Firefightermedic32 is offline Firefightermedic32 Post #11  September 2,2008, 7:37am
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And I thought I was speical at 908 closed matches in 7 months, with only 3 making it to open comm. Currently only talking to one.
 
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ScottK is offline ScottK Post #12  September 2,2008, 8:48am
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I am at 1000+ Closes in about 8 months of time here.


I am too lazy to go through and give exact counts of "Closed by Me", versus "Closed by Them", versus "Closed because of no response".


I would guess its probably 40%, 40% and 20%.


BTW, my distance is set to 60miles, and "Very Important" as well as Age set to "Very Important. Most of the other "Flex filters" are set to "Not Important".
 
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MazarineSunset,241556 wrote :
vanessam,241513 wrote :

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I created a profile back in Jan and didn't 'join' at that time.* I knew the relationship I was in was not going to work out, and was looking over the site back then.* AFter a few months on my own, I actually joined eH in July, and have since had 84 closed matches - some I closed, some closed by the*guys.**


Only ONE i have sent communications to has responded, and apparently he only checks the site every week or so. or maybe he's just not that interested?


It IS very discouraging.* I'm not looking for miracles, but a conversation would be nice - is that too much to ask?


I suspect that much of the problem is people* just like me, back in January - they surf the site and creat a profile, don't really join - and they never come back for months. or ever.*


In a way, you can tell these people somewhat by their not positing any photos (am I right that you can't post photos unless you pay?)


I wish eH would post as part of a profile whether that the person IS actually a member, also the length of their membership, and kind of a rating of their activity - like the boards post how many posts you have made.* It would give members a better way to guage whether it was ME they were rejecting, or the system.*


For me, it would help me feel less discouraged, if I knew who was and wasn't really looking and active.* As it is now, I'm seriously thinking of cancelling the rest of my time, as this is depressing me more.
I couldn't agree more. I also find it just fair to mark the free trial as such so you don't presume that the other ignores your wish for communication. Only have I been much less patient than some of you with 873 closed matches since end of April. I do close my matches without requesting when they don't have a photo posted. It's a serious matter for me to find a partner and I will not waste my time with peoples that are not willing to make the same investments as me. my subscription will expire in ten days. I've made it to open communication only with four matches. The first one called it quits due to family issue's but kept a lose contact. That was very sad for me, as I was very interested. The next candidate was a closed match of mine that added a picture later, asked for re-opening and then decided to close the match with indication 'other'which I always find rude and disappointing. The second was overly romantic but it didn't go nowhere- it was all in the poetry. The third and the fourth cancelled our first date twice after a long exchange of phone calls or mails and I'm still in contact with one. Since yesterday I have reached open communication with N°5 so far - five out of around 900 by the end of my subscription. You need to be pretty disciplined to get through the jungle. good luck to yo'all
 
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Son is offline Son Post #14  September 2,2008, 11:35am
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I have had 110 closed matches in less than a week. 2 very great guys though
 
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LonelyStarState is offline LonelyStarState Post #15  September 11,2008, 12:10pm

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in 6 months:


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BILLGOLF is offline BILLGOLF Post #16  September 11,2008, 2:36pm
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In about 2 years total time, with several breaks up to my subscription expiring Sep 8, 2008:


3732 matches , about 40 reaching OC, about 20one dates, 5 two dates, one intimate relationship of 4 months, one relationship of two months that did not progress past kissing.


I thought I would become a member ofthe EH 4000 Club but just had enough frustation before reaching that milestone(millstone?)


I find the forums are fun and interesting. Billgolf
 
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monkeyscribbles is offline monkeyscribbles Post #17  September 11,2008, 5:35pm

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Not even a month = 267 closed matches.
 
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lacedwithhope is offline lacedwithhope — Advice Member-Moderator Post #18  September 11,2008, 6:04pm
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Wow. These stats are really daunting. But then again, it only takes one... [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-undecided.gif[/img]
 
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MazarineSunset,241556 wrote :

vanessam,241513 wrote :


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I created a profile back in Jan and didn't 'join' at that time. I knew the relationship I was in was not going to work out, and was looking over the site back then. AFter a few months on my own, I actually joined eH in July, and have since had 84 closed matches - some I closed, some closed by theguys.


Only ONE i have sent communications to has responded, and apparently he only checks the site every week or so. or maybe he's just not that interested?


It IS very discouraging. I'm not looking for miracles, but a conversation would be nice - is that too much to ask?


I suspect that much of the problem is people just like me, back in January - they surf the site and creat a profile, don't really join - and they never come back for months. or ever.


In a way, you can tell these people somewhat by their not positing any photos (am I right that you can't post photos unless you pay?)


I wish eH would post as part of a profile whether that the person IS actually a member, also the length of their membership, and kind of a rating of their activity - like the boards post how many posts you have made. It would give members a better way to guage whether it was ME they were rejecting, or the system.


For me, it would help me feel less discouraged, if I knew who was and wasn't really looking and active. As it is now, I'm seriously thinking of cancelling the rest of my time, as this is depressing me more.
I am not a paying member but I can post photos. I am not able to send or read my matches' communications though
 
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lifeztooshrt is offline lifeztooshrt Post #20  September 12,2008, 1:50pm
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Wow - this makes me feel so much better - I've been in maybe 4 months and have 509 closed matches!
 
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