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I posted a topic in the Health & Wellness section talking about my experiences over the last 5 or 6 months, and what I've discovered about the price you have to pay to reverse years of neglect and doing what you need to to get into peak condition. (Although that thread landed in moderation for some reason)

I think we really should be straight with people and tell them honestly that it is going to hurt. As I said in that post during those first several weeks your body is not going to like what you're doing to it. I discovered that if you really want to get into shape then you're going to have to do more than walk or other light to moderate activities. You have to step it up and push yourself into areas where you feel it. I don't mean overdoing it or over-extending yourself, but I do mean where after a workout you actually do feel like you've worked out.

And beyond the fact that it hurts is also the point I mentioned about not seeing the results in those early weeks that you feel you should given the work you've put in. It takes time to get your body to where it starts shedding the pounds. Also to some degree you may be building some muscle which is neutralizing the weight loss so that in fact you might not see any change on the scales early on. I know I didn't see any change in my weight for the first 3 to 4 weeks, but I knew I was getting trimmer because my clothes were fitting a little looser.

I think the thing people need to realize is that they can't approach this as some kind of quick fix. It takes time to get your metabolism to where it needs to be and to get your body to where it is working with you instead of against you. Yes you're going to hurt, but over time you'll be able to do more and the same level of exercise is going to hurt less. Of course when one level gets completely comfortable then it's time to up your routine.

I think people should start out and give themselves a full year. Don't worry if you're not seeing what you think you should see in the first weeks or first few months. The important thing is you're staying with it and remaining consistent. If you're exercising more and eating less (as well as healthier) then the gains are eventually going to come. Of course the ultimate goal is to incorporate all of this into a completely new lifestyle that you'll maintain for the rest of your life.

Just know that getting there is going to mean experiencing some discomfort along the way
- September 12th, 2009, 12:10 am
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I agree with you! There may be "quick fixes" for getting in shape but typically the quicker you lose it, the much more likely that you'll be needing to re-lose it -- plus a few of its friends....lol

I like the pain of a good workout, a couple of days later if I feel those muscles hurting it tells me I did a good job! It's hard to feel that way when it's real pain, but for me if I don't focus on the good, I'd give up way too easily.
- September 14th, 2009, 05:32 pm
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Yes it does hurt....and if you are a waffler like me then it's helpful to have a "cheerleader" in your corner because it's going to hurt more if you stop Albeit, she is a 73 year old cheerleader but I would never trade in good old mum for anything

So what do you do to combat the pain? I believe pain is up there on the top 10 list of why people settle for the couch instead of the gym. Brisk walking is my thing (when I'm not trying to mix it up with beginning belly dance and yoga) because I think I would go into cardiac arrest if I attempted to run. Often my feet hurt/swell and I invested in a vibrating heated foot bath by Homedics which I add Epsom salt and tea tree oil to. Then at night I put a standard sized pillow under both my legs in a way to support both my knees and calves to help circulate things back up to where they belong.
- September 15th, 2009, 06:44 pm
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PR_Princess wrote :
I believe pain is up there on the top 10 list of why people settle for the couch instead of the gym.
I would agree. I've been there myself, and I've seen lots of others start out strong and then quit when they realize the cost. I mentioned before that I started getting in better shape 9 years ago, and about 3 years ago I got to a point where I was relatively pleased and decided to just maintain. I knew I could lose more and look better, but I just wasn't willing to pay the price. I knew it was going to mean working out almost every day and feeling tired and uncomfortable afterward.

I believe as human beings we base our decision on a calculation of cost vs. reward. If we believe the reward is desirable enough then we'll pay the cost of achieving it. If we don't then we won't.
- September 16th, 2009, 01:54 am
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For me it's less the pain than the fact that it's hard work overall (eating well and being disciplined enough to go to gym regularly) and that it takes SO LONG to see the kind of results that really make it all worthwhile. The ability to keep going even though progress is tortoise-slow is something I struggle with.
- September 21st, 2009, 11:37 am
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Rest assured I know what you are feeling. After losing my 100+ lbs, I started having tailbone issues only to figure out I needed to do more butt exercises. Who'd thought that I'd enjoy squats. LOL
- September 23rd, 2009, 11:51 am
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From 250 to 230, I dropped one pant size--40 to 38.
From 230 to 215 Brooks Brothers put me in size 37's. Not a standard size, but I looked at it like progress.
At 205 I wore size 36's for the first time since college.
At 195, I'm still wearing 36's...but the torso is starting to look different. There are indentations where before there were not.
At 185 or 180, my goal weight, I think I will finally see the body I set out for. Not ripped like Mr. Late Night Infomercial guy, but good enough and a lot better than my peers.

Anyhow...the most rewarding visual aspects come at the end, but enjoying the journey down to that point is important. I got a big kick out of wearing 37's, and 36's again.
- September 23rd, 2009, 12:14 pm
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RebornInFire wrote :
From 250 to 230, I dropped one pant size--40 to 38.
From 230 to 215 Brooks Brothers put me in size 37's. Not a standard size, but I looked at it like progress.
At 205 I wore size 36's for the first time since college.
At 195, I'm still wearing 36's...but the torso is starting to look different. There are indentations where before there were not.
At 185 or 180, my goal weight, I think I will finally see the body I set out for. Not ripped like Mr. Late Night Infomercial guy, but good enough and a lot better than my peers.

Anyhow...the most rewarding visual aspects come at the end, but enjoying the journey down to that point is important. I got a big kick out of wearing 37's, and 36's again.
Hey Reborn, welcome to the Group!!!

WOO HOO on your progress - and you are so right. I'm definitely enjoying being in progressively smaller pants sizes. And I'm way too fixated on the scale - I'm fitting in pants that the last time I wore, I was much lighter - the difference for me this time has really been weight training, it's tightened up my body a lot. So I'll probably be way above my weight goal at some point but I'll look how I was hoping.

At least...that's what I'm hoping!
- September 29th, 2009, 04:55 pm
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