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I am a born again Christian and new to this community. It is difficult to find a good Christian man, especially since I am a single parent. We ladies who obey the Biblical mandate to choose only believing mates are dismayed by Christian men who deliberately date unsaved ladies. Our pool of eligible gentlemen is small enough! Why do guys who are supposed to be walking in the Spirit do this? What recourse do Godly women have when we can't date unbelievers, but the believers won't date us? Male and female perspectives on this subject are both encouraged.
- November 4th, 2009, 09:12 am
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While I'm sure your experience is frustrating, I don't see why you need to make this all men's fault. You just may not notice it when the reverse happens because those women aren't in your dating pool anyway.
- November 4th, 2009, 11:07 am
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Dont be discouraged but have faith that God is still preparing you and your future mate. It only takes God to provide only one that is according to His will for your life. Finding a rare gem is exaclty that RARE! You will have to encounter many different who are false and not right for you. But when the rare gem finally becomes clear, your heart will sing with joy and you will want nothing more than to glorify God for His provision.
- November 4th, 2009, 11:52 am
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For what it's worth, remember that we have all sinned and have fallen short of the Glory of God. (Romans 3:23)

I recently contacted a man who claims to be a Christian. He may well be, but his behavior (we "chatted" until he was able to see my photo, then nothing) was disheartening. I sent him a note reminding him that regardless of what he thought of me, if he claims to be a Christian and even identifies the church he is affiliated with, he's not being a good ambassador for Christ.

Of course, that was after I felt hurt and prayed, then forgave him for being fallen. In all reality, if that's the way he is, I'd rather not have him as a friend, let alone someone to date.

Bottom line, take heart. God knows you. It's all good! Read Jeremiah 29:11-13. Good stuff!
- November 5th, 2009, 02:11 pm
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MValleyEast I hear your pain and discouragement. It is frustrating to feel that men are choosing wrong mates but if those men are doing that then you would not be happy with that man. He would not be what you are looking for. You want to be equally yoked and not yoked with a man who is carnal and soulish. I have been a single mom with children and married and then been unhappy again. So don't be so enamored with being married. Be enamored with the Lord who desires to be your Husband. He woos you and loves you like no other. He knows your heart and will bring the mate you are to have that will be exactly what you need and want. So don't keep your eyes on everything around you and those men who discourage you but keep your eyes on Him. He is faithful and knows your heart and needs. Keep praying and trusting Him. He desires to bring you into a deeper relationship with Him and your children. I will pray for you and that He will fulfill the desires of your heart. He knows you best because He created you and put those desires within you, so be patient and wait on Him!
- November 7th, 2009, 02:02 pm
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