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40 Something Will someone please tell those kids in the thirty somethings group to stop partying and to please quiet down? Thank you! :P

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As a woman, I like to make the first move. It'sthe thrill of the chase for me as a women.I love to flirt & be the center of attention. I go after what I want.
- March 13th, 2009, 08:25 pm
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I love it when the guy makes the first move...call me old fashioned...LOL...But I love the chivalrous things like opening the car door, giving his coat if I am cold, etc...I am completely happy to and will absolutely show my interest back when I like the man, and will be honest if "I'm not just that in to you"....and hope that the guy would do the same...No biggie...on to the next adventure...


But for me, especially on EH, I wait until the guy has sent the initial contact...
- March 13th, 2009, 08:43 pm
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Ironically I happened to read this after meeting a terrific woman last night...not from EH though. Regardless I would have never contacted her based on her profile...she rather specifically was looking for someonewhose children were grown and gone. She however sent me a briefone sentence email....we ended up chatting a few times and thenmet for dinner last night...spent 3 hours together..hit it off well...and will be getting together again next weekend.I'm far from shy and not afraid to initiate contact...butthis would have been a missed opportunity had she not taken the initiative
- March 21st, 2009, 01:13 pm
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I definitely think men should make the first move.I've been so busy with my teaching career and my ownchildren that all of a sudden I'm 41! I'm 41 and I haven't gone out of this country. People call me mamn! I don't have any friends or social clubs. I certainly don't have any boyfriends. Honestly, it's not because I'm lazy or antisocial. It's just for the past couple of years, my life has been a whirlwind! My children are at an age now where I feel comfortable leaving them at home so I can go to a nearby watering hole. There Iobserve how adults interact. I feel awkward because I walk in alone and I feel like everyone is staring at me. I'm not about to go up to a table of people and start talking. I don't know what men are out with their friends and what men would like to talk. I don't know who is married. So,My objective for being thereis to spot out people my age and observe how they interact. I've been lucky because almost always a guy has initiated contact and I'm always gratefulbecause no matter how far over my head their experiences have been, I always learn a ton of cool things about people and life.The only problem is that expectations/assumptions have changed since I was in college. Some people are what my students call "fast." I think this is a good topic. Thanks
- March 27th, 2009, 10:02 pm
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It's me again. I wrote before I read. As far as EH and making the first move, I'm getting an inclination that I shouldn't even send an Ice Breaker! I'm the type of person that likes to stir things up. I hate stagnation. Logging on and seeing the same thing everyday is a drag so I initiate but one time I read a profile and actually got butterflies. I was so wanting to share with that person how I felt that I went ahead and "fast-tracked" an E-rated message. He closed communication the next day and I was sad for a minute. Oh well -What is it they're saying now? Oh! NEXT!
- March 27th, 2009, 10:14 pm
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As my first post to this board which, by the way I accidently found (wish they would make it more obvious!), Ihave to admit I wait for a guy to make the first move. I think it is a bit generational, as my 13 year old daughter says is 'totally stupid' not to make the first move.


I may make a bold move and try initiating the relationship. . .who knows what I may be missing . . .


- April 25th, 2009, 12:47 pm
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I had always thought men should make the first move. I braved it with 1 of my matches andintiated contact.After GC I offered my phone number and he called. Since this is turning out to be a pen pal situation, I will not intiate a date.So, in this case he has to make the next move. I'm from the old school and will not ask him out.
- April 29th, 2009, 12:26 am
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I'm new here and to eH as well. I'd like to share one of my favorite quotes with everyone. "Even if the answer is no you are no worse off than you would have been had you not asked the question."I feel bad for guys. They get shot down 99% of the time.If you want to know how it feels consider asking someoneout. You don't have to go throughwith it but at least you'll get an idea of what they go through. Having said that, I certainly prefera man to make the first move butif I recognize that he is very shy I will ask him out. If he is shocked and appaled by that he probably is not a good match for me.
- April 29th, 2009, 09:05 pm
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Personally - I think it is a mistake for a woman to make the first move - in person (especially) and even on line. Even if they do start to date - I think that one some level the guy will not fully appreciate this woman - or he will remain smug about the fact that she approached him.
My ex-boyfriend (who I recently broke up with because he was a real JERK)... was an example of a guy who was smug/pompous. He ALWAYS managed to mention that his ex-wife APPROACHED him!
I don't think that all men are jerks - but they do remember these things and I think it is important. Jleen.
- July 5th, 2009, 01:45 pm
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jayhawkgirl wrote :
Yes, I think the guy needs to make the first move. From my experience it sets the tone for the whole relationship. (Not saying this is right or that it should be this way; it'sjust how it seems to work.)
ditto!
- July 11th, 2009, 10:34 pm
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