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The question of whether to tell about my son hasn't come up, because no one has asked me out. Living in the country, I really have no place to meet someone, except online. My job is helping families get services for their children with special needs in upstate NY.


My younger son, Joe turns 15 on Monday. He has Down Syndrome, needs help with all of his ADLs including toileting, so that has been my life for the past 15 years, taking care of him and advocating for his needs, along with raising his 4 brothers and sisters by myself.Joe doesn't speak, but he communicates all the time. It was a tough choice to place him in a school last fall, but it was what he wanted, and he's in a wonderful school with lots of buddies now, so he loves it. The thing is, I'm not dating because no one has asked me. A friend said I wasn't giving off that 'vibe,' whatever that is. Any suggestions?
- September 6th, 2008, 07:17 pm
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dmc80809, wrote :

I've just dating again aftermy divorce 4 years ago...I've been corresponding and talking on the phone a bit...had a few dates...and I am struggling with when do you tell them about your child's special needs? I have not been saying anything right away-guess I am trying to see if anything develops after the first meeting (which it hasn't on my side), and I also feel that information about my children is pretty private and not something to discuss immediately.


Any experience with telling before or onthe first date vs. on the second or 3rd date?

Some say I am way to up front in my profile which I edited again to tone it down but being married and knowing what it is all about I prefer being this way. Why beat around the bush? Wasting both of us our time. Here's what I have...










More About Me: My interests/activities change constantly according to what's happening in and around my life. The only constant is my spiritual interests and my 15 year old daughter when she is with me. Some say the way to a man's heart is through his stomach? Maybe a fleshly man, but in my case, when I see you loving my youngest who has a learning disability and her bonding with you too, then at a deep level you have reached my heart. She has to know & feel she isn't losing my love & attention when you become a huge part of my life but, gaining another who loves her as much as I do. I know she will thrive in a blended family if we consider her interests from the get go and then all 3 of us, will have the rich love our hearts desire & need. So unless your heart is wide enough to include her well-being and growth; spiritually, emotionally, mentally & physically, any attempts establishing a marriage between us will be futile.




If we want true love then we must be truthful!


PS Thank-you for starting this group!
- December 1st, 2008, 09:57 pm
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i agree with this...when i initially started this thread, i didnt have much experience with dating, with how to handle all of this...





i am currently in a relationship, where i was upfront before we met about my unique situation...he has had questions and i think he some fears, but he's hanging in there with me...





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- December 3rd, 2008, 06:50 pm
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Ok, here's one for you. I met someone but didnt tell him right away about my son. We IM/emailed for a couple weeks. We went to lunch and after about the first 5 minutes I realized he wasnt the "one" for me. Perfect opportunity to tell him about my autistic son. I thought that would make him run but he was only more intrigued and wanted to continue seeing me. Life is full of surprises I guess...ugh.
- July 8th, 2009, 09:00 pm
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Cinn...I had the same thing happen to me...LOLZ!
- July 9th, 2009, 02:53 pm
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Rookie mistake posted twice, sorry
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- July 26th, 2009, 09:29 pm
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I usually don't get passed the fact I have 2 young kids at home. I have my kids and photos in my profile and at 65 the group 50s&60s move on, their loss. The few coffee dates I have had their special needs come up and that has been the last date even though the kids are doing great, I guess just too scary for some and I respect that. I don’t want to drag things out then have them feel like I was hiding things from me. At times the whole thing is confusing as I was married for 24 years and just to date in general is a challenge. I know there is someone out there that wants to wrap their arms around a very special family while we wrap our arms around theirs, which is what keeps me going. If my kids have taught me anything it is to not give up!
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- July 26th, 2009, 09:40 pm
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