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WeDesignOurLives wrote :
Pretty open for a stubborn person...opinionated, is that different than passionate? (what are you trying to win?) I used to be stubborn and I'm still oversensitive...take things far too personally that just aren't so (but I would never know till far far later).
Thank you, WDOL. If you ever encounter me in the workplace, I will ask you afterwards if you still think I'm open for a stubborn person. I am nicknamed 'The Bulldog' at work ... they just think I don't know that! LOL

Yes, they are different here. Opinionated is negative and passionate is positive. Opinionated is usually someone seen as a 'know-it-all'. Passionate is an opinionated person with emotion - so is personally engaging and therefore seen as a positive trait rather than a negative one.

Hmm, over-sensitive. Do you mean reading into something which isn't present?
- October 24th, 2009, 02:55 am
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We just love 'labels', which, to some extent, avoid the need for long explanations.
If you say "My wife/husband", just about everyone knows what you mean, but "partner" is, IMO, very ambiguous.
"Significant Other" sounds to me (born British) very "American" (not necessarily a bad thing ) , but it suggests in just 2 words that you have a close(ish?) 'emotional relationship' with one other person...of indeterminate sex!
It's not a complete description for a new acquaintance to understand, but it's a good start
I probably wouldn't use it myself, because it is too American for my personal style of speaking, but don't mind others' doing so.
- October 24th, 2009, 04:43 am
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rogerb wrote :
We just love 'labels', which, to some extent, avoid the need for long explanations.
If you say "My wife/husband", just about everyone knows what you mean, but "partner" is, IMO, very ambiguous.
"Significant Other" sounds to me (born British) very "American" (not necessarily a bad thing ) , but it suggests in just 2 words that you have a close(ish?) 'emotional relationship' with one other person...of indeterminate sex!
It's not a complete description for a new acquaintance to understand, but it's a good start
I probably wouldn't use it myself, because it is too American for my personal style of speaking, but don't mind others' doing so.
So what do you prefer (Brit or otherwise)?
- October 24th, 2009, 12:06 pm
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We just love 'labels', which, to some extent, avoid the need for long explanations.
If you say "My wife/husband", just about everyone knows what you mean, but "partner" is, IMO, very ambiguous.
"Significant Other" sounds to me (born British) very "American" (not necessarily a bad thing ) , but it suggests in just 2 words that you have a close(ish?) 'emotional relationship' with one other person...of indeterminate sex!
It's not a complete description for a new acquaintance to understand, but it's a good start
I probably wouldn't use it myself, because it is too American for my personal style of speaking, but don't mind others' doing so.
LOL - yes. Aussie here ... we use 'my better half' instead of SO or partner.
- October 24th, 2009, 03:22 pm
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I don't have a partner, SO, better half, emotional relationship or other label at the present time. Why? Initiatially, I just got tired of the dating scene in the early 90's and took myself out of it. When I did that, the weight started to balloon, and I got to the point where I felt the only woman who would be interested in me would be one with a peg leg and a harpoon. As my weight reached it's peak, my mom was diagnosed with Alzheimers' and I became her primary care giver. By the time, I got rid of the weight, my mom had deteriorated to the point that I didn't have time for a relationship. She passed in February, and now I have the time and that's why I'm here. I'm in search of a label.
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i lived w/ a man for almost 20 years. we haven't been together for 5/6 years now. i don't have a SO at this point in my life because i like being by myself, not answering to any one and doing things i want to, when i want to...or not doing something if i don't feel like it. there is a difference between loneliness and just being alone. and i like being alone right now. now sex is something else.
- October 24th, 2009, 09:02 pm
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I do think it is a number of factors. First, I don't want to settle for less, just having a boyfriend for the sake of going out or for just sex.
Sex is dangerous out here now days. also I have family at home so if I were to meet someone and we wanted to be intimate/ alone, it would have to always be someplace away from my home,

And for the longest I did not want to bring any one around my children who may or may no be around for the long haul. also I have my widowed mother to contend with.
I have not found someone who share most of my likes desires,goals open-mindedness,shared interest. I do firmly believe that it is the common ground area in the relationship that hold a union together, not the many difference.

The common interest have to out weight the difference. my children are in their twenties now. so I am freer than in the past. however, there still is my mom. and I guess we are a package deal, which is hard for relationships.

So that is my plight and my story on why I am not with someone. I have a positive out look however he is out there some where. I just have to be in the right place and time as he is in his life. smile.
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meri75 wrote :
LOL - yes. Aussie here ... we use 'my better half' instead of SO or partner.
I like the sound of "better half"
- October 25th, 2009, 07:22 am
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My friends say I don't have a partner because my picker is busted. So I tend to choose guys with a hidden fatal flaw (drugs, racism, cheating). I usually figure it out pretty quickly, so that means I'm without a partner again.

The other thing they say is that I only get the messes because the nice ones are intimidated by me. I am a little too "center of attention" for the quiet ones, so there ya go.
- October 25th, 2009, 05:50 pm
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THX11386 wrote :
I like the sound of "better half"
And it works so well with all manner of tones and facial expressions too!
- October 28th, 2009, 04:27 am
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