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My dating scene is rather dark right now. I didn't have any luck with EH and any other dating site for that matter. I decided to take a break from the disappointment and rejection and sit on the bench for a minute.
- July 21st, 2009, 07:30 am
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Won't give any details b/c I'm afraid I'll jinx myself, but things are looking up a little. I might not be out of the sewer yet, but I think I can see the surface.
Ok, false alarm. Still in the sewer
- July 22nd, 2009, 08:30 pm
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cfibl wrote :
Ok, false alarm. Still in the sewer
*sigh* My sentiments exactly. Haven't been on many dates thru EH, did much better with two other sites, but I can sympathize with your prior statement, thinking a potential might be a good one, and then the false alarm.....
- July 23rd, 2009, 11:25 pm
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Icouldwriteabook wrote :
*sigh* My sentiments exactly. Haven't been on many dates thru EH, did much better with two other sites, but I can sympathize with your prior statement, thinking a potential might be a good one, and then the false alarm.....
Actually, things are looking up a bit again. I think I was just having a rough day and was trying to make a mountain out of a molehill.
- July 24th, 2009, 08:32 am
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I'm new to EH but so far it looks a lot less promising than the advertisments.

Easily 70% of the "matches" that show up have no photos - and that is an immediate "close" for me. I posted clear, recent photos of me and expect the same consideration from others.

I've "sent questions" to three people and had one response. I responded by answering their questions and that's where it has stalled.

One that I "closed" (out of about 20) sent back a "good luck" note.

I "closed" about a dozen "matches" without responding because I have no idea how someone could have thought they were a good match for me.

I read elsewhere comments that indicate people can tell when a "match" is bogus or no longer active etc. I read some people referring to profiles as "poofs" and don't know what that means. ??????????
How does one learn all that info about the other people here?

Thanks All !
- August 12th, 2009, 08:57 am
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Seneca wrote :
I'm new to EH but so far it looks a lot less promising than the advertisments.

Easily 70% of the "matches" that show up have no photos - and that is an immediate "close" for me. I posted clear, recent photos of me and expect the same consideration from others.

I've "sent questions" to three people and had one response. I responded by answering their questions and that's where it has stalled.

One that I "closed" (out of about 20) sent back a "good luck" note.

I "closed" about a dozen "matches" without responding because I have no idea how someone could have thought they were a good match for me.

I read elsewhere comments that indicate people can tell when a "match" is bogus or no longer active etc. I read some people referring to profiles as "poofs" and don't know what that means. ??????????
How does one learn all that info about the other people here?

Thanks All !
How you can tell whether or not a match is bogus or not active is sort of a guessing game, but some signs are no photo (or sometimes only 1 photo), several sections of their profile is not filled out, or they just don't respond to communication (neither answer the questions nor close).

Poofing is a term that's used here on the boards to describe when a match is being really responsive then they just quit responding w/ no explanation. Like they vanished. This seems to happen to a lot of people, and for me it was one of the more frustrating things about eH.

I'd suggest not necessarily closing all of your matches w/out photos, but send a photo request if their profile. Also, give it a little time. A lot of your initial matches have probably been on eH for quite awhile and are probably communicating w/ several other matches.

Good luck.
- August 15th, 2009, 11:23 am
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Actually, things are looking up a bit again. I think I was just having a rough day and was trying to make a mountain out of a molehill.
Well turns out the molehill was a mountain. Just got the old shine a couple of days ago after a frustrating but naively hopeful couple of weeks
- August 15th, 2009, 11:27 am
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My dating is going rather poorly. I keep meeting guys who have so many health problems that I believe they are going to die any minute. These are guys in their mid 40s to 50s. In fact one guy when I called him he answered his phone in the emergency room and said he was having a heart attack. I didn't hear from him for a few weeks so I assumed he had died. Then he calls me and tells me he had a corinary bypass and is recovering in a nurcing home. And this is just one example of many. I don't know why I attract these guys. I do have an idea.
- August 17th, 2009, 07:05 am
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shellyg wrote :
My dating scene is rather dark right now. I didn't have any luck with EH and any other dating site for that matter. I decided to take a break from the disappointment and rejection and sit on the bench for a minute.

How does a beautiful women like you have a difficult time dating! Yes I know, online dating isn't easy. Have you thought of doing volunteer work or taking a night course? I would think any healthy man would want to hug you.

Good luck!
- August 18th, 2009, 03:35 am
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eye_on_sparrow wrote :
My dating is going rather poorly. I keep meeting guys who have so many health problems that I believe they are going to die any minute. These are guys in their mid 40s to 50s. In fact one guy when I called him he answered his phone in the emergency room and said he was having a heart attack. I didn't hear from him for a few weeks so I assumed he had died. Then he calls me and tells me he had a corinary bypass and is recovering in a nurcing home. And this is just one example of many. I don't know why I attract these guys. I do have an idea.

OMG, you killed me! Lol, ok I better be serious.
I know a lot of my older buddies in their fifties have health issues. Oh wait a minute...cough, cough, arrrrrrrrrrrrrgh. I'm in trouble, dying of
an empty heart...

Hmm well maybe you need to be a Cougar? I know that men die many, many years earlier than women. In fact I have a clock ticking telling me I only have five or so years. Anyone want to take a chance on me?

We'll have the best five years! Lol.... I work out five days a week but i don't want to live to be an old man.
- August 18th, 2009, 03:39 am
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