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How many people do you keep in Open Communication at one time. Right now I have 6 different people in OC and 6 other people in various stages of communication in my matches. They are all so different and I like them all for different reasons. So I would hate to close any of them out yet since don't know if any of them are the right match for me yet.


Have been on eharmony for 2 month now and have one more month that I have paid for.
- July 24th, 2008, 05:06 am
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colday, wrote :

How many people do you keep in Open Communication at one time. Right now I have 6 different people in OC and 6 other people in various stages of communication in my matches. They are all so different and I like them all for different reasons. So I would hate to close any of them out yet since don't know if any of them are the right match for me yet.


Have been on eharmony for 2 month now and have one more month that I have paid for.
As many as you can keep straight without calling them by the wrong name! Some people only like to communicate with one person at a time but I think you risk being closed out by someone really good if you don't communicate with everyone you possibly can. And if they overlap, just keep a spreadsheet to keep them straight.
- July 24th, 2008, 06:31 am
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I agree with Atlantagal. Keep communicating with all of them until it no longer feels right. It's just like 'real life' when you meet people. You may have a connection at first, butwhen the connectionfades, you move on. Frankly, you should consider yourself fortunate to have so many in OC. I've read posts from some on here who have been on eHarmony for many months and not had any even get to OC.
- July 24th, 2008, 06:46 am
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At one point I had 21 matches in OC plus several in phone contact. I used to work as an account manager, so I used the skills from that job. With many on the phone though, I wrote a lot of notes, and I'm pleased none of them found out.

A dozen or two in OC is very easily manageable, because I can almost read all communications in one webpage, and I don't need a split-second reply. On the phone it is different.
- July 24th, 2008, 07:11 am
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I think that after about a week in OC it's time for the telephone and another week it's time to meet. So for me, 6 in OC worked out to be the maximum. I usually had about 10 more in earlier stages of communicationand I tried to regulate the speed and timing of progress to OC without leaving them hang in limbo more than a few days at a time. At one point I had over 20 in various stages of communication and it became overwhelming so I turned off the matching for awhile.


My eH dating experience progressed into the fast lane almost right away, and for almost two months it seemed I always had two or three dates scheduled at any given time and that was about the maximum for that too.
- July 24th, 2008, 08:08 am
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