Advice and Support from Thousands of Users Just Like You

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
SiriusBraveFan SiriusBraveFan is offline
SiriusBraveFan's Avatar

Newbie

Join Date: Jul 2009

Posts: 3

See profile

(Sorry if this ends up being a duplicate post, but didn't look like the first try worked!)

First off, I am 29 years old and one of my problems seems to be that I don't really have many guy friends. The high school/college friends are either married or it just seems I don't have much in common with them anymore..at least not enough to where we do things very often. Most of my closer friends these days are females. This just seems like a bit of a problem...maybe I just dont know how to handle it correctly..however, seems a little hard to meet someone when I'm constantly around a group of females.

This leads to my main question: when the people in this small group of friends have other plans (maybe family, or also a couple of them work on Friday and Saturday nights) and I feel like just going out somewhere...bar or whatever. Is it weird for someone to go out alone? Some people have mentioned not to do this because a guy hanging out by himself like that might appear to be a weirdo or something. I'm a pretty independent person so I don't mind doing things by myself. However, this can be a bit awkward especially since I'm pretty shy and often I won't see anyone I know when I go out places like that. What do you think? Anyone ponder this dilema?Thanks.
- July 25th, 2009, 07:30 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#1   Reply With Quote
followmesky followmesky is offline
followmesky's Avatar

followmesky likes to fly

Pacesetter

Join Date: Dec 2007

Posts: 416

See profile

for me its the other way around..
I would say, its not akward, but it can be depending where you are. hmm.. maybe not . I think you won't know until you go out on your own a couple times and see how things go. .
- July 26th, 2009, 10:47 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#2   Reply With Quote
stevex stevex is offline
stevex's Avatar

stevex Who doesn't love $5 pitcher night?

Volunteer Community Leader

Join Date: May 2009

Posts: 648

See profile

I run into the same dilemma. I can think of at least five of my guy friends who work Friday and Saturday nights, I work a Monday-Friday 8-5 job so our schedules do not align. They may have a Monday and Tuesday or Wednesday and Thursday off and go out, but if I have work the next day I am not going to drive an hour to town and go to a bar, then after drinking crash at a friend's place and have to get up at 6:30AM to get to work on time.

Alas, that leaves me with either going out alone on Friday and Saturday or not going out at all. I have gone out alone a few times and it does seem rather awkward. One of these days though I will get the guts to buy some cute lady at the bar a drink and perhaps meet someone. Till then I always end up having a few drinks and walking out alone.
- July 27th, 2009, 04:51 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#3   Reply With Quote
SiriusBraveFan SiriusBraveFan is offline
SiriusBraveFan's Avatar

Newbie

Join Date: Jul 2009

Posts: 3

See profile

Thanks for the replies. And actually Saturday night I did go out by myself and it went pretty good. It didn't really feel too awkward this time. Saw a guy I knew sitting at the bar so we were able to chit chat a bit and I also got to talking with a couple of people next to me most of the night. Didn't really speak to anyone I was "interested in" but I suppose it's good to get used to striking up conversations with people you don't know. So based on that, I think it was a successful night.
- July 27th, 2009, 06:58 am
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#4   Reply With Quote
Reply

Bookmarks

« Going out alone | Array | Long Distance Love? »
Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“Scott, I don't think eH likes the freeloaders to sneak in their alternate e-mail addresses as a way of getting around paying for their service so they deleted her profile. A lot of people probably ... ” – Gr8Guyn2008

Join the “FCW - Interesting Problem” discussion

“(Aside: could someone please define "tool" for me in the male/female relationship context? I've seen it used before here on eHA and not gotten an adequate feel for its meaning.)” – Iconography

Join the “Frustrated & Confused: Is He A Sexual Addict???” discussion

“duplicate” – Sassafras54

Join the “Why overshare?” discussion

“Why can't you talk to the girl the way you do her sister? What would be wrong with that? I'd definitely be able to talk with her this way....but I just have little opportunity to do so. We did ... ” – jayjay

Join the “Dating and insecurity” discussion

“Welcome. How does this work? - Well, you get matches and you send out requests for communication or you get requests for communication. If you are interested, you start communicating. You will get ... ” – Gr8Guyn2008

Join the “I'm New after 22 years of Marriage, Help!!!” discussion

“I received a very nice e-mail at quarter till midnight. Again expressing her interest in another meeting. Do I try calling again this evening or wait until Monday? We are both going to be gone ... ” – Gr8Guyn2008

Join the “Just got home from first date... I think it went” discussion

“That is the craziest thing I have ever heard of. Ladies I am available to take you out on any night you would like to go out. And rest assured that if we go out on a Friday or Saturday that you are ... ” – stinkerbell

Join the “Is there a difference between weekday and weekend dates?” discussion

“I wouldn't worry about "no flirting" and "not much positive body language" after just 2 dates. Some people are more demonstrative and some are more reserved. You said her eye contact was better on ... ” – Sassafras54

Join the “Third Date” discussion



All times are GMT -7. The time now is 09:16 am.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.1
Copyright ©2000 - 2009, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.3.0