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Lily13 wrote :

I would like to know more about the comment made concerning some viewers not being registered and unable to communicate.
EH allows for people to get accounts and see who they match with for free. So the issue that brings to the table is the paying accounts get flooded with the nonpaying matches. A nonpaying match has no ability to communicate in any way other then a few free Icebreakers.


hope that helps
- August 16th, 2008, 08:16 pm
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Just wondering. I bet this topic has been covered a million times. I have 14 matches open right now but none of them have started a conversation. Are they not interested or shy? Is it ok for the woman to start a conversation?


I am new as well, and don't plan on initiating a conversation. If someone is interested, they will. If not, initiation from me will not make a difference.


Ummm, what if your match is thinking the exact same thing?
it doesnt make a difference. i am the woman and nobody initates communication with me. if i bother to initate they dont bother to reply anyways,. i guess i am not the movie star they were looking for. wtf everf.
- August 16th, 2008, 08:43 pm
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Rutujit wrote :

Lily13 wrote :


I would like to know more about the comment made concerning some viewers not being registered and unable to communicate.


EH allows for people to get accounts and see who they match with for free. So the issue that brings to the table is the paying accounts get flooded with the nonpaying matches. A nonpaying match has no ability to communicate in any way other then a few free Icebreakers.


hope that helps
seems like it would better if they did not send us matches for people who can not respond- or atleast tell us they can not respond-- seems strange-- if they have viewed us and do not respond can we assume they are paying but just not interested??
- August 16th, 2008, 09:17 pm
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Funny I was just posting a comment and all of a sudden an Einstein Quiz drops in front of me.


One of matches had 6 photos, all with guns, guns all over his fireplace, one he is kneeling down with his dog and of course, the gun, "so and so and myself are going to catch some varmints. Did I ever say I was a gun lover. I hate guns and I do not belong to the NRA buddy, I am Canadian. Another states he never drinks with bottle in hand and table covered with bottles. He was alone, so I assume they were his.


Some are decent gentlement, I am sure, but they never get back to you. I also have noticed that I am getting repeat matches. Ones I turned down 3-4 months ago. You figure.
- August 16th, 2008, 09:21 pm
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smichal, wrote :

Just wondering.* I bet this topic has been covered a million times.* I have 14 matches open right now but none of them have started a conversation.* Are they not interested or shy?* Is it ok for the woman to start a conversation?
Sure, why not? I felt weird about it at first but went ahead and started communication with someone. We're getting married in a month!
- September 4th, 2008, 12:51 pm
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I hope EH can feel the frustration from some of us. I am relatively new... only a month here and I have NEVER had any communication opened. I have had a few matches close saying "physical distance is too great", but I have a suspicion that the rest are not even living breathing human beings. Yes, I have initiated communication... but no response... ever.





*hits head against wall*
- September 4th, 2008, 01:01 pm
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I have had over 10 matches and waited for five months for a response and recieved none. I have taken the thought, that the match is unable to response due to not paying the fee or not interested in responsing.


Close the match if they don't response within your reasonable timeline. I have closed those matches. I believe that a person on eharmony is looking for a serious relationship and will response within a month. If they don't response within that month from I close the match. Why waste time and energy on someone who can't make up their minds.
- September 4th, 2008, 01:01 pm
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Don't worry about it and don't overthink it. If you're interested...initiate. Chances are small that anything will come of any one match or initiated communication...but that's the nature of the process. You'll either be ok with this....or you'll get off the site before long. Good luck.
- September 4th, 2008, 01:05 pm
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smichal, wrote :

Just wondering. I bet this topic has been covered a million times. I have 14 matches open right now but none of them have started a conversation. Are they not interested or shy? Is it ok for the woman to start a conversation?
Of course it's okay for the lady to initiate conversation! If you are interested, don't be shy. You will never win if you don't try. You will never know if you don't ask.The squeaky wheel gets the oil. All are cliches, but theyapply to this concept also. There are more women than men in the world. If we want to get recognition, sometimes we have to initiate putting the spotlight on us. Separate yourself from the crowd! Take a breath and jump right in! The water is fine!
- September 4th, 2008, 01:08 pm
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Radtech wrote :

Rutujit wrote :


Lily13 wrote :


I would like to know more about the comment made concerning some viewers not being registered and unable to communicate.


EH allows for people to get accounts and see who they match with for free. So the issue that brings to the table is the paying accounts get flooded with the nonpaying matches. A nonpaying match has no ability to communicate in any way other then a few free Icebreakers.


hope that helps


seems like it would better if they did not send us matches for people who can not respond- or atleast tell us they can not respond-- seems strange-- if they have viewed us and do not respond can we assume they are paying but just not interested??
I agree with you whole heartly.. There are alot of matches that don't pay the fee;therefore, they get matched, but can't reply. I have been with EH for over 1 year and all the matches I have had in the past year doesn't response in a timely matter and I know have a three week rule no response I delete, and if you have over amount of matches EH doesn't even try to match you anymore.
- September 4th, 2008, 01:10 pm
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