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theschu, wrote :

I'm a Christian guy that's waiting until marriage...
I hope you at least make sure to get your potassium.
- August 12th, 2008, 02:10 pm
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lada wrote :

"I'm a Christian guy that's waiting until marriage and I'm looking for a woman that's on the same page (past mistakes not taken into consideration). "


not give any consideration? You gonna require documentation of hymen in situ?
Lada, I thought he meant the opposite. I think he is saying it will be acceptable to him if the girl may have messed up the virginity thing already, but wants to wait for marriage before doing it again. I think he needs to clarify though, to us, and the people he approaches with this.
- August 12th, 2008, 03:06 pm
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Sorry, yes, I'm much more concerned with a woman's current thoughts/actions than the past. After all, we've ALL done things we're not proud of.
- August 12th, 2008, 03:14 pm
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Definitely important to clarify exactly what you are looking for (and where the lines are that you don't want to cross).


BTW, there are a number of groups on eH Advice for folks who think along the same lines, so you should be able to find some like-minded people here to share experiences with, discuss issues, etc. (take a look at the groups that japaneseblueeyes belongs to and you should be able to find all/most of them).


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- August 12th, 2008, 03:50 pm
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I've had a few matches send me a question with my views on premarital sex in the guided questions. Most of those were asking for the opposite reason and had repeatedly on their profile how sex was one of their favorite things...must have inany relationship etc...so I closed them.


I think that type of question you have to be careful about how you ask it as it can come off as either an expectation that you want sex right away or that you want to wait until it means more than just a physical act. To me the waiting is a plus as my own beliefs are that sex is designed for marriage or a commited relationship that is close to that point.


It is one of those "deal breakers" though...and for good reason...as if you really want to wait until marriage...you don't want a tease who has a goal simply to get you into bed with no strings attached. I would suggest being honest when the subject or situation comes up...or it feels the right time to state your feelings on sex. The right woman for you will be one with similar expectations at this point in her life including waiting until marrriage or who has had sex and now wants to wait.
- August 12th, 2008, 05:31 pm
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neardc wrote :

Definitely important to clarify exactly what you are looking for (and where the lines are that you don't want to cross).


BTW, there are a number of groups on eH Advice for folks who think along the same lines, so you should be able to find some like-minded people here to share experiences with, discuss issues, etc. (take a look at the groups that japaneseblueeyes belongs to and you should be able to find all/most of them).


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- August 12th, 2008, 08:59 pm
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Perhaps a bit of both
- August 12th, 2008, 09:15 pm
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JBE, meet theschu.


theschu, meet JBE.


A bientot mes amis.





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- August 13th, 2008, 08:44 am
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Obviously this is a legitimate question, or it probably wouldn't be an option--in our society being promiscuous or waiting for marriage really are important aspects of a relationship. If you value the importance of not having premarital sex, then I'd hope that you'd expect your "mate" to have the same value. If a match doesn't appreciate that value and closes communication (or whatever) then you were probably finished talking anyway, right?


Main point: don't sweat it. When you've found a good match, she won't mind the questions you ask.
- August 13th, 2008, 11:51 am
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noseyparker wrote :

JBE, meet theschu.


theschu, meet JBE.


A bientot mes amis.





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Merci beaucoup!
- August 16th, 2008, 05:41 pm
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