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I can honestly say I am choosing to date outside my race. I have for the past 20 or so years. Its just what I prefer. It's what I am attracted to mostly.





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- February 17th, 2009, 02:39 pm
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Truety, wrote :

I have been encountering the subject where there is this idea that black men and women, in particular, are purposely deciding only to dateoutside oftheir race. Is this a general or growing consensus? If you feel this way, why? If not, why do you think this issue seems to be becoming so prevalent?



I feel it is a general consesus. I am one of those black men who consciencsly chooes to date outside of my own race. My reasons are because of my past experiences in dating black women. We just don't click the same way as it does-- as it is with women of another race. In my opinion, I believeit depends on your cultural background. I think this has a great barring on a mans dating preferances, or women for that matter.
- February 18th, 2009, 10:32 pm
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I only ask because black man come in every shade from vanilla to expresso, some you may not even know their ethnicity until they ask.
I fell out of my chair when I read this! I've never been compared to a color of coffee before. I don't take offense, it is actually true and funny! While I don't have a preference I do find that I tend to date outside of my race. I think this is because a lot of my family members are mixed, or have dated/married outside of their race and it is pretty much what I grew up around so I've always been accepting of it.

To the original topic poster you should try to test all of the waters. It's funny but at first glance if you saw me walking down the street you probably would never peg me for a black male that spends part of his time looking over lines and lines of vertex/matrix code and writing algorithms for 3D engines. Yeah, I get that a lot. And you probably could not and would not tell just by hearing me speak that I was a very educated, motivated black man. These are all assumptions that I am making about you, but I believe they are probably not too far from the truth.

Again, you'll never know who you will meet unless you open up yourself to all possibilities!

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- June 7th, 2009, 12:44 pm
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I, like many other people, choose to date outside of my race (which is black). because i am in no way shape or form attracted to black guys... especially after being sen as a freak by most (because of mainly my music preference). and on top of that, most (not to sound racist against my own people) if not all the black guys who even live near me have that whole "ghetto" & "hood" mentality. even when i went to college, most of the black guys on campus even acted that way. and yes i do realize not ALL black men act that way... but hey again i cant help that im not attractd to them and that im attracted to others.
- July 2nd, 2009, 08:00 am
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Are people deciding to ONLY date outside their race?

Damn, I didn't know E.T. was back & looking 4 a mate!

I only date Humans.
- July 3rd, 2009, 04:56 am
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Interracial Amour is a new dating service where professional and collegiate white men (non black men) can search purposefully for sophisticated black women. In other words, the chase is on for beautiful black women. Visit us at Interracial Amour and read our campaign release statement.
- August 13th, 2009, 10:25 am
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Truety wrote :
I have been encountering the subject where there is this idea that black men and women, in particular, are purposely deciding only to dateoutside oftheir race. Is this a general or growing consensus? If you feel this way, why? If not, why do you think this issue seems to be becoming so prevalent?
This is especially true among successful black men & women, as well as Asian women and white men, at least here in NYC.

With regard to the former group, the mindset is that all of the good ones in one's socioeconomic range are taken. And now that a lot of younger, successful black males now have access to Asian women who now look upon us, there is all the more thinning out of available successful black men.

The above notwithstanding, I primarily see Asian women with white guys here in NYC. Seems to be wholly accepted as the norm among them, which may explain why there is such an abundance of single white women here, many of whom seem to be turning into cougars for young males (black and white).
- November 8th, 2009, 03:48 pm
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Just for the sake of disclosure, I primarily date outside of my race. I am like many brohs that simply feel (and experience) that ALL of the compatible black women are taken. What's leftover, I have little patience. For example, what black women call "challenging" their man, I call being unnecessarily argumentative and sometimes obtuse; what black women call "more to love," I call fat and living an unhealthy lifestyle. And since the few, single, attractive, degreed, professional, childless black women (in my age group and locale) I encounter feel just as negative regarding black men, why bother limiting myself.

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I never dated out side my race to my knowledge most of us are mix some where ..but LOVE has no color an theirs all type in a rainbow /good ,bad short,tall ect.. it all how you feel about it if it works for you go out try something new. an beside i must say i have seen some sexy one out side my race..
- November 12th, 2009, 10:58 pm
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