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It seems like rating your matches helps.


I would prefer a tee-shirt that said "INTJ, but I don't want to talk about it".
- July 22nd, 2008, 08:01 pm
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hog_fan_arkansas wrote :

It seems like rating your matches helps.


I would prefer a tee-shirt that said "INTJ, but I don't want to talk about it".
That is too, too funny!
- July 22nd, 2008, 08:17 pm
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hog_fan_arkansas wrote :

It seems like rating your matches helps.


I would prefer a tee-shirt that said "INTJ, but I don't want to talk about it".
LOL!! I've dated several INTJ's(and was married to one). That is so on target!
- July 22nd, 2008, 08:49 pm
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For me, my matches almost always seem to be the opposite of me in one aspect or another.


I know I am a "weird" one, when it comes to politics and religion. I am Conservative, but not Religious. Apparently its very difficult to find matches for me that are the same....


Either I get matched up with Conservative "Bible Bangers", or I get matched up with Liberal "New Age" women.


Oddly enough, neither types of matches bother me at all, (I like the debate and banter that it generates), but it DEFINITELY really bothers my Matches.


- July 22nd, 2008, 08:59 pm
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We have the opposite position and it leads to the same problem on eH, Scott. I am liberal and religious; and keep getting matched with conservative Christians. Ain't gonna work...........
- July 22nd, 2008, 09:09 pm
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Now you two raise an interesting point. Why do manypeople feel the need to assign a "type" to everyone they meet?


It really isn't that shocking or hard to grasp that someone can be conservative yet not religious, or religious and liberal.


Ah, but that's another post entirely.
- July 22nd, 2008, 09:22 pm
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My ex and I were so opposite it wasn't even funny. She's materialistic, I'm practical. She's spends like crazy, I don't. She's the "cool kid", I'm the geek. She cares about social standing, I don't. She's into pop culture, I'm not. on and on and on.


Yet, we lasted a year and a half. The relationship was doomed, but during the relationship, we were happy. We never fought, we co-existed well. We just didnt' progress after a certain point due to our differences. Even though we were matched and we gave it a shot, I wouldn't have changed it for the world. She is now one of my closest friends.
- July 22nd, 2008, 10:05 pm
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eHarmony uses an algorithm on the personal qualities that complement each other and others that match each other. If you're withing a certain acceptable standard deviation for the qualities in the questionaire, the match is in -- preliminarily.


Then, you limit the rest. Age, location, race, drinking, smoking, presence of children, etc. are all ways we get to choose. That simply narrows the pool of the matches that eHarmony says are a go for you. As more people join, the system will determine if they are within an acceptable standard deviation for you.


Here's a hint: redo your personality profile. Only this time -- answer the questions as if they are yes or no statements when they ask for ratings. Don't fill in with shades of gray. Just think "agree" or "disagree". I did this and my matches have been tremendous ever since. I don't necessarily get everything I want in every match; but, I have noticed that my matches have more shared values, interests, energy levels, sex drive, etc. ever since I tried filling out the profile this way about a month and a half ago. It's made the process a lot more rewarding.


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- July 22nd, 2008, 11:41 pm
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I just got an email from eH with the subject line: "Meet Fred -- Someone that will make you smile." Until eH learns some rules of grammar ("who," not "that" when referring to people for goodness sake!) I am going to have a hard time trusting their matching system...lol (more importantly, Fred's values appear to be very different from mine, so it's hard to tell why the heck we got matched...)
- July 23rd, 2008, 09:00 am
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foucaultian wrote :

eHarmony uses an algorithm on the personal qualities that complement each other and others that match each other. If you're withing a certain acceptable standard deviation for the qualities in the questionaire, the match is in -- preliminarily.


Then, you limit the rest. Age, location, race, drinking, smoking, presence of children, etc. are all ways we get to choose. That simply narrows the pool of the matches that eHarmony says are a go for you. As more people join, the system will determine if they are within an acceptable standard deviation for you.


Here's a hint: redo your personality profile. Only this time -- answer the questions as if they are yes or no statements when they ask for ratings. Don't fill in with shades of gray. Just think "agree" or "disagree". I did this and my matches have been tremendous ever since. I don't necessarily get everything I want in every match; but, I have noticed that my matches have more shared values, interests, energy levels, sex drive, etc. ever since I tried filling out the profile this way about a month and a half ago. It's made the process a lot more rewarding.


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How exactly do you get to take the personality profile over again? eHarmony is quite adamant about not allowing you to retake it. Of course this is all a little late for me since their total lack of matches means they have already gotten enough of my money.
- July 23rd, 2008, 09:25 am
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