EH, How Long Were You A Member Before You Threw In the Towel?

0, went through that whole quesstionarrie and I was deemed "unmatchable" (i.e. you're going to be alone your whole life) so here i am

wow! I've never heard of that! maybe you stated somewhere that you were separated, and not divorced yet? Try one of the online Meyer-Briggs test (that is what this stuff is based on); how do you place on those parameters? some combinations are rare, like 3-05% of the general population, but still, there is not an infinite number of combinations.

Unlike a lot of the posts here, I can't say that I am disappointed with EH at all.


I have been on for about 9 months now, and although I have not met "The One", EH *HAS*matchedme with plenty of paying Matches, and a number of dates as well.


None of the Matches have worked out so far, but thats not EH's fault by any means. They can only get us initially connected, everything else has to be chemistry and a "click" between both sides.


If you do join, a few suggestions I can offer.


1) Post your Photo. Don't play games with hiding it. A lot of us here simply Close those matches out without even bothering to read their Profile.


2) Put some actual thought into your Profile page. Answer the questions to show us your personality! You should not harp on one thing over and over. If you have kids, don't mention them 10 times in the Profile. If you are religious, don't mention God 10 times in the Profile either. Let us get a glimpse into "who" you are, on that first page. What makes you tick? Get our interest! Heck, there areMatches that I have "initiated" contact with specifically to tell them how *GREAT* I thought their Profile was!


3) Be liberal with your "Flex" settings. The more open you are, the more matches you will get. Remember, they still match against the 29 dimensions, even when you tune those settings down.


For instance, I have all mine tuned down to "Not Important" except Smoking (I am allergic), Distance (Not a fan of ld relationships), and age, (I want kids, so I really do need to pay attention to age).


4) Keep an eye out for the "3 months for the price of 1 deals". With that, it ends up being about 20 bucks a month. Thats practically nothing. Its less than a half a tank of gas for me.


Good Luck!

EXCELLENT question!


I've used EH off and on for a few years, sometimes subscribing for just a month and once before for a whole year. As I posted elsewhere, I just rejoined after taking a break from dating for about a year and a half. So far, the onlyguys who have initiated communication with me have been scammers. They all live in America (albeit on the West Coast) but are working on oil rigs off the coast of the UK. Hmmm.... One already hit me up for money and their IM's are all full of romantic drivel. It's making me sick.


I NEVER had that problem before. In fact, I met and communicated with several fine men through EH. Now that the membership has gone up, the quality seems to have gone down DRAMATICALLY.


I just signed up for a year, but am seriously thinking of cancelling my subscription pronto. In light of the weirdos/scammers contacting me and the fact that I only got one request for communication in the year and half that I was inactive (I didn't know they could still contact me even if I wasn't an active member), it doesn't look good. I have a hard time justifying the cost of membership with such dismal results.


I know it's not EH's fault that scammers are creating fake profiles, but neither do I have to pay for such a service. I'm more than a little ticked off about it. I've never had such a negative experience with EH before.


Sorry to hijack your thread SaraChild, but if anybody has any advice about whether I should cancel, I'd like to hear it.


Michelle

Central. Lots of flooding in a lot of places, still some pretty bad areas.

Congrats reddragonfly and AnEarForYou and the other successful folks!!


My experience hasn't been as great, with 8 that eHarmony closed, but thankfully I found these boards when I was very discouraged about the whole process. I've been reading here since June but haven't posted much but will try to overcome my hesitancy. There seem to be some really nice folks here, and thank you all for your encouragement.

I've been with EH for almost two weeks. Lots of matches but no one interested in me. I usually iniciate the communication but they don't respond. I'm also with Chemistry.com and got a few matches there and almost got one date.It was my first date after many years, so Iactually got scared and told the guy that I was busy and could not meet. Now I feel guilty. Some people like me are not ready to go into aromantic relationship right away. We forget that this is a dating site and not a place to make friends.