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Hey Ya’ll, I have a question for any takers. I have a male friend who met a woman online. She is middle aged as he is. She is very nice looking gal for her age. They corresponded for a while and during that time he googled her and found a lot of personal information. I mean just about everything but her bank account number. They decided to meet. He was genuinely concerned about all of her personal information being public so he made mention of it during their first date. The next day he received and email from her. She told him that she did not appreciate him doing a background check on her and that, that was an invasion of her privacy. She said that proves he has trust issues.


How would you feel if someone googled you? Would feel it an invasion of your privacy? Would love to hear from you on this.


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- September 21st, 2008, 11:48 pm
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hmmm interesting, that makes me want to google myself and see what I will findAs for your question I think for myself I would mostly be offended if someone were to google me for information. I consider myself an open individual and would answer honestly any questions people have for me. I think I would probably also feel as though the person didn't trust that I was an honest individual and in my opinion thats a low blow to someone character. I can see why she would feel as she does though. But I guess it goes to show that with the power of the internet, technology and smart people nothing can be hidden. If you really want to know something you can find it!
- September 22nd, 2008, 08:04 am
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so long as it was idle googaling the only issue is that the data is by no means acurate. heck i've even done a few things to make sure its not.


there is a line however, with the information most of you put in your profiles one can, if they want find your street address, among otherthings. but this would take more than idley saying gee i wonder what will pop up if i type her name in here while i'm here. the issue is that the information is out there, and easaly accesible, expecting them not to take advantage of it is like expecting me to make you choclates from scratch when the store sells them cheeper and better.
- September 22nd, 2008, 05:09 pm
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Not much on my personal stuff, but I do work for a state agency. I guess if you really are a nut case, you can follow me to work, stalk me to see how late I leave, or just pretend you know me, make friends with the security guard (get a swipe to the elevator), get someone from the office to open the front door to the floor and allow you in by keying in the code. But, hey what do I know abour a security breach? It only happened last weekend when an ex boyfriend and another friend came to visit and somehow they got inside the building after hours, through the elevator, front office door and pass the code.....
- September 22nd, 2008, 07:32 pm
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Another reason why I don't have my space or facebook, blogs or any of that sharing online too much anyway. What if I was looking for work and a potential employer found some weird or bad things about me?
- September 22nd, 2008, 07:34 pm
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jeanie7, wrote :




Hey Ya’ll, I have a question for any takers. I have a male friend who met a woman online. She is middle aged as he is. She is very nice looking gal for her age. They corresponded for a while and during that time he googled her and found a lot of personal information. I mean just about everything but her bank account number. They decided to meet. He was genuinely concerned about all of her personal information being public so he made mention of it during their first date. The next day he received and email from her. She told him that she did not appreciate him doing a background check on her and that, that was an invasion of her privacy. She said that proves he has trust issues.


How would you feel if someone googled you? Would feel it an invasion of your privacy? Would love to hear from you on this.


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I have to say that it can be scary when someone looks at your personal information on the Internet and yes, it can be an invasion of privacy. I still have nightmares of an ex-friend from my childhood who has behavior problems. I fear him possibly trying to find me and God only knows what kind of man he will be at that time. However, it's good in a way to do a background check on someone that you're interested in. Many men don't know whether a Russian woman is genuine or is part of a relationship scam ring. A man may not know what crimes a woman was arrested for or what behavior problems she has. I feel that doing a background check will save me a lot of trouble of getting deeper into a troubling relationship with a woman who has mental problems or has a criminal history. I also think that it's not a good idea to mention to your date that you've done a background check on her or him. It can scare her or him thinking that you might be a psycho.
- September 23rd, 2008, 11:47 am
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Another reason why I don't have my space or facebook, blogs or any of that sharing online too much anyway. What if I was looking for work and a potential employer found some weird or bad things about me?
Actually employers use facebook and myspace all the time to check out potential employee's. A friend of mine is in the RCMP here in Canada and she didn't have facebook. She found out from her last interview that a potential candidate was turned away due to the fact that her page wasinappropriate. Apparently she was in the interview and the individual interviewing her told her flat out that she wasn't accepted due to the fact that her facebook page panted a completely different picture then what she had presented to them. So it does come up and can bite you in the butt! I know with my work, once a resident leaves our facility we are not to associatewith them unless it is for rehabilitation purposes. I've had several requests on facebook to add former residents as a friend, which I've denied and then blocked them. Infact whenever we have a resident that leaves our place I always block them on facebook if they have a page, that way they can't find me. There are times I think of deleting my page just because it makes my life that much more difficult.
- September 23rd, 2008, 11:50 am
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Songbird25 wrote :

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Another reason why I don't have my space or facebook, blogs or any of that sharing online too much anyway. What if I was looking for work and a potential employer found some weird or bad things about me?


Actually employers use facebook and myspace all the time to check out potential employee's. A friend of mine is in the RCMP here in Canada and she didn't have facebook. She found out from her last interview that a potential candidate was turned away due to the fact that her page wasinappropriate. Apparently she was in the interview and the individual interviewing her told her flat out that she wasn't accepted due to the fact that her facebook page panted a completely different picture then what she had presented to them. So it does come up and can bite you in the butt! I know with my work, once a resident leaves our facility we are not to associatewith them unless it is for rehabilitation purposes. I've had several requests on facebook to add former residents as a friend, which I've denied and then blocked them. Infact whenever we have a resident that leaves our place I always block them on facebook if they have a page, that way they can't find me. There are times I think of deleting my page just because it makes my life that much more difficult.



Hey Songbird, This is good information to know. I had no idea of this practice by employers. You mentioned a back ground check. Googling is hardly a back ground check but I too would google or do a back ground check if I felt the need to. To do a thorough back ground check one would need a signature. But the Internet does make it easy to find out whatever one wants to find out. People can be who ever they want to be online and on the telephone. I say there is nothing wrong with little googling. I have been googled for sure, no one has ever told me they have googled me but I am sure they have.


It is not wisdom to tell someone you have googled them, that is for sure...(smile)
- September 23rd, 2008, 12:01 pm
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I'd google anyone before meeting them. They can put anything on their profile. Of course, they can give you a false name.


I don't guess I would have mentioned that I googled her. And to do it in a correcting manner- well, this would turn me off right away.Makes him seem very controlling.If she had that much information out there, then she put it out there herself, or at least a good deal of it. Google yourself. He really couldn't find out "everything but her bank account number".
- September 23rd, 2008, 12:10 pm
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I had friends from collegefind me with Google and I was thrilled. I am a writer and have stuff all over the place, but nothing of an extremely personal nature (at least I don't think so). Employers may be going a little too far. Is anyone their total self in an interview? Of course not. You're not there to make friends, you're there to get work. I saw three of my co-workers go through divorces on my last job. Do we want to peek in on the fights that led to the break ups and pass judgement? Or maybe we can judge the 4 martinis the CEO has everyday at home. Unless what you see online completely goes against what someone is being hired for, would impede job performance or co-worker moralor raises SERIOUS ethics concerns (PETA hiring a guy with a shoot critters for fun website), then mind your beeswax.


- September 23rd, 2008, 12:24 pm
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