some real world effect, in terms of scale I have definite opinions. *grin*

I do hope I am referring to the right book (The Secret. by Byrne, Rhonda). I could very well be wrong...
 
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k9force is offline k9force Post #5  September 4,2010, 7:32am
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I think you are thinking of the right book, Wootz. I was going to purchase it last year and fortunately was able to borrow it from my brother. Glad I didn't waste my money! Can't recall exactly the contents of the book but was not at all impressed considering the hype made about it. Seems like each chapter was very much like the one before.

By the way, my mom had a saying similar to your grandma's. She'd say (when I was getting discouraged about something) "Can't never get nothin'!" Guess it had basically the same meaning. Oh, my mom had a million of 'em!
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