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I'm not arguing for sex before marriage since I feel that's a decision between the believer and God, but would you think it was okay if your new bride only wanted to be intimate once every 3 or 4 months for the rest of your life? Or if she was much more or less "creative" than you were comfortable with? I don't think 4 decades of that (or more) would be something I could accept as character building.

Again, I'm not promoting pre-marital sex for everyone, but I do feel the couple at least needs to discuss it honestly, and in great detail, before they commit to each other for the rest of their lives.
Amy, I have been out shopping and getting my hair cut and all the while thinking obout your question. I have one for you.

What would you do if you marry someone you know to be sexually compatible and latter on either emotionally or physically he is completly unable to deliver sexually in any way?

What if he becomes tired of the same old same old with you? What if he wants to introduce porno into your relationship or other men and women into you relationship to spice things up?

My point is that I know like everyone else you have a standard in which you live and conduct your life by. The question is how close or far away is our own standard to what God teaches in His word that His standard is for us concerning these things?
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What would you do if you marry someone you know to be sexually compatible and latter on either emotionally or physically he is completly unable to deliver sexually in any way?
That would make the marriage extremely difficult, but I think it's along the lines of any other crisis situation - you deal with it. But I wouldn't want to knowingly set out in an extremely difficult relationship if I could prevent it. I've been in a marriage where we went from very frequently to just a few times a year, by his choice. If it happens, it's just the cards you've been dealt. But I would never volunteer for a life like that if I could find out before I commit my life to someone. It's not fair to either one of us.

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What if he becomes tired of the same old same old with you? What if he wants to introduce porno into your relationship or other men and women into you relationship to spice things up?
My last serious relationship was with a man who wanted different things than I did (I'm trying to phrase this politely), and I was very up front about what I was and was not okay with. Thankfully, we did not marry, though we did seriously consider it earlier on. He would have been terribly frustrated after the "new" wore off, and I would have felt pressured to do things I wasn't even close to comfortable with. People can drift into other areas along the spectrum, but it's rare for them to make a radical swing from conservative to extremely adventurous.
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I am meeting QG in DC for the first time. We have been comunicating for over a month now and we have a deep affection for eachother. Everything I have come to know about her has been a perfect match of what I have desired in my heart.
Aha!

I noticed your posts had mellowed a bit. Sounds like maybe your happiness is showing!

I'm glad, and I'll be praying for you both.
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OK all I can answer this one simply. Let's do what Jesus said to do. Wives submit to your husbands. And men treat your wife the way Christ did the Church. Yha, I said it be willing to serve, go though pain, and even die. We men think women should fallow the good book, but fellas read on and fallow what is says for us to OK! Problem solved, if two people are serving the lord and doing there best to please one another, you don't have this problem. Problem solved!
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