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noseyparker wrote :

Do a search on the term scammer on the discussion boards. You will find your answer there.
Nosey's right unfortunately. Nearly all the "engineers" I've gotten matched with have been scammers.
- September 12th, 2008, 05:21 pm
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AudioDad wrote :

To me, the question would more aptly be, "Why are so many of us looking for love in cyberspace?"


so why are so many looking for love in cyberspace? (maybe I missed something along the way.. lol)
- September 13th, 2008, 03:40 am
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noseyparker wrote :

Do a search on the term scammer on the discussion boards. You will find your answer there.
Amen! I second that!
- September 13th, 2008, 10:13 am
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Nothing wrong with putting engineer down as your profession if you really are one. I'm just sayin' that a lot of scammers use that MO & you need to be aware.
- September 13th, 2008, 10:46 am
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AudioDad wrote :

JohannaBear, wrote :


Let it be said that I have personal knowledge of what an Engineer is. I have a problem believing that there are so many Engineers that are single. The occupation itselfis (or can be) quite lucrative and is a very respectable profession, given the many years of college and internship required. That statement leads me to believe thatmost Engineers are happily married and raising their children with wonderful spouses. I will agree that things happen but I cannot see where of the 37 matches I have received, 17 of them are Engineers. For all of the Engineers that are single and looking for someone special, you are being over shadowed by those who qualify themselves as being Engineers. That is a shame in my opinion because the occupation contains a very elite and respectable group of men and women. So my question, Please enlighten me on what qualification you must have to qualify yourself as an Engineer on EH.


Engineering professions can indeed be lucrative.However, unless a person is primarily focused on a potential mates' income level, there's more to the picture. I really hate stereotypes, but the 'stereotypical' view of an engineer is that of a geeky braniac with arrested social skills. That may partially explain why you see a relatively high number of engieers in your matches - they just ain't gettin dates cuz they're geeks. Aside from that, it seems it really shouldn't matter how 'elite' a person's job is as that's not necessarily an indication of the quality of their character. I know a few engineers who I wouldn't trust to give me the correct time of day. On the other hand, I know convenience store clerks whom I'd trust with my life.


As for what qualifies one to be an 'engineer'? Well, first and foremost is the training/degree. Mine is in Inustrial Engineering and thejob I currently do involves various types of engineering work. As for why I'm single, let's just say my ex found our wedding vows to be...."inconvenient." To me, the question would more aptly be, "Why are so many of us looking for love in cyberspace?"


I have to agree, it is hard in the Engineering field, the hours get crazy, work always comes home with you. There are times that you can be called out of town for lengthy times. It takes a great deal to build up your education, to get to that "lucrative pay" and the industry is always changing, espcially with everything becoming computerized. Just to learn all the available computer programs, is never ending.


It can be very straining on the relationship, whether those choose to believe it or not. What do you put first, an advancing career, or your marriage...as it sometimes seems to be. You really have to have a patient and understanding spouse. It some ways, it's caparable to having a spouse in the military.
- September 14th, 2008, 06:15 pm
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I just moved to Kansas a month ago, just spent the last week on site in Okahoma, I'll be back in Kansas City area Monday - Wednesday of this week, then spend at least a week and a half in the Wichita, KS area. Projects can require long hours of work and can be quite tedious, and the education never really ends.It can be quite difficult finding a partner that can deal with the demands and not lose interest or patience. Most engineers are by default technical people and can appreciate putting faith in technology (e.g. this site) to try to find a great match.


You're probably matched w/ a lot of engineers because you said that a partner making a decent wage was important to you, and actually match well with the characteristics of a typical engineer.
- September 21st, 2008, 03:52 am
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JohannaBear, wrote :

Let it be said that I have personal knowledge of what an Engineer is. I have a problem believing that there are so many Engineers that are single. The occupation itselfis (or can be) quite lucrative and is a very respectable profession, given the many years of college and internship required. That statement leads me to believe thatmost Engineers are happily married and raising their children with wonderful spouses. I will agree that things happen but I cannot see where of the 37 matches I have received, 17 of them are Engineers. For all of the Engineers that are single and looking for someone special, you are being over shadowed by those who qualify themselves as being Engineers. That is a shame in my opinion because the occupation contains a very elite and respectable group of men and women. So my question, Please enlighten me on what qualification you must have to qualify yourself as an Engineer on EH.
I know ONE engineer that ISN'T still 'looking"!
- September 21st, 2008, 09:39 am
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LOL! I was married to one for 15 years and found that question very funny. I will be nice and keep my comments to myself....giggling!
- November 18th, 2008, 10:48 am
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I, myself, have a software engineering background and a technical background, in general (Physics). I've been around technical men all my life. The ones I know who are married are very happily married. Those who are single seem to have a hard time settling. Perhaps, because technical types seem a bit weird to non-techies. Especially for men -- it's difficult to find women in their field. Those in their field get taken up by other technies very quickly. So the men are left to brave the world of women in humanities, education, healthand other fields that are more people oriented. Remember, techies are object and idea oriented. They're rather awkward in social situations, unless amongst fellow techies.


So, my guess is that the reason why there are so many single engineers available is because those are the ones who didn't settle early with a fellow techie type. :-)


Just my 2 cents.
- November 20th, 2008, 01:01 am
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I was actually relieved in reading the posts regarding Engineers looking for love - relieved in finding out it wasn't just me having a bad experience. I can count on both hands how many "engineers" i've been matched with who have turned out to be scammers. It is appalling to me that people think this is an OK thing to do. Their modus operandi is always very similar: either divorced or widowed, 1-2 children, travel alot, and it seems that they've all ended up traveling to Africa frequently. And being a Christian, I'm especially disappointed that they would try to use my faith to pull a scam on me. I almost completely fell for it the first time, but after that, I got wise to the signs. It's important that these guys are reported to eHarmony so they can be investigated further. Be careful and be wise when/if you decide to meet with someone.
- November 20th, 2008, 10:36 pm
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