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Tina08 wrote :

I believe eHarmony matching system does work and that the men I was matched with were very similar to me. But one man stood out from the rest and now after dating for 2 months, I feel that I have met the love of my life. He and I are exactly alike. He is like the male version of me and our interests complement each other. Our personality profiles are are a match. We love spending time together and doing the same things. We approach things the same way and think alike. I can honestly say he has every quality I am looking for in a man and there is nothing that he says or does which bothers me. We can talk to each other about whatever is on our minds and not worry about being judged or analyzed because we have the same values and interests. For the first time in my life, I really can see myself getting married and want to have a child with this man. He says he feels the same way about me and we both agree that we feel we are so lucky and happy to have met each other online on eHarmony.

What is eHarmony paying you to say this?
- July 23rd, 2008, 12:47 pm
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I usually get one match each week that I am very interested in, but they never seem to be interested in me. They either don't communicate, or they close because of "other" or "based on statements in their profile."


This is strange because the ones I am interested in seem to be very similar in terms of their "about me" profiles. The say similar things about themselves, and I find that, when I change some minor thing in my profile, I will get a match a few days later that says the same thing. So, I don't know if eH relies more on what is said in our profiles or on matching the 29 whathaveyous.
- July 23rd, 2008, 12:57 pm
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No, eHarmony is not paying me to say this. Honestly, I compared ourpersonality profilesand they are the same. Our backgrounds, education, valuesare the same. We are at the same point in our careers and life. He really is the male version of me and I am the female version of him. He is also very good looking, sexy, highly educated and successful. He feels the same way about me. Neither of us have been married or have children but want both. He is 39 and I am 38.


I was on eHarmony for only2.5 monthsand I have been matched with over 300 men. He was on it almost a year and matched with over 1000 women. He said he was ready to give up but decided to check out his matches one final time. I glad he did before his membership ran out or else we may never have met.


Also,we had both been onLavalife dating site beforejoining eHarmony and never met that way. I also tried Plenty of Fish. He had been on and off the other dating sitefor a couple of years and did not meet anyone he really liked. I found that the highest quality of matches for me were on eHarmony. There were several menwho really stood out, but my boyfriend really was the total package!


Therefore, don't give up! There is someone out there for you. You may be lucky like myself and meetquickly on eHarmony.Orit may take you a year. But I really do believe that the eHarmony question process does weed out the unsuitable people and is a lot better than the other dating sites.


- July 23rd, 2008, 01:28 pm
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Tina08 wrote :

No, eHarmony is not paying me to say this. Honestly, I compared ourpersonality profilesand they are the same. Our backgrounds, education, valuesare the same. We are at the same point in our careers and life. He really is the male version of me and I am the female version of him. He is also very good looking, sexy, highly educated and successful. He feels the same way about me. Neither of us have been married or have children but want both. He is 39 and I am 38.


I was on eHarmony for only2.5 monthsand I have been matched with over 300 men. He was on it almost a year and matched with over 1000 women. He said he was ready to give up but decided to check out his matches one final time. I glad he did before his membership ran out or else we may never have met.


Also,we had both been onLavalife dating site beforejoining eHarmony and never met that way. I also tried Plenty of Fish. He had been on and off the other dating sitefor a couple of years and did not meet anyone he really liked. I found that the highest quality of matches for me were on eHarmony. There were several menwho really stood out, but my boyfriend really was the total package!


Therefore, don't give up! There is someone out there for you. You may be lucky like myself and meetquickly on eHarmony.Orit may take you a year. But I really do believe that the eHarmony question process does weed out the unsuitable people and is a lot better than the other dating sites.

Tina, does he have any brothers?


Seriously, I'm very glad to hear of your success! You should be in an eH commercial.
- July 23rd, 2008, 01:38 pm
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I usually get one match each week that I am very interested in, but they never seem to be interested in me. They either don't communicate, or they close because of "other" or "based on statements in their profile."


This is strange because the ones I am interested in seem to be very similar in terms of their "about me" profiles. The say similar things about themselves, and I find that, when I change some minor thing in my profile, I will get a match a few days later that says the same thing. So, I don't know if eH relies more on what is said in our profiles or on matching the 29 whathaveyous.
Check out eHarmony's advice about what to write about in your profile.


I definitely looked closely at what my matches wrote in their profiles. I also looked at their picture too. The picture you post is great, you lookhandsome. So it must be something you have written in your profile which is causing the women to close you early. Maybe it is something that you need not reveal until you get to know a person better or maybethere is someunintentional meaning to something you wrote.


Definitely ask a close women friend / relativeor two to review your profile and ask them fortheir opinion. Maybe you have forgotten to include some very important details of yourself which other women find very attractive. A woman's perspective will help.
- July 23rd, 2008, 02:10 pm
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I usually get one match each week that I am very interested in, but they never seem to be interested in me. They either don't communicate, or they close because of "other" or "based on statements in their profile."


This is strange because the ones I am interested in seem to be very similar in terms of their "about me" profiles. The say similar things about themselves, and I find that, when I change some minor thing in my profile, I will get a match a few days later that says the same thing. So, I don't know if eH relies more on what is said in our profiles or on matching the 29 whathaveyous.


Check out eHarmony's advice about what to write about in your profile.


I definitely looked closely at what my matches wrote in their profiles. I also looked at their picture too. The picture you post is great, you look handsome. So it must be something you have written in your profile which is causing the women to close you early. Maybe it is something that you need not reveal until you get to know a person better or maybe there is some unintentional meaning to something you wrote.


Definitely ask a close women friend / relative or two to review your profile and ask them for their opinion. Maybe you have forgotten to include some very important details of yourself which other women find very attractive. A woman's perspective will help.
Thanks for the complement on my picture!


I made some changes to my profile a couple days ago in order to add some humor. Maybe some of my matches are not getting the humor. For one of my "five things I can't live without" I wrote: YOU, nah, just kidding! I haven't met YOU yet!


Maybe they took that the wrong way, in which case they don't have a sense of humor.
- July 23rd, 2008, 02:33 pm
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...For one of my "five things I can't live without" I wrote: YOU, nah, just kidding! I haven't met YOU yet!


Maybe they took that the wrong way, in which case they don't have a sense of humor.
Exactly. Even if she doesn't think its funny, you don't come across as uptight and insecure. I think you have the right attitude.
- July 23rd, 2008, 03:58 pm
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I thought it was funny, EEDr. I am tired of the profiles eH sends me - most of them show no sign of a sense of humor. I'm happy for Tina, butI have not been impressed with the quality of matches at all. Of course, she's younger than I, and had more to choose from.
- July 23rd, 2008, 07:56 pm
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