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HarryG wrote :
That's just it-being in sync. The "romantic" stuff starts high and eventually levels off to a more standardized keel. Someone who cares for you will always think of you-but you won't always be the first thought on his/her mind. Jobs, kids, life all have a way of cutting into the priority line. The important point is that if its the right one, you will never leave their thoughts. You'll be in there.

Look at couples who have been together decades: He is not bringing her a dozen roses everyday. She is not preparing his favorite meal as a surprise. That stuff faded when infatuation was replaced with love. The important thing is that he and she are fully committed to the other-and it shows. It shows just in the way that they act together and how they treat each other. The flame never died-it just maintained.
always be the first thought on his/her mind..... as i smack my forhead and have a light bulb moment. :-0
No wonder I am chronically single. I like being the last thing they think about at the end of the day Because the first thing I think of each day is...Ohhh man...if it wasn't for this old lady bladder I could still be sleeping and dreaming hussy dreams....
- September 30th, 2009, 12:39 am
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always be the first thought on his/her mind..... as i smack my forhead and have a light bulb moment. :-0
No wonder I am chronically single. I like being the last thing they think about at the end of the day Because the first thing I think of each day is...Ohhh man...if it wasn't for this old lady bladder I could still be sleeping and dreaming hussy dreams....
hog, i think you would be ok if it was first thing after lunch.. instead of first thing in the morning.. as long as it is a "first thing" moment..

hey, i always say, work with whatcha got...
- September 30th, 2009, 06:26 am
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rogerlee5 wrote :

My point is that you can dream all day about the fantasy, or you can go live it.. The only difference is putting forth the effort to do it.. And then putting forth the effort to sustain it.. (i.e. ya gotta work at it..)

With Stat and I, our first date started in the Dallas Airport.. The date was on the Oregon Coast, but I bought a round trip ticket, flew to Dallas, got off the plane, kissed her on the cheek, put us both back on the airplane I just got off of, and flew back to Portland with her.. Because I didn't want her to have to fly up alone..

We talk.. We talk on the phone, we text, we talk when we are together..

So, Laced... Is it possible?? Absolutely.. Is it easy to find somebody who wishes to live the fantasy?? No.. Unfortunately.. It doesn't seem to be.. Too many people just won't make the effort, and then they form excuses, or try to blame everything around them for the failure.. But it is possible..


Sniff,sniffsniffsniffsniff..sobsob......Y'all happy now? RL had me crying in a big ole puddle of tears last night......and then once more today. Have you no mercy at all? Pitiful !
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- September 30th, 2009, 09:08 am
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lacedwithhope wrote :
It's good to see that so many people 'get' this concept. The idea of being 'on-board,' 'dialed-in,' or in-sync etc. is pretty simple, isn't it? But it can seem so difficult ...

The excellent point has been raised that your way of showing your significant other that they matter will depend on not only on your 'style' but hopefully also on your partner's needs. So... each relationship is different. As several mentioned, the effort may change as the relationship progresses through different phases, but it continues and it's influenced by the needs of your partner.

Years ago, a friend who is a marriage counselor told me that when she and her husband go through challenging times, she asks him "what do you need from me?"

Maybe it's that kind of effort that keeps a relationship alive far beyond the lust phase. And not just in 'stupid' fairy tales.
That's a great quote, laced. I'll have to remember that question. Thanks!
- September 30th, 2009, 09:45 am
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Reason: I's trying to work with what I gots!
js.. from where I stands, you gots a lots!!
- September 30th, 2009, 12:54 pm
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Nylit wrote :
I know a couple I have been friends with since we met in high school and they have been married about 30+ yrs. She still writes lil love notes and puts in his lunch box for work,(he gets teased at work and loves it), they still hold hands and cuddle in public, he whispers in her ears special love words they share. I like watching them together and their kids have grown up very loving due to seeing Mom and Dad in love.
Yes, I believe in fairy tales, soulmates, whatever you want to call it, its true love and both should feel it for the other.
Call me sappy, I can't help it.
My parents did that through 63 years of marriage. And one day not long before my dad died my mom was talking about aging and how it affects your looks or something, and my dad said, "What do you mean? You still look exactly like the girl I married." *sigh*
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My parents did that through 63 years of marriage. And one day not long before my dad died my mom was talking about aging and how it affects your looks or something, and my dad said, "What do you mean? You still look exactly like the girl I married." *sigh*
I want that.

When I was dating my ex-BF, he bought me a very distinctive necklace. He told me whether we ended up together or not, every time I looked at it, I should remember that I deserve to be treated better than men have treated me in the past. Very sweet.

I looked him up on Facebook this morning, just out of morbid curiosity and boredom. He's back with his ex-wife and he bought her the exact same necklace.

I'm going to say that's NOT what I want.
- September 30th, 2009, 07:25 pm
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Aw, that's so sweet, fino. It's like that with my parents also. I'd like that also, but time isn't going to allow that for me. But, I was lucky and met someone on the advice board. No, we weren't matched by eHaha, we met on the advice bs almost a year ago.
- September 30th, 2009, 08:48 pm
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chawks64 wrote :
I want that.

When I was dating my ex-BF, he bought me a very distinctive necklace. He told me whether we ended up together or not, every time I looked at it, I should remember that I deserve to be treated better than men have treated me in the past. Very sweet.

I looked him up on Facebook this morning, just out of morbid curiosity and boredom. He's back with his ex-wife and he bought her the exact same necklace.

I'm going to say that's NOT what I want.
You could mail her your necklace...then she'd have a matched set?
- September 30th, 2009, 09:17 pm
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You could mail her your necklace...then she'd have a matched set?
No, she can keep him and mail me HER necklace!
- September 30th, 2009, 09:21 pm
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