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Hello All, my experience with the pic/no pic.. is one of ENGAGEMENT. Are you truly Engaged in this process? In my book, if their profile is filled with one liners and no pic, they just are not involved in meeting anyone. If they choose to not show a picture, they do not OWN themselves as a person.


When I first joined eH, I gave everyone a chance to respond. Now, I am much clearer in what I want, and that is a person who is READY, WILLING and ABLE to be IN a relationship. If their profile has something in it that I feel we could disccuss or create something upon, I will request a picture. However if they do not respond within a few days, they are just NOT into the process.


I am Trusting there ARE men out there who are actively engaged in finding their 'person'. I am Trusting that I will connect with some of them and truly find someone to Co-Create a beautiful partnership with.


~Nadine
- February 12th, 2009, 09:55 am
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This may sound lame, but when i was with eH I always closed anyone without a pic because I have a really hard time being mean to people. Yes, I could ask then to post one, but what then? If they really aren't anyone I could ever see myself with, then I have to close them out, and it's obvious that it's because I don't find them attractive. It would just rip my heart out to do that, so I avoided the issue by closing anyone with no picture.


Told you it sounded lame.
- February 13th, 2009, 06:57 pm
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chawks64 wrote :

This may sound lame, but when i was with eH I always closed anyone without a pic because I have a really hard time being mean to people. Yes, I could ask then to post one, but what then? If they really aren't anyone I could ever see myself with, then I have to close them out, and it's obvious that it's because I don't find them attractive. It would just rip my heart out to do that, so I avoided the issue by closing anyone with no picture.


Told you it sounded lame.
I agree, looks are important. I dont think its lame at all. Maybe a bit too honest for some
- February 17th, 2009, 02:12 pm
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I think that it's fair game to ask for a photo only if you have one posted also. we are first attracted by what we see and if i'm looking for something serious , and i think most of us are you need to be attacted by what you first see for it to go any farther then the first stages thing. most of my macthes have put up a photo once i asked for it . if not bye bye.
- February 17th, 2009, 02:47 pm
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I agree with Chawks64. I have a hard time rejecting someone after the communication process and then not liking their picture. Sometimes it is not that they are bad looking per se, but just not attractive to me. For example,Antonio Banderas or Brad Pitt do absolutely nothing for me (I know, some women are calling me crazy!), but Hugh Jackman is another story entirely. Now, obviously they are all good looking men but it is just boils down to personal preferences.


Once while on Match when I first started dating, I received some really lovely emails from a gentlemen. Nice long, but not too long and very intelligent and witty emails. We communicated for a while and then he sent me his picture. He looked exactlylike the redneck comedian Larry the Cable Guy, right down to the ripped sleeve western shirts!


And I felt bad saying "uh, never mind" (of course not in those words).


So, I was turned off of communicating with guys without pics for a while. I did have two good ones though. One was very good looking (had a brief little fling but unfortunately didn't last for long) and the other told me before he met me that he looked like Harry Anderson of the old show Night Court. And yes, he actually did! What was funny too was that I actually had a crush on Harry Anderson in that show! We had a nice date, I would have gone out with him again, but apparently the chemistry wasn't there for him but I still had a nice conversation with him.


But I think on Eharmony, I would rather not go through the whole process without getting a pic first. I have requested a couple but none have replied. A profile has to REALLY stand out for me to be interested without a picture.
- February 19th, 2009, 08:23 pm
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JETFUELMAN, wrote :

What would you do if a match did not have pic. up?Would you think there is some thing up and you you ask her to post one?
Don't be hesitant to ask for a photo. I think looks are important, to a degree; it's part of the chemistry. And it's not just men who are visual.
- February 21st, 2009, 01:14 am
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If you have a pic show it. I had to make a hard decision on 2 matches one had a pic the other one did not.I took the one with the pic. andI feel like it was the right choice.It was close for the 2 of them.I gave the one with no pic time to post one but nothing,Then i requested apic and gave here time to post agian still nothing.I felt like she was hiding some thing like it was not a femaleor someone that was from the USA and so on.


I do not care if you a knock out or a famous person.I would love to have friends like that but I would not like the cameras that would be after them if I was dating them or if was married to them.I could keep adding to each one that might be the reason why they do not post but I am going leave it at this.
- February 27th, 2009, 06:39 am
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notyet wrote :

determining what is attractive is subjective. and yes it is shallow- but unless i find you attractive and you find me attractive- it is going to be really hard to make it work. so just save us all time and post your pics already.
Thank you well said!!!
- March 8th, 2009, 08:29 am
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Hello everyone,


I feel that if I show them a picture of me then it is only fair I should see one of them. I can understand that, as was previously mentioned, some people are not photogenic, but most sensible people understand that. As they understand it will be the most flattering one you show. But at least it gives a rough idea who you are talking to.


- March 28th, 2009, 12:20 pm
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I don't have a picture posted because I'm new ,my camera was broken2 weeks ago, I bought a new one and its in Mexico with my daughter who had her camera stolen!!! I'm also trying to find out why my employer said its a security issue to have our faces on the internet.
- April 25th, 2009, 08:53 am
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