Friendship: When to advise and when to let go.

I copied this from another thread called UNEQUALLY YOKED:








II Corinthians 6:14
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers (do not make mismated alliances with them or come under a different yoke with the, inconsistent with your faith). For what partnership have right living and right standing with God with iniquity and lawlessness? Or how can light have fellowship with darkness? (AMP)



To get a clear picture of what this passage means we must understand what an unbeliever is. One definition of unbeliever would be someone who does not believe in God; they believe there is a God but they don’t believe in Him; they won’t give their life to Him; they don’t trust in, adhere to, and rely on Him; they have not made God the lord of their life.


It may surprise us to know we have people like this in the church. People who are consistent in attendance and tithe bringing and offering giving and always ready to lend a helping hand, but their hearts are far from God. They still operate in the natural realm, being led by the flesh and not the Spirit,


Romans 8:1. This is an unbelieving believer.


Another definition of an unbeliever would be; someone who does not even believe there is a God or someone who knows there is a God but refuses to acknowledge Him or His ways.





II Corinthians 6:15
What harmony can there be between Christ and Belial (the devil)? Or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?



We need to understand that as a believer we are the temple of Christ. If we date an unbeliever we, the temple of Christ, are dating the temple of satan – which is full of idolatry. As a believer Jesus is our best friend. Why would we want to date someone who doesn’t want anything to do with our best friend?





II Corinthians 6:16
What agreement (can there be between) a temple; of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God; even as God said, I will dwell in and with and among them and will walk in an with and among them, and I will be their God, and they shall be My people.



God and satan cannot come into agreement with each other. If we date an unbeliever we cannot come into agreement with them unless we compromise. It is absolutely impossible to date an unbeliever and not come under their influence. You may think you are holding your own but before you know it your cooked. A frog will jump out of a pot of boiling water but if you put him in the pot while the water temperature is still comfortable he will remain in the pot slowly cooking and never even know he’s dying.





II Corinthians 6:17
So, come out from among (unbelievers). And separate (sever) yourselves from them, says the Lord, and touch not (any) unclean thing: then I will receive you kindly and treat you with favor.



How can we justify dating an unbeliever after reading this scripture? If we are dating an unbeliever we are walking in disobedience to the Word of God. When we are walking in disobedience we stop up our anointing flow. We are no longer effective as a minister (witness).





II Corinthians 6:18
And I will be a Father to you, and you shall be My sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.


II Timothy 2:21
So whoever cleanses himself (from what is ignoble and unclean, who separates himself from contact, with contaminating and corrupting influences) will (then himself) be a vessel set apart and useful for honorable and noble purposes, consecrated and profitable to the Master, fit and ready for any good work.



Before we can be effective as a minister (witness) we must be set apart from evil influences. Any life style that does not line up with the Word of God is an evil influence. “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers” is a command not a suggestion or caution. It’s instruction on how to live a life separated from the world. When choosing a mate we must be careful to look for someone who can relate to us as a believer, someone likeminded, someone on the same level of us spirituality or same place of spiritual maturity.





II Timothy 3:16-17
Every Scripture is God-breathed (given by His inspiration) and profitable for instruction, for reproof and conviction of sin, for correction of error and discipline in obedience, (and) for training in righteousness (in holy living, in conformity to God’s will in thought, purpose and action).
So that the man of God may be complete and proficient, well fitted and thoroughly equipped for every good work.


Amos 3:3
How can two walk together except they are agreed?



We must be led by God when choosing a mate. We must not even date someone unless he or she is a candidate for a life mate. If you are dating someone, you know you will not marry, you are dating someone else’s spouse. I believe this is too close to the sin of adultery. Why would I want to date someone that I know will marry someone else?


According to these scriptures dating an unbeliever is wrong, it’s against God and it’s a dead end road.


WE MUST BE LED BY THE SPIRIT!





If she's truly a Christian, confront her with The Word of God. This BOY isn't the man she needs in her life.