Wow… quiet here… but I guess we should have known!

First, let's address dating sites -- I am on eHarmony and every single man, without exception, that I have been matched with is intuitive. And, many, intuitive feeling, like me. The few I have actually dated are all NFs or NTs who are self-aware enough, through experience, that they need to pay attention to the feeling side of their partners. Hey, as we get older, we get better, right?? I could NEVER again be around anyone who was incapable of seeing the big picture and empathizing with another. He must be able to put himself in my shoes. He must be cognizant of my needs - verbalized and non. According to "The Five Love Languages", we give love in the way we would like to receive it. The book teaches you to find out which method is most important to your partner, and show them love in that manner. My ex, an ISTP, thought that he was showing me heloved me by letting me take care of him. Loser!! He failed to acknowledge that I even had needs. I now know that most men want to be shown love by personal touch. I want to be shown love by acts of service (my ex did nothing for me or our kids-got me a glass of water once) and words of affirmation (he was verbally and emotionally abusive). So, now the quest to find my one true soul mate, my twin soul. He's out there and he's sorta just like me, only a guy.


About the introvertion and extrovertion comparison: I and E really only help us determine how we gather energy. Outgoing doesn't mean extroverted. I am introverted and very outgoing. But, I gain the most energy by being around small groups of people, one person or by myself. I work around alot of people and I love it, but I am drained when finished for the day. It's then that I have to go into myself for a while and become re-energized. I lock myself in my bathroom - Thankful it's big. Extroverts gather energy from being around alot of people, and are ready to go to another party as long as everyone else wants to go too.