Are you receiving matches that you think are really a match for you?

I am vibrant and have a lot of energy, so typically someone my age or a little younger, couple of years older seems to be well-suited for me. I am not looking for a Daddy at all.........

I'm just getting back onto eH so it remains to be seen. But I understand what you're saying. My issue is height. I can't tell you how many men under 5'8" I was sent whenpreferences stated 5'10" - 6'3" and it was extremely important. That really frustrated me before and I hope things are better this time around. Isuppose they feel the eH profile should win out but I still have a strong preference when it comes to the physical side.


I guess the burden is on our side to weed out the "misfits".

I look over these boards and read the women complaints. The fact is that American women want A God and anyone not meeting their standards, is closed out. I know many great single men with high incomes and difficulty finding women. They are not fat, but average looking. Women can't stand men that don't spell well, when they themselves can't either. They want men with great looks, when they are average looking. They want men they will completely click with them in seconds. I have traveled to 36 countries and I must say women in other places are far less demanding. I would urge you gals to travel to another country and experience life there. Your eyes will truly be opened then. The most important thing is too look is a "Good" man that will treat well and love you.

I have been a member of eH for about a month. For a variety of reasons, I have usually dated men younger than me (nothing major - just 4-8 years younger usually). I was shocked at how many of my matches were much older than me - going up to 14 years older at a time in their life when they are busy with grandchildren, looking forward to retirement, etc. These sort of life events are nowhere on my horizon. I have very little in common with these men, and I am sure that there is not much in my profile that would attract them either.





I reset my age parameters to go further down in age, in hopes of getting more matches. I am not seeking men THAT much younger, and truthfully would be happy to be matches with men my age or a few years older.





I worry that men my age are getting matched with women 14 years their junior. So men in their mid 40's are getting matched with women in their early 30's. So I have little in common with the older men, and the men my age probably prefer to be with "trophy" girlfriends.





Since I am 5'9" I prefer taller men, although I certainly will not automatically "close" an interesting man who is not as tall as I would like. I am sure that many men automatically "close" me due to my height if they themselves are shorter or simply because they are not attracted to tall women in general.





Speaking of height, for those women like me who are matched to men in their 50's and 60's, pleae keep in mind that people shrink as they age and often times the height they state is from 20 or 30 years ago.





Do I somehow curse myself? It seems that the profiles that I am most attracted to (and this can just be in the email notification stage before I even look at the complete profile and photos) are from the men that close me out immediately! Most of the time these profiles are from men who are about my age, so I wonder if they close me out right away just because they have gotten so many matches with women that are a decade or two younger??