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I think whatever your preference may be, realize it is your preference. Sometimes there's an underlying meanness or cruelty to people's preferences. I do prefer good looking guys, but i am a very nice person, i'd never diss, insult, mock or disrespect anyone who isnt my type.
It has to do with compassion, how genuine you are, the trueness of your heart.
Just be a nice person, no matter what your preference is. Dont have an attitude about it.
- August 6th, 2009, 06:46 pm
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Most people are shallow but won't admit it.Every one would want their date to not have massive black cavities or missing front teeth- or is that shallow? That would say that the date either 1) doesn't care enough about self to take care of dental needs or 2) doesn't have insurance or funds to do so. Number 1 would not be someone I care to date - people need to care/love self. Number 2 is in an unfortunate situation and I empathize, but I do not want to be a caretaker because I do care about myself.Shallow?

Everyone is shallow...but comparing a puddle to an ocean...thats the trick.
- August 7th, 2009, 09:55 pm
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Everyone is shallow...but comparing a puddle to an ocean...thats the trick.
Agreed. People with substance can look beyond those void of depth and have a great life, while those who barely skim the surface won't even notice that no one is paying attention to them anymore. We need to acept people for who they are, and either that appeals to us or not.
- August 7th, 2009, 10:44 pm
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I'm not shallow, and I don't think other people are; all the time.

I saw this girl's picture today though, and I wanted her. I didn't know her name or anything about her. I saw her picture and wanted her.

It's not shallow, but it could be considered shallow by an observer who is unaware of my thoughts.

I think most people are like this. Misunderstood to the point where explanation isn't worth the effort to explain away the disconnection.

Behaving in a shallow manner could itself express depth in the proper circumstance. It's all just labels in the end. People behave the way people are.
- August 10th, 2009, 01:23 pm
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How about this:

You accuse others of being shallow, not yourself. Maybe it's just a displacement tactic used to cover up your own feelings.

("You" doesn't refer to the OP, but those who use the term "shallow.")
- August 10th, 2009, 06:48 pm
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OK, here's a true story:

A few years back, I was at a gas station right off an exit on I-95. At the next pump, there was an older station wagon towing a small but new-looking camper, and the driver was pumping gas. He was to my mind quite unattractive: short and pudgy, in his early 60's, with a thin, polyester shirt, greasy thinning hair, stooped shoulders, and a most unpleasant demeanor. It was appalling. He was actually shouting into the convenience store, presumably for his wife: "D*** it, Mommy! Hurry up! What the h**l are you doing?!" He continued in this manner off and on for 3 or 4 minutes: "...what's the matter with you, Mommy.....hurry up....d**n it all....". I was angered by it and embarrassed for this poor woman. In my mind, "Mommy" was starting to look like (dating myself here) Edith Bunker. Any moment now she would come trotting out of the store in her dumpy attire, pocketbook clutched in front of her, to nervously face more of his swearing and wrath and who knows what other kind of treatment....

.....So imagine my surprise when "Mommy" saunters out in her cowboy boots, blue jeans over the thin legs that seemed to go up to her shoulders, and a half-unbuttoned chambray shirt....tanned, blonde, and looking like a 40-ish recently retired model! She slowly walks over and drops a kiss on the top of his greasy little head (easy to reach, since she was nearly a head taller than he, in her heels), and she says - or rather purrs - "awww....worried?" in a baby-talk voice. With a toss of the blonde hair, she swings her supple body into the passenger seat as he, still frowning and muttering, gets behind the wheel, and off they go - with me, frankly staring after them.

So here are my questions: is he shallow, for having a beautiful "trophy wife"?

Is she shallow, for coddling him and not standing up to his behavior?

Or am I shallow, for assuming that he's worth at least $5 mil and she gets it all??!

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