Advice and Support from Thousands of Users Just Like You

Christian Singles This is a Discussion Group for Christian Singles Feel Free to Post any Threads that are Related to Christian Dating. Note: Seekers welcome.

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
MValleyEast MValleyEast is offline
MValleyEast's Avatar

Newbie

Join Date: Nov 2009

Posts: 7

See profile

I am a born again Christian and new to this community. It is difficult to find a good Christian man, especially since I am a single parent. We ladies who obey the Biblical mandate to choose only believing mates are dismayed by Christian men who deliberately date unsaved ladies. Our pool of eligible gentlemen is small enough! Why do guys who are supposed to be walking in the Spirit do this? What recourse do Godly women have when we can't date unbelievers, but the believers won't date us? Male and female perspectives on this subject are both encouraged.
- November 4th, 2009, 09:12 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#1   Reply With Quote
cardguy cardguy is offline
cardguy's Avatar

Pacesetter

Join Date: Aug 2009

Posts: 299

See profile

While I'm sure your experience is frustrating, I don't see why you need to make this all men's fault. You just may not notice it when the reverse happens because those women aren't in your dating pool anyway.
- November 4th, 2009, 11:07 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#2   Reply With Quote
FaithNGod FaithNGod is offline
FaithNGod's Avatar

FaithNGod {Expressed through Word, Authenticated through Action} LOVE

Pacesetter

Join Date: Apr 2009

Posts: 351

See profile

Dont be discouraged but have faith that God is still preparing you and your future mate. It only takes God to provide only one that is according to His will for your life. Finding a rare gem is exaclty that RARE! You will have to encounter many different who are false and not right for you. But when the rare gem finally becomes clear, your heart will sing with joy and you will want nothing more than to glorify God for His provision.
- November 4th, 2009, 11:52 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#3   Reply With Quote
eFlorida eFlorida is offline
eFlorida's Avatar

Newbie

Join Date: Nov 2009

Posts: 3

See profile

For what it's worth, remember that we have all sinned and have fallen short of the Glory of God. (Romans 3:23)

I recently contacted a man who claims to be a Christian. He may well be, but his behavior (we "chatted" until he was able to see my photo, then nothing) was disheartening. I sent him a note reminding him that regardless of what he thought of me, if he claims to be a Christian and even identifies the church he is affiliated with, he's not being a good ambassador for Christ.

Of course, that was after I felt hurt and prayed, then forgave him for being fallen. In all reality, if that's the way he is, I'd rather not have him as a friend, let alone someone to date.

Bottom line, take heart. God knows you. It's all good! Read Jeremiah 29:11-13. Good stuff!
- November 5th, 2009, 02:11 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#4   Reply With Quote
Hisown Hisown is offline
Hisown's Avatar

Hisown was bought with a great price

Quick Study

Join Date: Nov 2009

Posts: 172

See profile

MValleyEast I hear your pain and discouragement. It is frustrating to feel that men are choosing wrong mates but if those men are doing that then you would not be happy with that man. He would not be what you are looking for. You want to be equally yoked and not yoked with a man who is carnal and soulish. I have been a single mom with children and married and then been unhappy again. So don't be so enamored with being married. Be enamored with the Lord who desires to be your Husband. He woos you and loves you like no other. He knows your heart and will bring the mate you are to have that will be exactly what you need and want. So don't keep your eyes on everything around you and those men who discourage you but keep your eyes on Him. He is faithful and knows your heart and needs. Keep praying and trusting Him. He desires to bring you into a deeper relationship with Him and your children. I will pray for you and that He will fulfill the desires of your heart. He knows you best because He created you and put those desires within you, so be patient and wait on Him!
- November 7th, 2009, 02:02 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#5   Reply With Quote

ADVERTISEMENT

Reply

Bookmarks

« Is Virginity Relevant Anymore? | Array | This or that? »
Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“ He knows the abuse wasn't sexual, and he knows I am not gay or bisexual.” – charity8987

Join the “Argh, screwed up with new guy.” discussion

“my dream color is medium red brown with auburn tones” – jtwark

Join the “L'Oréal's 'Find Your Fall Hair Color' Sweepstakes!” discussion

“all, or most of my matches lately have been people that never reply to the first step of communication or their profile says to contact them on facebook. it seems to me that these profiles are people ... ” – Coca-Cola

Join the “matches dont respond/their profile says contact them on face book” discussion

“sounds like things are going great! i'd suggest that you just keep doing whatever it is you are doing. and don't sweat the little things.” – notyet

Join the “always so paranoid” discussion

“"Billed in one installment of $239.40" means, "Billed once for $239.40." Pardon me for saying this, but if I had less than $40 in my bank account, buying an eHarmony subscription will be the least ... ” – Coca-Cola

Join the “eHarmony payment plans” discussion

“ Call them!” – Coca-Cola

Join the “FCW - Interesting Problem” discussion

“It appears the OP hasn't participated in EhA since she login and posed her question initially. We all come to these advise boards with so many different backgrounds...in fact I wrote another post on ... ” – RoxyRedhead

Join the “Frustrated & Confused: Is He A Sexual Addict???” discussion

“Darn..is that it..the first sign of awkwardness and kapowie/ shoot the relationship down.Here we haver 2 introverts without, apparently, heaps of experience, looking not for a way to end it, but for ... ” – RoxyRedhead

Join the “what to do... second guessing myself” discussion



All times are GMT -7. The time now is 04:46 am.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.1
Copyright ©2000 - 2009, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.3.0