inn is offline inn Post #51  March 2,2009, 8:12pm
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I've been with EH for2 weeks now. 100 are closed. Not one has intiated communications (excluding the ones who were 20yrs older than me). I've intiated all communications only one wrote back. Come to find out he left out a lot of stuff from his profile, so I closed him too.


I changed my profile many times. I now have taken out who I really am. I now look like plain Jane and am getting fewer matches per day.


What do I do now? How are these matches generated? I state that I don't want any hunters, and I get hunters. I'm guessing this works a lot like getting your resume scanned. yeah, that's it.
 
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i have a lot of closed matches, its very hard to fine a speacial person.
 
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neardc is offline neardc Post #53  March 2,2009, 11:51pm
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inn,513324 wrote :

What do I do now? How are these matches generated? I state that I don't want any hunters, and I get hunters. I'm guessing this works a lot like getting your resume scanned. yeah, that's it.
You are matched by a computer based on your responses to the questions on the very long questionnaire you completed when you signed up. Those are scored into 29 dimensions identified by eH as being important for compatability. What you have in your online profile isn't considered at all in generating your matches.


Alas, none of the 29 dimensionshas to do with hunting, so you have to screen for that yourself when you review profiles or communicate with a match.
 
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inn is offline inn Post #54  March 3,2009, 10:08pm
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neardc, thanks for clarifying.


I'm at a point where I'll take anybody!
 
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rninerie,508860 wrote :

Over a period of approx 6 months I have 1125 closed matches. I subscribed for a year (which mercifully is up in two weeks) but took breaks during that time, thus the six month total.


Would I join again? Never. The majority (more than 90%) never even viewed my profile, including themen I sent an initial communication to.


I feel eHarmony throws in so many non-paying, non-active members, the policy should be investigated by some sort of watch dog group. It does not seem to be a fair practice at all.


The only good thing that came out of mymembership was that I found the Advice boards, which I really enjoy reading from time to time. Otherwise, it was a waste of my hard earned money & I would not recommend eHarmony to anyone.
No way I would re-subscribe. I have 2200+ closed, although I wasn't on here as long as the others who seem to have that many.


EH moderators are reading this thread. If they wanted to falsify our suspicions, they could post the ratio of subscribing to non-subscribing members online over some time period (last year, e.g.). Or they could give us the bare numbers. But they won't. And that's because I would bet that the number of non-subscribers is north of 50%, and probably far north of there.


I've got better things to do with my time.
 
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Do men have more choices than women on here, you think? I wonder what the numbers are men vs. women Eharm members.
 
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I've been a member almost a month and have no communication from anyone other than him closing me out. It's enough to make me hate myself.
 
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aqua323,515548 wrote :

Do men have more choices than women on here, you think? I wonder what the numbers are men vs. women Eharm members.
Some of the advertising to men indicates that women subscribe in greater numbers, maybe 2:1 or something.
 
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I close all matches within 3 days of receiving them if the man has not sent an ice breaker/communication. I figure, if a man is interestedin a woman, hewill send a communication right away so maybe that's some of your issues. If you are interested in the woman...jump on-it! Don't wait for her to go first. AND check your matches every other day or so!
 
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